Do you close the door?

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by dhs, Jun 7, 2004.

  1. dhs

    dhs Senior Member

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    How important is closure in your life? I'm referring to relationships, all kinds, friends, lovers, coworkers etc. If you feel that the crossroads have arrived in a particular relationhsip do you tend to drive though them and let things fade away in the mirror or do you put on the brakes and say good luck on your right turn as I'm going left?
     
  2. olhippie54

    olhippie54 Touch Of Grey Lifetime Supporter

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    I shoot them
     
  3. Sunnie

    Sunnie Jes-Jes

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    I need closure.
     
  4. interval_illusion

    interval_illusion Deceased

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    awwww

    an age-old question.

    for this though, it's allll situational....

    if a guy wants to beat the fuck outta me (as two have), etc., etc.

    i slam the door on him.

    if it's civil and it's just about moving on our own ways, i still talk to him. i cant NOT do that because i still care (truly) about the person.

    basically....

    it's ALLLL a heart thing. my heart and my intuition tell me what to do and i follow. i trust in that.
     
  5. jerry420

    jerry420 Doctor of everything Lifetime Supporter

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    i need closure or im a mess for a long time
     
  6. olhippie54

    olhippie54 Touch Of Grey Lifetime Supporter

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    I'm actually good friends with a few past girlfriends.
     
  7. Sunnie

    Sunnie Jes-Jes

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    Me too Jerry420.

    I need to know for certain that it's the end, I hate not knowing.
     
  8. antithesis

    antithesis Hello

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    I want closure, but I never can seem to get it. People just disappear from my life suddenly, never to be seen again.
     
  9. alex714

    alex714 To the Left

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    i think im one of those people that disappear
    i just move on and dont end things rightly
     
  10. olhippie54

    olhippie54 Touch Of Grey Lifetime Supporter

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    Alex, where did you run off to?!!!
     
  11. alex714

    alex714 To the Left

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    im running down to TN to see you this time!
     
  12. olhippie54

    olhippie54 Touch Of Grey Lifetime Supporter

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    Wow!!! Too cool!!!
     
  13. fitzy21

    fitzy21 Worst RT Mod EVAH!!!!

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    my doors stay open. i still have conversations with a few of my enemy's that used to be my closest friends and we had some pretty bad fights after we parted ways. whenever i see them, we talk and then go on our way. theres no more tension, but we could never be close friends like we were before.
     
  14. nightmarehippygirl

    nightmarehippygirl LEVI'S MOMMY

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    i definately need closure. i hate when people just sort of disapear, i'd much rather have them say i'm mad at you because of such and such reason or whatever. then i would be able to get on with things without stewing about what i *might* have done wrong.
     
  15. mick_jagger_is_so_hi

    mick_jagger_is_so_hi Member

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    I need closure otherwise I am messed up for a long, long time.
     
  16. kitty fabulous

    kitty fabulous smoked tofu

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    i really, really need closure. if i don't come to closure, it haunts me. there are two people i will never get over. i never reached closure.

    one of my best friend right now is actually an ex. we were able to maintain a friendship because we stopped trying to suffocate it in a relationship. but we still had to reach that point of finality; we had to shut one door firmly and with purpose before we could open another. and it didn't happen over night.
     
  17. HoneySuckleBlue

    HoneySuckleBlue Cosmic Artist

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    Though I need closure, people get sucked away from me all the time. I'll dream about them for years after till the friendships/relationships or whatever run their course in my head.

    It's mostly because of moving all the time, but there are some people who I just ache to see again...like long lost family.
     
  18. -GOD-

    -GOD- Banned

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    I have actually remained good friends with Holy Mary. It's not like it used to be but Joseph put an injonction. We've settled things out of court so I don't pay an infinite amount to her.

    Jesus hangs around one week-end out of two. We shoot a few pools, change a few bottles of natural water to wine and party.
     
  19. booshnoogs

    booshnoogs loves you

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    I find that it's extremely important to never let an ex-girlfriend have closure when I break up with her. She must never know the reason for being dumped.

    That way she's in emotional turmoil which makes her pretty easy to nail for a few months as she tried desparately to get me back.
     
  20. -GOD-

    -GOD- Banned

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    That too, my child...that too...
     
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