Does it happen to you too? Am I a bad person?

Ok here's the deal:
I'm at the university studying and working, my major is Pharmaceutical Chemistry. I have this female friend, she's doing optional courses with me, and has been doing for a while. She's a very good person, lovely girl, beautiful too.
We went out together once, I was totally psyched but at the end I found out it was just a buddy's outing and later on she ended up dating some other dude and they're totally together now.
Anyway the thing is we're like in 3rd year (the major is 5 years) but she never passed Calculus which is from 1st year. She took the final test of Calculus like in July and a few days ago she found out she failed it (for the third time in 3 years) which eventually sets her behind yet another year in the career; that means she's stuck in 3rd year and doesn't have 1st, 2nd and 3rd year 100% complete.

When she failed the test, I was genuinely sad but at the same time I enjoyed the bad news, I'm sorry but I did . The reason is the following: I believe in some sort of balance, or justice, what i mean is you can't have it ALL. I mean, except passing Calculus this girl has pretty much everything. So whenever a pretty girl that apparently has everything fails in life someway, I feel good :S.

Am I a bad person?
Does it happen to you guys too?

 

Don't beat your self up over it we all get a little giddy at times where we should be sympathetic-- it's only natural, now i'm not saying keep on enjoying other's misfortunes (known as schadenfreude-- German for 'joy in the misery of others' )

But this is a very minor thing to be concerned about, feel it, and let it pass, you're not a bad person

 

No it's not a "good" way to feel, but it certainly is an aspect of human nature. The fact that you are conflicted about this feeling at all puts you head and shoulders above most in a general moral sense.

I know it's fashionable to view guilt as a wasteful and destructive emotion - but I personally don't subscribe to that view. The experience of guilt whether it be derived from a spiritual belief or a more general and secular view of good and evil can be a very positive thing. Psychopaths don't experience guilt at all, for anything - imagine if this abhorrent trait was shared by everyone? We wouldn't have survived long as a species.

 

Even though I can bend spoons with the power of my mind, I would still have to say thoughts are not actions. Sticks and stones, buddy. :biggrin:

 

Neo?? That you? You still out there?

 

What ISN'T bad: Being glad she failed
What IS bad: Being upset that you were glad that she failed

 

It's a bit pathetic imo

 

taking secret pleasure in a failure of a failed GF is not against the rules in any way....lol...fuck that bitch...maybe if she was studying instead of suckin buddy's dick she would have passed


if you are having a hard time dealing with your feelings ? you need to attatch a mental image to the scenario...one where you are hard at work studying calc, and she is in her room on all fours getting rammed from behind and when buddy pulls out he cums all over her open calculus book laying unread on the bed

 

WWell maybe not a bad person but she obviously made the right decision in not dating u cause ur a spiteful jealous person:2thumbsup:

 

You've made that sound very general there.

Not the truth though. You are happy she failed cos she didnt fuck you. Not because supposedly she has everything

 

It is called Schadenfreude. Look it up.

 

It may be that she didn`t just not fuck him. She also cockteased him.

That being said, like the cuckold, the cockteased usually has a hand in his own demise. Why date any longer than 25 mins. at Starbucks unless you are totally asking to be toyed with??

 

What is bad is getting moral advice from an internet forum - particularly one called "Hip Forums"

 

How do you know what's the truth in MY head? Ok, I'm not exactly thrilled that she ended up with some other dude, but she's not the only one I sometimes enjoy seeing fail, get it? So you're wrong. Don't jump to conclusions specially sounding like you know the absolute truth about everything and you speak only the truth, while the rest are completely wrong, that just makes you sound like a dick, more than me in this thread even.

Thanks for your input anyway, a LIL BIT of politeness goes a long way you know.

 

Schadenfreude. I don't take pleasure in other's misfortune unless it has something directly to do with some sort of offensive behavior. The punishment has to match the crime.

Like if the girl liked a guy, and then he had a "buddy's outing" with her and ended up dating someone else...now that deserves a chuckle.

So...yeah you should feel bad.

 

I subscribe to the theory that small moral choices are what leads to larger moral decline. Maybe its just a small thought in your head now, but later down the road? Who knows....

 

blow me

 

only a moron would register at a site and then put down the people that register on the site?????????????????????????????///

 

Shhhhhhhh u no speak no more

 

Rather than having me blow you, I'd suggest getting a sense of humor.