Do women like sex?

My wife hates sex. Only ever did it to get kids. She’s the only woman I’ve ever been with so I guess I have a hard time believing any women like sex. The first the anyone will say is well you aren’t good at it. Could be but when we had sex I always made sure she finished at least once and usually multiple times.
My suspicion is that while she is not a sexual person generally, she is just isnt attracted to me. A few times early on she would tell me she thought of me as a friend more than a lover. These days she says she was just young and immature when she said that but that’s something that stays with you when you hear it. It never occurred to me before I got married that people didn’t have sex in marriage. Living with a wife/roommate is a soul crushing experience. It steals your confidence. When I make the mistake of bringing it up she will justify it by telling about all the women she knows that don’t have sex with their husbands and how having a real relationship doesn’t require sex.
She claims if she got with someone else that she would probably have sex for a little while with them but it wouldn’t be long before she would be back to not wanting it. She’s also went to counseling for her issues with sex. If I dare ask how it went it just turns into her accusing me of just wanting her fixed for sex. So I no longer ask.
So yeah I’m jilted when I say women definitely don’t like sex. I’m on a stupid online forum airing my dirty laundry because I have no one to talk to about this.

 

You have a sample of 1, and a bad sample at that. Other women like it and want it. Maybe you should talk to her about going and finding yourself one that does.

 

:-( so sorry! It could be she’s secretly more interested in women. Hope the best for you!!

 

Very few people hate sex. That's why the world is so populated. We are all sexual beings.
You've only been with one woman so your far from an experienced expert. From what you've wrote its clear that you both have some serious issues.
You have some self esteem issues and because of this have you allowed it to get this far because your afraid to bring up the conversation. Bad idea, look where it's gotten you now. As with any marital issues the longer we avoid bringing up the issues that bother us the harder it gets to bring up as time moves on. It's called resentment. You've got a lot of that going on now.
Her, sounds as you describe that she bending reality to validate her cause about women not wanting sex. You really don't believe that do you? You say that she starts accusing you of wanting her for just sex if you ask questions about her counciling sessions and intimidates you from asking further questions? And you back down? If you don't stand up for yourself who is?
And I do believe her when she says she's not attracted to you. Most people don't get more attractive with age. So if she wasn't attracted to you then I'm pretty sure she's not now.
Do you make a lot of money? That could be the reason she's with you.
Good luck.

 

I love sex!

 

In my opinion if a woman does not like sex, she's never had good sex.

 

I am not a doctor or psychologist. That said, further counseling needs to happen for both, and I don’t mean marriage counseling. I think individual counseling. Obviously, the marriage is still intact. That said, I believe a marriage counselor would say sex comes with most “normal” relationships.
There truly seems to be disparage on his part, and a dominant wife who has her thumb on him and he has no say so in the matter. Surely he needs to man up and confront the issue. Respectfully, I surprised this relationship has survived this long. He drowning and she not willing throw him a life ring.

 

We know you do and appreciate it very much so. But on another note if you’re not happy in your sexual life it might be time to move in to someone that will appreciate you in a sexual way. It’s a tough choice you have to make for sure. But communication is key to a healthy relationship in any form.

 

That completely disregards asexual women--of which the OP's wife may be.

 

OP not sure himself what his wife likes. Most women enjoy sex of some kind. I've had female friends who only liked women. and I'm sure they enjoyed sex, just not with a man. And it's a free country, and they can do as they please. I do feel people who have a good sex life helps them be happy with other aspects of life.

 

I agree 100%. It’s primal human nature. A sexuality is in a list of many popular trends, but sex is a basic human need and that includes women. I am very proud of my wife and her sexual needs and desires.

 

I live for sex!

 

There could be any number or reasons why she does not want to have sex, stress is usually a big one either from work or from dealing with children’s needs are common reasons.
She could also have a hormonal deficiency, sometimes women after child birth can have a hard time getting back to normal body chemistry with hormones and what not.
It could also be a connection thing, women often have to feel connected to their spouse to be sexual.

Usually first steps is to see her OBGYN and make sure there is not a physical problem that could be causing the issue.

Then of coarse next steps would be to talk to a professional, both of you, because if she’s the only one going she will feel she is the problem and that she is broken, but it could be more complicated than that. You two could have a connection issue and she feels your more a roommate than a husband, which happens more often that your think.

best of luck and I hope you can find some answers and solutions

 

Wish my oh did!!

 

Jenna makes up for all the women who don’t like sex!

 

I am fortunate that my partners all enjoy sex and over the years have had countless partners. It is a major turn on for me and for them that I too have been with many women. Our relationships are open, full of comfortable and erotic fun, satisfying conversations as well as wild sex. I applaud women who are comfortable with themselves, know what they want and I respect those that do.

 

Far out, if I'm not getting it at least once a day I'm a fucking cranky bitch

 

There are women who live sex. I know/knew lots of them.

 

well while she may have not been overly communicative, she has said what she likes. I’ve also blatantly ask her if she was asexual. She knew what it meant and immediately gave a strong “nope” as a response.

 

Yeah I think to say if a woman doesn’t like sex, she’s never had good sex, is a disservice. My wife has had great sex. I can (or could) make her squirt. I’ve given her orgasms until she said she couldn’t handle anymore. She hates sex because she was sexually abused a long time ago. She just can’t shake that and long ago I decided I’d rather go without than feel anything like what I did when we had sex. That she was tormented by sex and she’d rather be dead than be there.
She’s not asexual. I’ve flat out ask her if she was. She knew what it meant and she said “no” convincingly.
What has happened to me is she’s the only woman I’ve ever been with and after a couple decades of hearing how much she hates sex and how all the women she knows hates sex, I guess I just don’t see that any women like it. I hear it but personally, I’ve never seen it or experienced it.