does your husband or partner talk differently in front of different ppl

it gets on my nerves

when his kids aren't here he talks differently
when they are here he shows off like i'm dumb and he can care less like i'm stupid omg

 

options...
talk to him about
or drop him

 

He shows no respect to you. A relationship will not survive without it.

 

In some ways I believe everyone acts differently around certain people. For example if I am around old friends just smoking in a basement, I would speak differently than if I was out with family and my nephews (2&3 years old). There certain things I would talk about with adults that I wouldn't care to talk about around children. If that makes sense..

How does he make you feel stupid?? Like jokingly or in a degrading manner?

 

Yes he does but not in regards to me or my family or home.

He and the lads when they play footyball talk very differently. They all do it. I personally think that when they kick the ball, they are hit in the brain with some of the bits that flay about. I am sure it causes swelling of the brain tissue that is directly related to bad language and violent behaviours.

Thankfully the swelling appears to dissipate once the team all start to go home or a spouse shows up.

 

if someone acts exactly the same no matter what company he's with, he's probably autistic or something.

of course, if he's disrespectful to you in front of your kids then that's a serious problem.

 

Truth

 

He might start talking like more of a 'man', but has never disrespected me or made me look/ feel stupid.

 

Why aren't you telling him this rather than people on a forum?
I think answering that question might be revealing. If you can't talk to him or he wouldn't bother to try and understand, you have a big problem.

 

if someone doesn't modify their behaviour in certain company it makes them autistic? how bizarre


fook that, i never modify mine... gets me in trouble all the time.. i guess i'm autistic :willy_nilly:

or maybe i just got enough respect for myself and others that i don't feel that i need to present a false pretense

 

op:stfuyb..

 

you said right in your post that it gets you in trouble...

you really think it's disrespectful to treat a 4-year-old boy differently than the woman you're trying to sleep with, for example? most people are smart enough to understand contexts. you might not be autistic, but there is something seriously wrong here.

 

it's not disrespectful because the conversations and action i would be interested in with either of them would be very different

if you have to put any kind of effort into acting differently between a person you are sexually attracted to and a person that you aren't.. then i'm afraid you have problems not only on a social scale, but probably on a physical scale too

you should be able to relax and be yourself 100% of the time in any situation... humans are all basically made the same... the only reason anyone ever modifies their own behaviour is because they are afraid of a reaction they themselves may cause in others... if there are situations where you can't trust yourself to be yourself, then you should prolly get some kinda help with that... or at least limit yourself to situations where you can be yourself

 

who said anything about putting effort into acting differently?

exactly. so why would you go out of your way to act exactly the same with both of them instead of having the conversations and action you are interested in with each of them?

 

um no, i said i don't modify my behaviour... i can relax and be myself in almost any situation, probably because i'm not autistic, that doesn't mean i have to act exactly the same way in every situation... it means i'm comfortable enough to be myself regardless of the situation... one of the joys of being human is that we learn and adapt to interact on a truly massive variety of situation

you seem to think certain situations are making you force yourself to act differently than you normally would... as one situation you brought up could be potentially overtly sexual and the other certianly shouldn't... you really need to get help with that. you should be able to relax and be yourself both around the opposite sex and children

 

ok, you're just trolling. carry on.

 

trolling because i don't agree that anyone who doesn't talk differently or present a false persona in front of different people is autistic

ok....

good luck!

 

trolling because you're intentionally twisting my words to mean something blatantly different from what i've said, and acting like there's something wrong with me because of it.

anyway, carry on.

 

it's horrible when people do that, innit

 

i'd say horrible is an overstatement, but it can be annoying.