does it/would it turn you on to have a partner who you could...

...humiliate in any way you wanted, whenever and however you wanted? Im not saying this person would have be your boy/girlfriend but they would sort of be your slave...you could have them do anything you wanted for your amusement...if hes a guy, make him wear panties and clean your house just to embarass him..deny him the privilige of masturbating just to see how horny and desperate he gets...if shes a female, make her suck your dick while your watching tv ect ect...

if you had this "slave" what would you make them do, what would turn you on...

 

It doesn't turn me on to be humiliated, it pisses me off. I would expect the same from most people today in a society who is so keen on power. However, being invovled in the BDsM lifestyle for awhile, (although not being legal age to go into the clubs and going anyway ) I know how hard it is to maintain a relationship where humiliation is a large part of it.

It's a fine line.

 

but would it turn you on to be the dominant one...the one administering the humiliation etc

 

No, I'm into the physical side of bondage, humiliation in the long run causes emotional problems from my expierence.

 

Not for me, I like dominant girls who give as good as I do. Having said that, I thought the master/submissive relationship in that movie the secretary was very erotic, like where he slaps her ass while she reads out her grammatical mistakes in the document she typed up, but having a 'slave' is too weird for me, crosses that fine line you mentioned. And like Sarah said, there are some emotional issues involved as well, though I think they probably have some to start off with, as apposed to developing them over the course of the relationship.

 

dude you're a sick fuck

 

Hardly, this is more common then you think.

 

either way, the commonness of it doesn't make it any less sick. what ever happened to happy relationships?

 

For them it is happiness, that's why they do it.

 

oh yeah cuz someone dominating your sex life is so romantic...?

 

romanticism doesnt equal happiness....

 

i dont find it attractive, nor erotic, nor hot, nor anything.
i would never want to be a slave, or be the one administering it.
i could not physically, mentally, or psychologically do that to another human being.
but thats just me...call me boring, but i like freedom.

 

Romance is a big expectation and disappointment process. A relationship based on romantic love is based on fantasy and is unattainable. It is the source of much frustration and strain.

I have been involved in the so called "lifestyle" as well. I have seen those that dwell on such fantasies and try to live them. For the most part, but I think that everyone is right...a humiliation based relationship just isn't going to last at any level. Perhaps for a short period of time there may be some thrill in it as an extreme punishment...I find it very cruel.

Those that I have been in relationships with of that nature, in my eyes - even though they will do anything to please, have a certain level of status or prowess (for a lack of a better word) that is deserving of a certain amount of respect. Humiliation is one of those things that can damage someone into their very existence.

 

Oh the other hand of that though I have a friend who can ONLY be in a relationship with his girlfriend controling everything, and they are both very very happy.

 

There's a line here. A little humiliation and control can be intensely erotic; losing badly in a game of strip poker, having to reveal yourself or perform after losing a bet, or being caught jerking off by the hot neighbor...

The level of masochism is when it starts getting creepy.

I love being controlled when it's all in fun. Some of my most erotic fantasies involve being "played with" by girls.