does anyone else think...

that a guy that is about to turn 20 dating and fucking and fallin in love with a girl that just turned 15 while he's in love with some other girl thats 18 is a problem? does anyone else agree with me that thats just a tad disturbing? thanks for ur comments

 

I think that 15 and 20 are far too different in ages and where they are in life to really work. A lot of places, it's illegal too (statutory rape and all). Do the girls know about each other?

 

well i was the 18 year old...and i was in love with him and him in love with me and we werent dating then. i found out about it later when he almost went to jail for statutory rape

 

he doesn't seem too well in the head. 15! thats far too young

 

I dated a 20 year old for a while when I was 15.. didn't seem like a big deal back then and it still doesn't, but then again.. people are different.
Of course it becomes a problem if he almost goes to jail for it, but if he really is in love with her and she feels the same way.. then I don't really see such a huge problem. A 15 year old and a 20 year old in general are very different in where they are in life, but it still doesn't mean that they can't fall in love with each other and be happy together. Age is just a number after all (to some extent anyway).

 

My opinion about this when I was a fifteen year old girl might have been different than my opinion now that I'm an adult...and especially now that I'm a mom.


Something's wrong with that dude.

If it was my daughter-off to jail he goes.

I would immediately wonder why women his own age don't want him. But one did. But now we know he's creepy. And maybe even a pedophile. (Some girls at 15 look like grown women, and some don't.)

My brother used to date teenage girls. The whole family cut him off. The parents of one girl threatened jail. I can't remember if they actually called the cops. He seems to be cured now.

 

some girls look really old when they're 15...but it doesnt mean that they are at the same wavelength of a 20 year old person. My opinion was completely different when i was 15, but now i can see how different it is to be 20 from being 15. it's a bit disturbing to think about it though.

 

True. I didn't mean that the 15 Y.O. girls who look older are more mature. I agree that a 15 y.o. and a 20 y.o. are just on totally different wavelengths.

When I made that comment about some girls looking older, I was thinking more along the lines of the fact that some men like teenage girls that look really young because they really like girls, not women, but girls. You know, like that 'barely legal' type of crap.

 

To me that seems pretty strange.. Being 20 myself, I couldn't even imagine "falling in love" with a fifteen year old.. Because, as mature as she may be, she is still a child. Considering that, it would make me seriously wonder about the intentions of the 20 year old.. As being 20 himself he would likely know from experience there is quite a difference really, and perhaps also be aware that she likely wouldn't think it was such a big deal, as people at that age have a tendency to believe they are a lot more mature than they really are. I don't know, it just seems to me like taking advantage of her...

 

So hes fucking an 18 year old and a 15 year old right? Age is just a number to me, but if hes screwing and "in love" with 2 girls thats whats disturbing. I just read that you were the 18 year old. Hon, you deseve better than that. Someone who is honest. If he told you he was ingageing in other sexual acts thats one thing, but he didn't. I hope your not heartbroken and bounce back quickly. Karma, thats all I got to say regarding him.

 

Lets see.

He cheats on his girlfriend. (BTW, who's word is "love." Is this his word or your evalutation of the situation.)

If I was his girlfriend, I would be "disturbed" enough to not to want to see him any more.

The age of his second "love" is an unnessesary detail to the situation, unless I have misread the situation.


If you met him after the situation you described, I would advise you against becoming involved with a man who carries that many legal problems with him. This is not an opinon about his character, just an observation that there are plenty of guys that do not have legal problems.

 

ok ok i can see that this is getting a lil off course...somewhat. im glad all you can agree how upset it really made me. but first we were not dating, we had an agreement that we could see other people. so i already knew he would be screwing around with other people, as was i. i couldn't see him a lot last summer because of some of my own personal legal issues to deal with (which is pretty ironic we both fell in some legal issues that summer), so while i couldnt see him he met that other girl at a club with his friend and started meeting up with her and screwing around and eventually fell in love. the main part that killed me was the fact he fell in love with her when he was already in love with me! and then finding out her age made it so much worse...and disgusting to hear.

but this is all old news. we got over all that. now my sister, who is about 16, is talking to a 19 year old...who will be 20 later this year...we're not sure what month, but we know he's a scorpio (as is my man). anywho, my man thought that my mind had changed on the whole age difference issue because my sister is talking to someone within almost that same age range, but really its not the same age range. to me the age thing is somewhat a problem, but so far with my sister and her guy things are not serious. they havent fucked or gotten seriously involved. theyve only kissed and what not. to me its not a problem. but to my man that makes him think my mind has changed, which it has not. and i also think that scenario with my sister is completely different from the scenario between me and my man. first because its just completely personal for me and heartbreaking knowing that he fell in love with someone else at the same time he was in love with me. also my sister and her guy friend are not seeing other people at the moment (well my sis has some other guy that really likes her but she does not wanna be involved with at all), and so theyre not breaking other peoples hearts and what not by seeing each other. that was the main point really, not exactly the age thing. the age difference just emphasized more how much it really hurt me. and it really did. every time that subject comes up my stomach starts aching along with my heart, my hands were all sweaty, and my head starts burning up. i cant really explain why except that it really does bother me. so anywho,.....sorry for rambling so much. this stuff came up yesterday and i was completely frustrated and felt like getting it out to someone and gettting an opinion on it.

 

so it was okay that he fucked somebody else.. and the age doesn't even really matter... you were just upset that he fell in love with somebody else?

i'm sorry you didn't really explain all that in the first post...so i don't think anybody got off topic

 

hmm sorry i didnt make it so clear at first...but yea we had an agreement so that we could still see each other. this back when we still weren't dating, but now we are. and so i didnt mind him with other people as he didnt mind me with other people. but we were also in love, and i did not fall in love with another. however, the fact that he did killed me, and knowing the age difference just made it worse. i can understand age doesnt matter, in this situation it just happened to make it a bit more worse than normal.

 

i really don't mean to be harsh with what i'm about to say, so i hope it doesn't come across as such.

when you have an open relationship you are taking the chance that the other person will meet someone else... and the chance that his feelings for another might grow into a stronger love than what the two of you share. it's just a risk that comes with the agreement.

you also said that you agreed to see other people so that the two of you could stay together... but it seems funny that if he truly wanted to be with you, his main concern would be being with others? i don't know your situation, and if i'm misreading things, i appologize.

it sucks and it hurts and i'm sure that the fact he's fallen for a naive young girl makes it more painful. how did they met in a club if she's under 18? perhaps he thought she was older at first? but perhaps this has something to do with the girl being young and easy to manipulate (15 year olds can't drive, have curfews, tend to be somewhat monitored by their parents, spend most of their day in school, get grounded, and can't go out of town -- or even spend the night! -- with their men... thus, they're easier to trick and two-time). if that's the case, then you're lucky to have him out of your life! make sure to not let this get to the core of you; remember that you are awesome, beautiful and lovable. you were true to your heart and that should be a good indication that you truly are wonderful, strong, and beautiful. you deserve someone with a heart like yours, and maybe this situation is a good way to evaluate your standards for future people, like raising the bar. consider how you can grow from your current situation, exhale, then look forward. much strength to you!

 

Karma, thats all I got to say regarding him.

Yep, that will give him a whooping he deserves, but its just puppy love, i am sure they will all get over it.

 

i am with that guy from last year. all that stuff happened last summer. and we've been together now for 9 1/2 months. and...our agreement for our relationship before we were dating was to always stay together and not let anyone get inbetween us, so thats y it upset me so much. it wasn't supposed to happen like that. but he says he thinks it probably was like 'puppy love' like mentioned above. he hasn't seen her since last year, at least i think..

 

Yea, he shouldn't be going for 2 girls at once and if he has a relationship with a 15 year old is has to be hands off.

 

My 16 1/2 yr old daughter is on the lower end with the red shirt & long dark hair.
Even tho this pic of her & her friends was taken about 3 yrs ago...when she was 13.

There are times when she is more mature & "grown-up then I am. But at the moment she is pregnant with a 19 or 20(?) yr olds baby...baby boy due in Sept....hey I'll be a grandma again.

If a guy "says" he is in "love" with 1 girl but screwing around with another girl...then he don't know what love is.

 

5 years means less and less the more time you spend on this planet, but i agree with many of of the posters, he's a liar and thats always disturbing