Do you blame yourself when he can't keep it up?

I have a partner that tells me how hot I am & how my body turns him on etc. I'm sure all you ladies have heard it.. He gets a nice big erection when we ar in forplay & hods it quite nicely while I am giving him head. The thing is every time, yes every time we move on to intercorse he looses it if not right away soon after.
Needless to say well before I have gotten off. That is frustrating to the nth degree for me. I want my jollies too & I want it from intercourse. I have many times from other men they just have to keep their tool functioning for at least a few minutes to do the job.
So on top of this frustration I am asking myself what is it about the acutual act that causes him to not be operable. The first time we were in bed together this didn't happen. It was quite satisifying. If not I actually may not have done time number 2, 3, & 4. Actually there was one night that he was calling to make it time 5. I knew it was his night to call so I screened my calls & didn't pick up. I want to get this worked out in my mind before we go on to time 5.

What do you folks think I should do?

 

At least he can get one at all. My ex couldn't get a full one, or keep a half erection at all.

 

I've only had it happen once, but yeah, I did kind blame myself. And the dozen beers he'd had right before. But, anyways..


like jester suggested, check out cock rings, they can really help sometimes

 

crush up a couple viagra t throw in his drink.

 

hmm my ex seemed to have trouble with that .. and he was only 23 ....

I personally think its because he was a freakin weedaholic/alcoholic ... so, not my fault. He'd just always show up "affected" by something.

 

He called me again last night so there is something that interests him....

As far as him taking care of me. That is part of what is so frustrating. The last time he was here I spent so much time trying to keep his tool functioning that basically that is where all the energy went & finally he got off before ever actually doing all that much for me. Our relationship is basically only a sexual one & we basically are in a booty call schedule.

I probably should have mentioned that because it occurrs to me that could be a factor.

So anyhow, he works nights & stops by on his way to work so there is only so much time. I don't say that this is ideal but it is what he can do, I'm not making excuses for him but I do understand that once he was done he had to get on his way to work. I'm actually thinking of telling him that he needs to stop by earlier. I have set the time the past two visits so I could tell him an earlier time to a,) see if that would help b.) give us time for him to do his duty for me too.

 

If he has a heart condition I could end up in one of those stories of the man dying on top of me. I'm don't want to be in the headlines as a black widow character.

 

Well im not sure why he cant keep it up, it could be nerves but i wouldnt worry about it being you... no man arranges a 5th booty call with a woman he is not attracted to... no man.

 

Why isn't he getting you off orally? I mean, if you're giving him head, why aren't you getting head in return? Doesn't sound like a situation I would return to...

As for problems keeping it up, is he using condoms? When my fiance and I started dating, we had this problem of him losing it when we moved on to sex... But once I went on the pill and we could do without condoms, the problem went away... Obviously if he's just a booty call, I wouldn't suggest going unprotected with your man, but could that be the cause (in which case it clearly has nothing to do with you)?