Do you give your wife/girlfriend an erotic massage before sex?

Discussion in 'The Orgasmic Experience' started by yuuichi, Jun 20, 2013.

  1. yuuichi

    yuuichi Guest

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    Hi, i'm new here :)

    I've been very interested in tantric sex and related practices, and i read that giving a woman an erotic massage (10 minutes to relax her and 10 minutes to arouse her) means a woman can very easily have multiple orgasms when she has sex. I have a girlfriend who has never had an orgasm before, and apparently an erotic massage is one of the best ways to give an inexperienced woman the multiple orgasms. This makes it easier for her to have them next time.

    But i'm still quite a novice in this and i have some things i'd like clearing up. Are you meant to bring her all the way to orgasm, multiple orgasms or to the edge of orgasm before you penetrate her?
    I want her to learn and experience multiple orgasms, but i want her to learn how to get them through myself giving her sex. Will penetrating her while she's on the very edge of orgasm help her to orgasm from sex? Or ruin the moment? Or should i wait until she's had quite a few orgasms before i penetrate and try to give her more?

    Also, will the erotic massage at the beginning mean that i'll have to give her one all the time? Obviously i'll give her a massage on special occasions, but i don't want her to pester me into giving her one before everytime we have sex, or feel like she needs it.

    Thank you :)
     
  2. nz male

    nz male Senior Member

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    I usually stroke my wife's body in different parts before sex & watch how her body twinge in her sensitive areas - not just her genital area.
    I like stretching her nipples outwards with my fingers or flicking them with my fingers or tongue. If she's about to orgasm just before penetration, her vagina tightens up & sometimes she's too tight to penetrate.
     
  3. Quiet Storm

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    I would LOVE to be the recipient of a massage for foreplay!!!
    I get off on watching porns like that...where the girl gets massages all over, then it leads to fingering and explosive orgasms.... :(

    I also don't mind giving erotic massages and I'm good at it.
     
  4. dark suger

    dark suger Dripping With Sin!

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    before after during its all good
     
  5. Jassy321

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    I like to give my wife a massage before we have sex. She likes it as well. We even have a massage table that we set up and use. It helps us both relax. I always start with a normal type of massage that last for 30 or more minutes. By the time I get to her tits and vagina she is always super turned on and has an orgasm as soon as I go down on her. Then we have sex right there on the table.
    We also enjoy talking about the massages she has had by real massage therapist. She said they always end up getting turned on themselves during the massage given the bulge in their shorts. She said that most are discrete but still there were times when she knew they were getting an eye full, stroking up her inner thigh to the point of touching her vagina so slightly and exposing it at the same time. They also would work around her breast enough to finally get them exposed. She wouldn’t react and would just let them continue, allowing one to even massage her breasts. One time she got a massage and was completely naked on the table without any covering during the last half of the massage. This is such a turn on for both of us. I would love to watch her get a massage and get all hot and turned on then we would have sex after she was done.

    We do the massage and sex about once a month. I don’t feel like it is work at all. I enjoy doing it and it helps her to achieve multiple orgasms during the sex we have during that time. She even gives me a massage once in a while.
     
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  6. monkjr

    monkjr Senior Member

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    Sometimes.
     
  7. Jo King

    Jo King wannabe

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    I did it the other night
     
  8. Tuttle

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    I love massage sex. It doesn't seem to happen as much as I'd like though. I have my wife lie on the bed face down, then give her a full body massage, starting with her neck, then arms, back, legs, both rubbing with hands and kissing. As I come back up her legs, I straddle her butt and concentrate on her back and neck again. As I am always hard at this point, as I lean forward a bit to reach her neck and kiss her back, this puts my cock right against her pussy. I just keep massaging and kissing her back and neck as I slowly tease and slip in. I keep massaging as we slowly fuck, the massage getting harder as we go. I think it is heavenly, and I'm not the one getting worked on :)

    We also sometimes do some vulva massage, but while she finds it enjoyable, it doesn't keep her entertained for nearly as long as the full body massage sex does.
     
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  9. Shivaya

    Shivaya Y'a rien de trop beau pour la classe ouvrière.

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    If by ''Erotic Massage'' you mean I dry hump her and make weird moaning sounds until she gives up and lets me do my thing as long as it's over in two minutes, then yes. Yes I do.
     
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  10. nz male

    nz male Senior Member

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    I got an enjoyable massage last year & could feel my penis getting bigger - funny that it was a guy massaging me - but it was a bit of a turn on receiving a massage.
     
  11. nicknack

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    George Costanza had a different reaction.
     
  12. Rastas maginty

    Rastas maginty Member

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    I got my girl a massage with a happy ending from a massage parlour
    It took her a while to get into it but once she did she was blown away
    It was reay hot watching too
     
  13. Just_a_woman

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    Oh, I wish!!!

    I never get a massage as part of foreplay from my husband.

    Lucky women who do!!!!
     
  14. sadie_hippie

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    I can relate to this one! I think men are so eager to get in there that they forget to slow it down once in a while. I don't desire it all the time naturally but once in a while when we're rolling it in slow motion its nice for a man to give his woman a nice slow body message. Add some supper slippery lotion... ow I'm his the entire night!!

    BTW, I love giving a man a massage. Give me the opportunity to explore his body!
     
  15. usedtobehoney

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    Go to a couples massage session! There you'll learn how to give each other massages and then it should become a regular or at least occasional part of your routine.
     
  16. Jo King

    Jo King wannabe

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    I like to get the bedroom toasty warm and rub her down with a little oil. Man-O-man she gets horny. I should do more I guess ;)
     
  17. happilyinlove

    happilyinlove with myself :p

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    Depends on the woman. I've heard / gathered that the majority of women orgasm mainly through clitoral stimulation. Fewer will orgasm from penetrative. I personally need both. They also say penetrative orgasms are the most powerful as they're felt internally and form a more primordial bond with the male mate.

    Anywho. Massages are great!! You should definitely do this for her if she's inexperienced.

    My advice, is take your time. Don't rush. Focus on the muscles, don't rub her bones (thats painful). Run your hands symmetrically (i.e. don't do something on one side and neglect to do the same on the other). Don't be afraid to let your erect member graze her body.
     
  18. Dan777

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    It's the only way my GF feels comfortable receiving anal. Give her a massage and then start focusing on her butt with some kissing and licking before moving on to her chocolate starfish. After that she's ready to take me back there, but still needs a lot of lube
     
  19. Just_a_woman

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    I'd gladly go, but my husband wouldn't. It isn't lack of knowing how to. It is lack of will to do it.
     
  20. bft4evr

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    Ha! I think eagerness runs both ways. I love having her naked body to play with - rubbing the tensions out her neck, shoulders, back, legs and feet. Sometimes she'll get so bothered from the massage she'll just push me down and mount me. Not that I mind that at all but sometimes I wish she'd wait.
     

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