I found this website and I loved this article. It talks about how it's hard for a bisexual female to be married to a man because we tend to loose out on half of our sexual personality. I'm starting to get concerned with this issue myself because I'm soon to be married to a man. He knows that I'm bisexual and takes me to our local gay clubs so that I can flirt with females, but I've never brought one home. I'm only 20 and have been with my finance for 4 years... so since I was 16/17 ish. I've never gone all the way with a woman because of this. Now, I'm wanting to bring a female home and possibly have what is considered a "duogamy". I really am starting to feel like I NEED to be with a woman, so much that I'm wondering if maybe my desire for females is taking over my desire for males (even more than normal, I know I prefer women). I'm wondering what you all think of this and if you think it is acceptable. Also, I'm wondering if I can get some advice on the issue... either kind of advice is ok with me. Has anyone done this and made it succeed to what you wanted it to be? I know I don't want to do this for a long time, but I feel like I definitely need to do this for at LEAST a few months. Oh, here's the link to the article I read: http://www.bimagazine.org/nonfict/pages/feature.html
I'm a bimale and my wife is straight. She has fantasies about woment and we've even play with some bifemales and a lesbian but shes just not into it. I understand what you getting at. You have to be able to explore. If your soon to be husband wont allow that then in time you will grow to hate the relationship you have. You'll always feel that he has kept part of your life hidden or locked up. So becareful how you proceed
You have to be true to yourself, otherwise if you repress the natural energy it'll come out later and cause a big disruption for your current relationship. Being bisexual makes it hard to be monogamous, by nature, so you may consider the fact that you may be polyamorous. If you're not sure what that is, I suggest you check it out on the internet. You may discover a whole new way of being in a relationship.
you're the fool for getting married. and at 20 no less. I will give you my address for you to send me $400 when you get divorced before you're 25.
When you meet the right person you will fall one way or the other. I was very bi before I started dating my wife. When I met her I knew she was the one and I went from a 3 on the Kinsey scale to a 1 within a few years. I dealt with it through honesty with my wife, she has known from our first date, she says its one the things she loves about me, it turns her on, she has expressed more than one fantasy about sharing my cock with another man. We have on occasion even talked about doing both MMF and FFM threesomes, but neither of us is ready to share the other. My suggestion to any bisexual person is when you meet the "One", be honest with them, if they truely love you they will embrace it and if they don't, they probably are not the right one.
I think all these comments make sense, including the young Sushi who is about your age. He said it more abruptly than I would have, but you are quite young to be contemplating a lifelong committment to one person, especially with feelings that make you desire more than one. I think you should make that a very long engagement, and really communicate with your significant other why. I was really up front with my wife about my love of men, and she gave me that freedom even tho she was not into a treesome or anything other than me. Can your man live with such an arrangement, letting you have an occassional night out with the girls? Still by being so young you also run the risk of finding you may be more into women than men. Then what? Hence, it would be wise to explore yourself some more before committing.
