Alright I've never been on a "first date", although I've taken girls out to dinner when we were already dating. Girls I've worked with, dorm room stuff, etc So here is my question: is it a date? You're going to say that it is, but I need some reassurance, because I'm nervous and I never go out on dates. And what do you think about the molly? So I met this girl at a party a few nights ago and we talked the whole night - just me and her - very intensely. About very deep things that I haven't even shared with friends. A few hours after she got home she sent me the nicest email anyone has ever sent me, saying it was very lucky that we met and she really likes me. So we made plans and tonight we're going on a hike and then getting dinner. BUT, when I talked with her on the phone for a brief, awkward minute, she said that she had been on molly the whole time we were talking. She said it like it was a confession, and I didn't hold it against her or anything, but after I got off the phone it started to bug me. As a big molly fan myself, I can't knock her for doing it, but it sort of explains why she was being so open and comforting to be around. Like I was talking to the drugged side of her personality, not her. Not the same person I'll see tonight. Granted, the molly had to have worn off by the time she wrote me that email... So yea, this is definitely a date, right? Is there a chance she thinks we're just gonna be friends? Because it matters, if it's a date I'll pay for it, maybe even kiss her, etc Sorry I'm so dumb, for whatever reason I have experience being a boyfriend, but very little in "getting" the girl, as I'm afraid of causing offense. Anyway, this girl seems amazing and I don't want to screw it up.
A "date" is a pre-planned event together, something that she actually said, "yes I'll go with you" about. I personally prefer the casual, unplanned way of doing things, but there are certain things that need to be planned and officially scheduled, ie, A DATE. In my mind, a date requires a degree of dressing "up" too. I'm an old fart, so asking girls/women out is old hat. But I recall how nerve-racking it was in my teen years and even into my twenties, with all that fear (and actual) rejection. But just realize that it's the same for everyone, and most girls will respond to your sense of humor and self-confidence more than anything else. Just blurt it out in an unrehearsed genuine way: "What do you say we go to a show Friday night? Popcorn, Jujubees, and holding hands at the scary moments? It will be fun!" Something like that. Women generally like to be treated like they're special. A date is usually for that purpose.
well, was it a date? my advice would have been to treat it as one either way, and if she wants to be friends just ask for her molly connection and get the fuck away from her. but i suppose i should have been online monday then shouldn't i?
