Emergency regarding Threeway with couple I don't really know.

Hello readers, I am in a predicament where I met a couple online that wants me to meet up with them at their house for fun that includes "standard" sex and a threesome. Would this be safe to do or am I fool? I have exchanged multiple picks via email of the two and they seem real enough. I don't have experience with random hook ups such as this, so any advice may help. They are wanting to meet this weekend (jan 21-23), not sure when exactly though. And yeah this is my first post. I couldn't and wouldn't ever post until now for fear of what to say, but some of you seem pretty well into this kinda thing and I need help. Thanks to whoever helps me. oh and I'm a guy btw.

 

did you find them on craigslist? chances are both of them are dudes

meet in a public place first, during the day. only drink water so you can easily tell if somethings in it. yaknow, standard rape/murder prevention stuff

 

yeah i did and i know that's scummy of me. i could do a lot better i'm sure but how could i pass up the opportunity. but thanks for the tip.

 

I agree, meet them somewhere public first - and if you've seen pics of them both then that'llconfirm them. But there can always be a risk of weidos, if your gut feeling and email talk has seemed ok then I'd go for it, just stay cool and note the exits.

from the pics you don't say if it's a couple of two other guys?

Simon

 

Oh it's a couple, one male one female. I'm mainly looking for fun with the female, she's really attractive and down for a lot. That's why I think this is somewhat worth it.

 

ok - assuming that the pics are explicit enough to be sure that they are a couple and not a guy in drag, for instance, then if you first meet them somewhere public it should be fairly safe.

But if they are a couple, like myself and wife, who look for another guy it is likely that they want someone bi, who will also go with the guy, or that she has a big libido and he likes to watch.

Better confirm an outline of what their interests are - maybe they are deep into BDSM. If they like to meet with you then they at least need to inform you of what they are into - when we have looked for another guy to join with us we exchange enough info as to what we like and what we are all comfortable with. Simple ground rules to set-off with; once things are underway and everybody is happy these can be 'adjusted!'

Ciao,

Simon

PS - how old are u and how old r they?

 

And just because you've seen pictures that they are both a man and a woman how do you know that the pictures you've seen are actually them? I mean shit howdy I could get a picture of anybody on the net and say it's me.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

Before meeting anyone from online in that manner, make sure you have video chats with them... so you can see and hear them answering your questions.

As was just mentioned, pictures can be of anyone... Even video clips could be of anyone... Video chat where you are talking to each other is the surest way to verify that part at least.

Always make sure someone you trust knows where you are going (specifically), how to get in touch with you, and when you are going to check back in with them... With the condition that if you don't, call the cops... (needless to say, don't forget to call them!)...

 

Yes, I would just be super careful. Take all the precautions that have been advised here.

 

F*ck it dude, I'll just go bowling. Really, though, I masturbated a few times since setting up that meeting and realize now that it's a crazy and retarded move on my part. I called it off earlier today. You all can let this thread die if you want or keep posting precautionary stuff if you want, I don't really care. But thanks to everyone who posted something and it's been fun. Have a nice day.

 

Ah - but here's the problem - you've just sullied the online dating world a little bit more.

While it's totally okay that you got cold-feet - please learn from this and next time around - don't sign up for something you can't follow through on. Look at it from thier side... they took the risk - invested the time and emotion of setting things up and are now cast adrift.

Online connections are hard, rare and special. Unique and precious occurances, that rarely filter through the pic collectors, scamming guys just getting a thrill at the thought, the players and the chickens. So please - don't mess it up for those who are honestly putting effort into setting up REAL liasons.

 

Yeah - having been on the other end as a couple seeking another bi-guy - Orod has a point. At least let them know dude,

Simon