Do you ever wake up in the morning, and feel that life is more than a little blue?, there is nothing it has to offer you?, and all you want and need, is a really big hug (naked or otherwise) from someone who cares about you, and yet, there is absolutely no-one around for you? If you do, what made you feel better? ...because today, I am having one of those days, and even a big tub of Cherry flavour, Ben & Jerrys, just didn't help...now I feel sick, AND I've still got the blues
every now and then... i just you know go through it. I guess is ok to feel sad from time to time, is just another feeling and the best way to say goodbye to it is by feeling it, no such thing as distractions, that just makes it grow... so you know, cry, dont get out of bed, listen to sad music and tomorrow will be another day.
I've been feeling like that lately. I have a fuck-buddy and I still get a lot of emotional support from my ex-girlfriend. But I'd like something more steady and fulfilling. There was good advice earlier on in the thread. Don't try to escape your sadness. Live it fully. Own it. Take responsibility for it. Understand it completely. The other thing to ask is (and I've been asking that myself), why are you alone? Even though I feel like I'm not in the right time and place for romance (because of the resurgence of gender roles and puritanism after the progress made during the cultural revolution), I know I have a role in creating my solitude. I am responsible for my own life experience.
At least three days a week. Two red bulls and a couple smokes and I'm off and running and I forget all about it. If that doesn't work I add a bottle of Maker's Mark. But then I can't remember my name... Nice new pic, Maggot.
I used to feel that way, but I don't anymore. A certain someone has made me feel that I'm really wanted, smart, needed, good, so many things that I had thought must not be true. And she says that I make her feel just the same way. So I don't wake up feeling this way anymore, that life isn't worth living. She fills me with optimism and warmth and love. And now I feel sorry for people that don't have that. And I hope that this feeling never ends.
Yeah.... Some days it seems like there is not a lot that makes getting up worth it and that has definatley crossed my mind on some mornings........ but I just do it without thinking about it and try to ignore whatever might be botherin me, and fake it till i make it. it works, if you just pretend like you know what your doing, other people cant tell the difference cuz they dont have a clue what their doing either..80% of success is really just showing up and going through the motions... ...I guess having a lover or a good job or an inspiring project or a good life would help and make me more passionate about my days...but right now I'm kinda lost myself trying to find some direction with that. Loneliness can be rough and people get emotionally hungry...you gotta get love from somewhere or else it really starts to get to you, and it can get pretty intense when your craving that someone to hold onto or whatever it is you need. and you search and search for that someone or some love but somehow it gets you nowhere...and you start to think somethings wrong with you when your actually a great loving attractive person.. it's like a vortex you can get stuck in, and i think one of the great ways to lift yourself up out of it is trying to help other people. people who pray for other people get the most healing... people who try to help others get their life together automatically have their life put together in the process. compassion and getting our karma back on track really lines us back up with feeling good and a little more good fortune as a result of that. I dont know what to tell you really, just follow your heart and try to do what you love(get onto what your into), or what feels right, and things have a way of working themselves out. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAj5ejxZk1k Blind Melon - Change(music video) BTW- if your gonna binge on food, binge on these - http://www.sunfood.com/cgi-bin/order/index.cgi?id=56723388176&d=single&item_id=1059&m=home these can help a lott, and i think their on sale right now.
Danke. But is it huge or is it just my computer being a fuckass? I resized the picture, but it doesn't seem like it worked. x_x
I so want to feel that again, it's the best feeling in the world. You lucky bastard. If I'm having the blues, I just try my best to ignore it, keep myself busy, be with friends and try to have fun. It'll go away eventually.
I hear you, girl. I've been outta the dating loop for nearly 5 yrs and don't seem to be attracting anyone. I work out, yeah so the endorphines get rushing lots yet that can not replace what isn't there and that is somebody in my life. The blues suck big time but having nobody to talk to at all hurts even more. I don't even really remember what it is like having someone in my life that doesn't have four legs. Wait for Spring-get outside and walk in nature. Sometimes that does WONDERS for my mood.
Thanks for all your support guys. I'm usually trying to take a positive stance on life, but maybe it was hormones or something...either way, it was not a good few days. I did enough moping and self pitying to grind the world to a halt - it was not good. Actually, I think it had more to do with having a bit of the 'man blues'. I do suffer awfully from loneliness. It's not being desperate - it's just lonely...there is a very big difference. Just thought I'd add that. That week, ALL my friends were only contacting me to tell me of their relationships, and pointing out how lucky to be alone, I am! And there am I thinking, how lucky they are to be able to love, to fight and argue, and to make up afterwards! Lol! I did, on the 2nd day of my depression, get a job interview. I didn't really make any effort at all to make an impression. I even was covered in cat hair when I went, having retrieved my cat from the fence to put him in the house, and forgetting to brush the hairs off! I was offered - and did accepted - the job within the 8 minutes of the interview. Then rang back and haggled my wages a couple £'s up...went home, sighed a lot, and climbed straight back into bed and self-pitied some more. Things have brightened up for now. I am now working there, and the people are wonderful and the environment is lovely, the job is awfully boring, but do-able, but I am back out there with a positive frame of mind, getting down and laughing and joking with people, so its all good. Bizarrest thing though... this one guy...barely spoken to, or seen him, not even looking like someone I would 'go for', (too much of the bad boy look and type), and he is married to a blonde leggy model, so its not even like I would be with him in any way, but the first day, and the last night, I had 2 very very vivid dreams of a very passionate (movie directors would be proud to produce films of that quality!) nights with him, in 2 very different scenarios...I mean - WTF!!!???!!! hahahaha! Now I'm thinking - There ya go!...it was hormones all along! Still, I can't help but blush madly every time I see him, and it's all very embarrassing, even though he hasn't a clue about the night-time adventures, and never will. It's so utterly ridiculous! Anyone got a cure to get rid of some very very very temperamental hormones! Lol!
