Hello. For so long that I can't remember when it began, I went without clothes. My parents didn't mind until I went into puberty and my figure I have to say, was so good and tight with breasts unlike the other girls my age. I still always tried to wear as little as possible when it was it was the proper setting. Girls started calling me a slut, etc, and boys used to grab my breasts and undo my bra in the hall. O.K go on a few more years. I'm a grown woman. I had gained some weight, but I still looked (I thought) pretty, and at things like gatherings and the beach, I would go nude. I am always barefoot anyway. I was a fire dancer at every gaathering I went to, and was called a goddess by some beautiful brothers. Go on a few more years. I get married, the babies come, life happens. But I am embarrassed of my body so much that I feel like my feet look fat and unattractive. I have never found a nudist colony or things like that where I would be comfortable. I should probably look around. Why did this start to happen? I have broken toes so many times from skipping around the forest at night or dancing my naked ass off. Men look at me when I'm out alone, and my husband is always loving and telling me how pretty and sexy he thinks I am. Do I need psychological help? Have any of the other women identified? Why do I even want to be a size 8? I know what I should ideally weigh, and I'm not that far off. But I would still feel like my breasts are too big and droopy, my stomach bizarre looking. I did see a therapist ONCE for this, and she say said I have, get this, "Body dysmorphic disorder", where what I see and what is real in the mirror is drastically different, and sent me on my way. Thanks? I guess. I know some of you , guys and girls have felt this way. And I try and say, "who cares what they think?" but My body has become my enemy. I don't binge,purge, or do anything to hurt myself except tourturing myself about my body. I still do love the feeling of the world around me, my skin, hair....Advice please? Thank you so much.
you most probably have a "normal" body for mother. your husband loves you and he is attracted to you. our society through advertising, rail thin models, etc., has created an unnatural sense of what a woman should look like. as my closest friend (a woman) is fond of saying "real women have curves". i am sure you are a beautiful sister. if you want to diet do it because you feel unhealthy or sluggish, not to conform to societal descriptions of the way a woman should look like.
What bkcmar said. Don't sweat what anyone else thinks - you only have a responsibility to yourself in this because it's your body! Only you can decide what you want it to look like - and yeah we've got a horribly skewed attitude about beauty in this country. As a mother yourself, it's good to keep yourself healthy so that you can set a good example for your child - part of that is to have a sensible attitude and not perpetuate societal pressures to be super-thin or "perfect". If you're concerned about your weight and how it impacts your health, there are a lot of good eating plans out there (I lost 70 pounds on weight watchers myself) that can help you - just don't buy into any of those "get thin fast" or "lose weight without doing anything" diets...Even just getting out and exercising a few times a week will greatly improve how you feel, and that will help boost your self-confidence and your attitude about yourself. And no, I don't think you need psychological help.
Thanks for all the love (not) I received when I placed a very personal and painful post. Two men answered it, and I thank you. If the rest of you are just going on and on about going without SHOES, who cares? Go anywhere and people have no shoes on. That is important? I think most of you need to get dressed for 1- a job interview, 2-go to the job. I am not saying all, because I know some in here are very cool and having hard times. "Wow", showed my ankle today, aren't I so naughty? How lame! It must be nice when you have the time for 100's to 1000's of messages when you have a job and family. I guess I just am too into them to be into this message thing. I am going to ring my friend's neck who said I should look into this! Had to be a joke because I am laughing. Turn off the t.v. and computer games and message board and get on with REAL LIFE. I know it's daunting,but it is well worth it. At least my family and kids are worth all my free time. Much later. And just because I'm leaving doesn't mean I hate nudism. I LOVE that. I am finding hypocrites all over, in every forum, and people encourage addiction, being a sloth, etc. Check yourselves.
Sounds like you need help if your basing your opinions on the lack of replies to your post. Maybe the rest of us didn't have any words of wisdom for you. Get a life my dear.
yes, she certainly does have issues. wernt you leaving nlove? so nice to see youve brought your oh so welcome negativity and random bitching back to our free fucking speech forums. fuck off.
Yep. Confused. I just stumbled on this very reasonable request for advice (wish I had sooner) but it's turned sour and I don't know what to do with it now. Sad.
