Do you accept this as a form of cheating?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and we get alone so good or so I thought until I found sexual txt messages to another woman. When I confronted him about it he said that he was just talking trash and there was nothing to it. To me it is a form of cheating. It hurt knowing that he was txting another woman trash like that. I told him that he really hurt me and he begged me to forgive him. I did of course but now I have this little what if he is still in contact with her and has gotten sneaker about hiding it. I don't really know what to think. Maybe I have the wrong idea of cheating, I don't know. HELP! I need other women's view on this.

 

stuff his balls up his ass and kick him to the curb.....

 

Word!

 

I think it's a form of cheating. Absolutely.

EDIT: oops, you asked for women's opinions. Well...whatever, some dude thinks he's an asshole too.

 

Your boyfriend sounds like a twat, you're better off without a cheating scumbag like him.

 

Cheating is any behavior that is not acceptable to the partner. If you think it is cheating than it is. No question. Yes, I think it is a form of cheating.

 

Me too.

 

What a dick. I'm not a girl sorry =/. But that is a form of cheating and it's just wrong. I say you should drop his ass. Hope my post helped you.

 

I know this is my first post and everything, but seriously, kick that guy to the street. Tell him to go play in traffic. Actually, don't even talk to him, throw his crap out onto the yard and have a garage sell. To me, even thinking about cheating is cheating in my book, it means you have the intetion to do it, and you would have at the time being if given the chance. If that makes sense. You can do better then him.

 

i think its a form of cheating defo!!.... it would be different if they were jus texting as friends in a friendly way but this involves sexual stuff.... dont allow your self to get treated this way!

 

this has happened to me before...

if he was texting her like that, maybe he was seeing her as well. its cheating either way.
when it happened to me i forgave him, and his behavior continued. break up with him before you waste any more time.

 

I'd definitely say that's cheating.

Drop him and find someone who actually deserves you.

 

yep. its cheating.

 

find someone who is trustworthy
peace

 

Mixed opinion here, I believe it depends if anything has actually come of it/the nature of the messages... I generally have a very close physical relationship with male friend sI have, and sometimes conversations/texts so stray into the general region but we don't mean anything by it. It's just a bit of fun.

However if it's complete smut, then yes I would see it as cheating and dump his sorry ass.

The man next to me agrees that it's a form of cheating

Peace
Akai-Chan

 

If it's behind your back, then yes it is cheating. He's engaged in sexual pleasure (emotional and psychological) with someone else that is and should be only expressed to you in a relationship of equals.

 

its so cheating .....thas happened to be with on of my ex bf. He tried to hide it but i found out he kept doing it ...and with who i thought was my best friend.
i dunped them both.

 

even us guys know thats cheating, as for telling you what to do i wont waste my time

 

It's a form of cheating.. I rely on my gut feeling and inner self to determine these things, and when I think of texting some other girl even without telling my significant other behind her back, even if its just chatting, I get a gut feeling its wrong..

So texting about dirty things behind anothers back.. I'd consider it cheating, for sure.

People tell you about trust and just "trust" the other person. I've always found people to be horrible, immoral things. Set up boundaries, and open up communication and realize this other person is truly your other half.

What do you have to give up? I mean, besides not telling her/him about going out or talking with someone of the opposite gender in total secret, not much.

We build walls to protect our cities, and leave our gates open in total trust. Your boyfriends wall is built, but the gate isnt completly open.