Does the word "partner" really grate you?

In the context of relationships and couples.
Partner used to mean business partner.Then gays started using it for "boyfriend" and lesbians started using it for lesbian friend.

Not wishing to be home-ophobic ( I *like* my house) , but it really fucking annoys me when theres some formal work type shit on and some fuckwit asks
"will your partner be attending?"

I reply "business partner?" with a puzzled look.
They say " no .Life partner"
I say "Do I look like I bat for the other side ?" or something similar , sometimes more graphic
"YOu mean the Mrs?"

Im not that bothered about what gays get up to in private , but I dont think I
the language and culture for heterosexual people should be changed.
At the end of the day , I dont have a fucking "partner" , its a girlfriend or "mrs".Why the fuck I be forced to accept these daft words basically used to gloss over other peoples gay interests.

PS Im off to cook a quiche...

 

for a relation to work, it takes the efforts of 2 people, who should be 'partners'

logically, right? :huh:

 

Haha, maybe thinks you're gay?

Either way, you really can't blame the gays for this one. Euphemisms like this pop up because straight people feel uncomfortable calling gays' and lesbians' "partners" what they really are--boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. If they refer to them as "partners," it makes the relationship much more sterile and clinical and more comfortable to people who are uncomfortable with homosexuality.

You should've gotten pissed and told him, I don't like the term 'partner,' please refer to her as my 'lover' :$

 

Some people feel that "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" sound like teen terms. They are not trying to offend you.

They should have asked if you would be bringing your ball and chain..

 

Well itd be pretty damn offensive to a gay man if they said
"Will your girlfriend be attending?"
Wouldnt it? To be so presumptuous? Really you dont think?

I dont use "partner", but it doesnt really grate me when someone who doesnt know you well says it, theyre only being polite enough not to assume

 

Well, I assumed that in a situation such as this, whoever was asking ahead of time would know whether he was straight or gay, and already know the sex of his "partner." But, you have a good point. Especially in business relationship, it's important not to presume things like that. I also agree that there isn't any need for it to "grate" you.

 

Yeah i realised that after...but even so, as you say, in a business relationship you cant take anything for granted as you rarely know the person intimately...i mean the person could have changed partners and the new partner is the other gender or something, you never know

And even if not it doesnt bother me. My fiancés a man and hes a human being, he also lives with me and we do stuff together, so whatever take people have on it it doesnt matter, theyre all valid. "Boyfriend" annoys for the reason given above, it sounds school kidish. But otherwise i dont have a prob

 

hes my partner through life, my other side. yeah hes my boyfriend as well and im his girlfriend but whatever, partner aint an offencive term

 

Hmm my view is that in Britain ( and prob other places) theres a very powerful ( usually secretly ) gay group in the media and other places.
( that prick "Prince CHarles" is one example , altho only Italian papers printed it...!)

The phrase partner was developed by gays to sort of get people into believing gay relationships are the same as straight ones , whilst at the same time allowing gays to keep it secret- a right fucking contradiction!IMO

- sort of letting them have their fairy cake and eat it ( oops who said that?)

But it means that straight people , are being told by "gay-led" people , that they shouldnt say theryre not gay!
ie answer yes or no - to the question of if their "parner is attending".Sort of the gay minority ruling the straight majority.

Control people's language and you control their thoughts.

Plus a partnership has other implications - equal financial partnership as opposed to say just a sexual relationship.Someone could be my girlfriend but in no sense a "partner" for that reason.

Next time , Im asked if my partners attending should I wiggle my hips , purse my lips and say "ohhh yes ducky my big black cock will be in attendance altho I cant decide if I'm wearing my leather outfit or a nice flowery dress".

Fuck that phrase annoys me

 

wtf? Im totally not getting you here...
And who said anything about not being allowed to say youre not gay?
I really dont see an issue here


PLUS: If the person asking knows youre not gay, then theyre obviously not using partner because theyre insinuating you are or because its linekd to anything about gay people, are they? Theyre PROBABLY using it because they assume the person youre with is your "life partner", and not just some bit of fun

If the person asking DOESNT know your sexuality, then as i said, its about not assuming, which is plain rude

 

nobodys calling you gay when they ask about your partner. its become common usage to refer to a boyfriend or girlfriend, regardless of the gender of the person beign asked. so suck it up, seriously, no need to be so homophobic

 

Im not homophobic - u look in my wardrobe!
Theres stuff by Versace , Lacoste , Jeff Banks.

I mean ,theyre all cockjockies

( message to gays and their partners, thats a joke)

 

haha, having versace and lacoste does not make you suddenely not homophobic. It makes you loaded and possibley stylish.
What would be a homophobic wardrope? Whife beaters and baggy jeans?

The more you try to explain yourself the more homophobic you sound

haha, funny.

 

Haha major homophobe.

You know what that means.. :tongue:

 

i like the word 'partner'. a partner in life is someone with whom you make decisions and share the burden...together through good times and bad. 'husband' and 'boyfriend' have much different connotations.

 

Does your partner share your issues with gender-nonspecific lingo with regard to relationships?

Personally, I think a wide range of word usage should be tolerated in this culture. There needs to be a rule-bending standard adhered to with an emphasis on loosening up this uptight excessively politically correct culture we all collectively rot in. For example, should the occasion arise in a quasi-formal setting (work, funeral home, liposuction clinic waiting room) that I'm queried concerning my "life partner" I will firmly but politely correct the questioner, asking that the term "fuck buddy" be used.

 

( whispers _ Pssst . Why dont ya come up and see me sometime )

 

Oh baby i'm on the way

Can we do it wearing some versace?

 

call me baby , u perve and u'll end up like Versace


Anyone in England ever see Al Murray pub landlord saying " I was never confused" LOL

 

Good lord. Look out or you'll get "recruited" by the gays....

Really, though, anything that starts with "I'm not a homophobe, BUT...." isn't going to come out well.