Do You Have A Sexually Adventurous Partner Or Not?

Is your present partner very adventurous sexually or just prefers the normal type of intercourse with no anal / oral recieved or given?
Or do they allow sextoys as well for extra fun / treats at times?

 

Very much so. Not necessarily as adventurous as me; but that may even be a good thing =P

 

He's not as adventurous as me, but is kinky enough to keep me satisfied.

 

mine is very dull, she wants me to come up with all the ideas, then she is never in the mood...i am constantly very sexually frustrated, to the point where i masturbate, all the time...I try talking to her about this issue, which she gets down on herself, or frustrated, or outright discouraged. I've tried coming at her with every angle possible, and she still gets discouraged....it is actually causing me to want to break up with her after nearly three years because i'm so sexually dissatisfied.

 

Nope. My wife is not adventurous or kinky as I am. I never thought sex could get boring, but it has. It's fun once in a while, but I find myself more excited to watch porn and fantasize about things that she would never do.

 

Why don't you guys get some outside help, bring in a sex therapist or something...why just wallow in dissatisfaction?

 

I don't want to do "homework" things like - give your partner a back rub, or tell them how much you love them 3 times a day. Sex shouldn't be work. My wife just isnt very horny, and certainly not openminded about kinky things like I am. I love her, but if she isn't into the things that arouse me, I will just masturbate and watch them online. Not a perfect solution I know, but I like thinking about and watching dirty passionate sex.

 

Possibly because some women just aren't interested in certain sex acts & won't even try them no matter how aroused they may actually get during them.
Some possibly think about the negative things & don't even consider what positives may occur?
So if a guy is unable to get his partner to give them a go, he will just look for his pleasures thru internet / porn instead or by other means.

 

We're sexually adventurous in the same ways and very vanilla in the same ways so we're very complimentary

 

having sex in the front yard.. yeap, adventurous..

 

We are both adventurous, and will try anything, and trust us in saying we don't need a therapist. Some of us are just that way

 

Or maybe you're just judging her on your standards alone.

Maybe she thinks you're not emotionally adventurous enough. Maybe emotion is what turns her on...so while her body may be turned on when you poke and prod her with all your kinks, she is reluctant to get into them, because you're doing nothing to consider what she wants/needs.

You are a man and she's a woman. You're two different people and your ideas of adventure are obviously different than hers. Why don't you find out what she wants instead of being so selfish and retreating to the internet and porn while continuously complaining about what you're unwilling to either work on or end?

Same to the other guy who thinks he can judge what adventure is and is too much of a coward to find out how his wife really feels and what she really wants and instead plops down in front of a computer screen instead of communicating.

I mean what are you in a relationship for if you're not willing to do anything to please her and everything is all about what you want and how you see it?

 

Look, the fact is women are faster than men in losing their sex drive with age. Besides age, things like stress or the ancticonception pill can influence their interest in sex drastically. It depends on the person, but there's really only so much sex therapy can do to offset their hormonally determined libido. It's not unlike the most common form of depression - that moment of resignation from life's possibilities and joys popularly confused with 'growing up'. It's part of the more general shift from youthful adventurism to mere comfort and security. When people get older, and death becomes a more pressing reality, it's only some who adopt a carpe diem attitude and step up their efforts to live, love and be free in the exalted sense. More often there's a slow retreat into the self, a shying away from overly intense feeling. Why do you think old people have the hobbies they do (stamp or other bullshit collecting, gardening). They don't have the heart - physicially or spiritually - or a 'fire in their loins' and are in a frame of mind at odds with erotic feeling. Men, being still capable of conceiving in the twilight of their lives, might retain the spark a little longer. But as a rule, the tendency for women will be to have progressively diminishing sex drives once they've peaked fertilitywise (in their 20s). So I don't know what to say, other than it's a sad fucking fact of life. If you're an exceptionally attractive male, or have other assets (money, power, etc.) you might consider renegotiating your relationship deal - by seeking out a partner who is emotionally and sexually alive. But if not, there's not much you can do but accept you're not going to find the satisfaction you'd ideally want in the context of your relationship. You will have to look at alternative means of discharging your surplus sexual energy. Pornography and masturbation come to mind. Writing (fiction or poetry) and getting your feelings down in all their bluntness can be cathartic as well. I don't necessarily recommend visiting prostitutes, but flirting, even with out of reach women, can be a way of keeping the light from going out in yourself.

 

If I try performing something different with her (without asking first) , she soon lets me know if it's good or bad. I know the first time I pulled on her nipples, I asked her if she enjoyed it or not & she now likes it heaps & I can feel her body start to quiver with the pleasure she gets from it. When she's aroused enough, she moves her body into her favourite intercourse position & then things get even better for both of us. Sometimes I admit I should ask her if I can do something & get her agreement first. Just like the first time I introduced a sextoy into her & she asked what I were using. So I have to improve on that communication anytime a toy is about to be used so she doesn't get stressed out when a sudden object is going inside her - apart from my penis. Some of my sexual ideas I get from this site & others are my own.

 

Yeah, we love trying new stuff. i think we are both as adventurous as eachother

 

As you may have seen in previous posts, my wife is no where as adventurous as me, but does allow certain acts that we both enjoy but not to the more erotic I'd like to try - oral / anal. So I have to compromise & do what she allows me to. No point me pressuring her & getting bad on the wrong side of her.

 

my wife is boring as hell. Oral last no more than a minute, I'm only given a few minutes on the weekend for sex. It feels so routine and the crazy thing is in the begining, she would always complain about sex being boring. It's been years of the same thing.

A few nights ago our area had a real bad store and in prept in case the power went out, I set up candles and made a sexy pose in the bed. She gets in, talks about her job and rolls over to sleep. I'm pissed and I asked "whats up, thought we was gonna do something". She sticks her butt out for what she calls lazy sex. I act useless at it because I hate that position. To keep this short, we still had lazy sex.