I have been with my boyfriend for two years and before that married for 12. With my ex husband there was no sexual chemistry at all not even in the beginning. It was more of a chore. Which lasted 10 minutes tops. I am no prude. I loved sex before i got married but during the course of my marriage the only satisfaction I got with while masterbating or with my toy, which the ex had no idea i owned. With my boyfriend now it is totally different. We will go at it for hours. I have done things with him I hadnt done with anyone else. Anal isnt something I would have done in the past but discovered I love it. My problem is im still kinda shy and he usually the one mentioning new things which im more than willing to try. I have really wanted to have him tie me up and would love for him to get rough with me but i dont know how to go about asking. Do u guys have any suggestions on how to approach the subject. Or should I just wait and see if he does.
After Bring Married For 12 Years, And A Boyf For 2 Years, You Still Describe Yourself As "Shy".... Cheers Glen.
Yes i am shy when it comes to sex. I never spoke to my ex about it. There was no I like it like this or try touching me here. He got on did what he needed to do and it didnt matter if i got off or not. In most cases i never even got wet. The last two years of marriage there was no sex. I didnt care or want it from him. I never cheated. Didnt have anything but toys and imagination. I spent those two years just experimenting with myself. Found out alot about myself and my body. Still learning though and am still having a hard time expressing to my man some of the things i would like to try. Its hard to explain. My ex is an extremely abusive man and the one time i did suggest something different was the last time. I know my boyfriend is nothing like that but i still fear rejection.
go to bed before him and tie your ankles to the bed posts and when he comes in tell him you need some help with your hands
Depends on where you live and the genders involved. "Partner" is what I use, because I was in Colorado, and boyfriend/girlfriend after 30 is a little sad. Moved to the Bay Area. The owner of the spa where I contract thought I was lesbian/my partner was female solely because I use "partner."
