Ok, there's a guy (aged 27), who I love for almost one year.. He also feels "something" about me, actually, once, we spent a night together.. but he lives 750km far from me, plays in a band and a month later, he's going on tour for like 4 months. I'm not asking if THIS makes sence, because I realized I love him too much to STOP loving him... but my question is: does it make sense to be with other men, when I still think of the 1st one? Because there's around 3 guys, who'd like to go out with me, and so.. But.. I don't know, I don't want the to be more than my friends..
perhaps you're puttin more thought into this than necessary ..how about not lettin anyone come between you and keith, and commies for a bit. take a trip ..to nowhere, helps
ok, thanks, Stoney But, you know, I mean if I'd date any of those guys, wouldn't it be... eh.. stupid? When I know I love somebody else, anyway..
datin, enjoyin someone's company et al and lovin someone else are 750kms apart. do what you wanna do, coz that's all that you should be thinkin of, and doin
There's nothing wrong with it as long as your partner knows about it. As long you're both okay with it, it's not really a big deal. I mean you can date them if you want to. Don't feel pressured to do it because you're "supposed to" because you're at that age. Also dating someone doesn't instantly make you boyfriend and girlfriend. You can just go out with someone and see how it goes without pressure (especially if you tell them in the begining.) Another thing is having a "break" in the relationship and seeing other people doesn't always mean you'll never get back together either. My boyfriend whom I've been with since I was 12 thought we should see other people too. So for a while there we both dated a variety of people even though we were still in love with each other. Because we thought it was something we should do and make sure we wanted the other. That and he thought he was influencing me because he too is a bit older than me. So go with what you want to do. If you feel like you should date other people because it's an experience you want than you should do that. It would be bad to later on regret it and then you'll never really know. But also you shouldn't do things just because you're "supposed to" or expected to. Love is a very important thing and if you just want to be with him than you should. What you need to do is figure out what it is exactly that you want and see what your boyfriend thinks as well.
I've dated many guys in bands. I have had my heart ripped out, shredded and distributed to the folks in the front row. Rocker boys can be a lot of fun, but also, they can be quite the hassle. Okay, all men can be a hassle at times, but rocker boys, especially. Here's what I've learned: Dudes in bands get groupies. Groupies love to fuck guys in bands. Attached guys in bands with weak wills fuck groupies. That's a fact! I'm not saying he's gonna, but I'm saying it's totally likely. I don't see why you need to refrain from dating others just because he feels "something" for you. Don't get "something" confused with love. "Something" can grow into love, but it can also remain dormant. If you love him and he doesn't love you back, then you'll end up heartbroken, one way or the other. Sorry to be so frank, but I speak from experience. I hope everything works out for you.
Wow, that's a tough one, it really depends on your situating ya know? If you are into manogamy then perhaps you should move or try and convince himt to move? But if you are free enough to hvae an open relationship you can still love him and have other relations with people until the time is right that you can be closer to one another.
