Would like to hear some thoughts on spicing up our life's with some exciting exchange of emails. I love my husband very much, but I also love a little excitement in my life. I will and won't cheat on him physically. Is this a normal thing to ask here? Am I only being selfish and thinking of myself and my needs? Don't know what else to say seeing I have never done anything like this before.
it's a normal thing for people to join this forum solely for the purpose of cybersex. it's also normal for those people to quickly disappear when they learn that no one here is interested. what? this sentence directly contradicts itself.
tell us a little bit more about your situation... I know it is difficult to start "reaching out" for ways to spice up your sex life when you dont know where to go or what you might find in the journey... a few years ago I went thru a divorce and ended up power-dating thru it, while the divorce was in progress (2yrs) and for a very short time afterward... I didnt know a man could have that much sex and still survive.. I learned fairly quickly how and where to get the spice needed to keep a relationship happy, and the one thing I can say for sure is, things are very different than momma ever wanted us to think.... and im a better man to my woman now because of it all. you obviously arent looking for the mild spicing up like you might get from reading porn magazines together and are trying to go to higher level of "spice", so where do you really want to go? you dont want to cheat on him physically... what does that mean?... are you wanting to cheat on him in your mind... are you looking for fantasies for yourself?.. is he not into spicing things up with you? do you not want him involved in your fun?..... are you looking to share pics, or stories, or webcam???? im not offering, but only asking in an attempt to find out what is on your mind and how you want to accomplish the spicing up.... when 2 people want to make a go of it thru life together, they need to be open and honest with one another, and each person needs to NOT be critical of the others thoughts and fantasies... supportive is much better, but it has to be a very sharing and understanding "mind" thing... a togetherness and trust that is indescribable. when you get there with your mate, you wont ever have a thought or fantasy in your mind that you wouldnt be willing to share him, and without fear of rejection. that is where true love will be found, and the best sex ever can be had when you find it.. with each other, and very possibly other people, due to the trust and understanding that you have for each other. but not all people can find it with the one they are with.... but they continue to go thru life pretending to be happy, even though they feel an unfulfilled hollow spot within themselves... something missing, but they dont know what... what it is, is the connection of their souls... Im sure all this blabber is quite different than what you are looking for, but give it a thought and go forth with your plan... you will eventually find a way to get where you want to go, but it may not be on the same path that you are thinking of at this time..
couple thoughts...and it is xmas so i wont flame too too bad yes it is easy to ''reach out''.....internet is anonymous and it is as easy as it is ever going to get to reach out...especially for some email spice second....stop using other peoples shit to start a conversation on your divorce....it isn't about you and boasting on your failure at marriage doesn't make you an expert on anything except failing at that marriage....i like advice from people who have succeeded at the very thing they are advising on this poster wants some dude to get her wet with some email....not a fuckin life lesson on relationships lol....your friends in life should be telling you this stuff op-pm me baby
i don't think it is good for a releationship this kind of thing...can't you speak to your husband simply telling him that u will appreciate something more exciting in your releationship and that maybe you can do something together also with other people? speak with him!
nor mine cowboy http://www.freakingnews.com/pictures/14500/Dr-Phil--14695.jpg i'm more the rodeo clown type...we stay in the ring after the 9 second wonders leave after being dumped
Some people are more hurt by emotional cheating, than physical. Just because there is no physical contact, does not mean it isn't cheating. I would suggest finding out what the spouse considers cheating (and ask specifically about online/email, etc. so there are no misunderstandings) before connecting with someone to spice things up. JMO
