i'm in love with this guy, i've loved him for about 2-3 years now .... we arent together right now but are relationship has been going off and on for about 3 years .... and im absolutly sure i love him... i love him so much that i almost dont want to date anyone but him ... and he is literally the only guy i like, other then him i consider myself a lesbian in some circumstances.... but i dont even really want to date a girl thinking that he will want to get back together one day .... my friends think its stupid that i keep going out with him even though he keeps breaking up with me but i dont care i seriously LOVE HIM!! all i think about is him and all i want to think about his him! does this sound weird to yall?
It sounds like this relationship *may* be a destructive one if he's constantly breaking up with you. Maybe you are more in love with the chase than with him. Once you really have him, I mean, really, for keeps, would you truly be happy? Or would your feelings begin to fade because you "caught him" and the thrill is over? Those are questions you need to ask yourself. I definitely believe in love at any age. It happens. But the fact that the partner in which you are involved with continues to break things off is certainly not a stable relationship that you can count on. As the saying goes, and forgive me if it's not the EXACT words, but these are the ones I can gather from my memory: "the greatest gift you'll ever know is just to love and be loved in return". {{{HUGS}}}
Sounds to ME that "Wild" is a lesbian who's struggling with whether she's a lesbian or if she's really bisexual. I went through the same thing 12 years ago that she's going through now, except that the genders were reversed. I was an openly gay man who fell in love with a woman while living in California -- who happened to be my housemate. After two years, I finally told her of my feelings. She politely turned me down. But I ultimately came out bi as a result of that experience. Based on my own experience, I recommend to "Wild" that you search your inner soul. Only you can declare yourself to be bi or a lesbian. But don't panic; take as much time as you feel necessary to fully realize and accept Who You Really Are. Blessed Be! -- Skeeter
to answer some of 'hippychickmommy's questions is that if me and him stayed together for like a long time (meaning for like a year or more) then i would be totally happy! that would be the best thing ever.... i still talk to him and everything and when im on the phone with him he'll say things like 'i love you' and stuff like that... he use to not like to say those words because he wasnt sure if it was true but i dont kno if he is just afraid of commitment or what but i love him and as long as i get to talk to him everyday then im happy but i would love to talk to him as boyfriend and girlfriend more. he said that someday he would want to marry me possibly but i dont kno... do you think he just playing games with me? you kno the quote 'guys aren't worth your tears and if they are they wont make you cry' ? well he doesnt make me cry even if we break up i dont cry anymore. and also the last couple of times we broke up he had reason like that he might be moving if he didnt get his grades up and that he needs to focus on school and such .... am i being stupid or do yall think im really in love or 'lust' ... i think love but im asking you all.... and thanks for the previous advice hoping to hear more from all of yall!
