Do Men Enjoy Sexting/ Online Masterbating With Partner?

So I slept with this guy who lives in a different part of the country than I do about 6 months ago.

We've kept in touch, but are only friends and said we'd like to do it again if we're ever in the same city. (And both still single). It was great but was cut short due to extenuating circumstances (bad roommate situation).

Every once in awhile he wants to talk about that time, and what we would have done if we weren't interrupted. It's just shy of actual sexting. I've masterbated during our conversations where he gets into it, and told him during.

He really wanted to meet up when he was home this summer visiting, but I was away for work. Next month I'll be in his area for a weekend, So we have a tentative plan to have another rendez vous.

Here's the thing, I enjoy sexy talk. I'd rather talk about what we would do to each other than get off to Internet porn. I love it when a guy tells me he's horny and thinking about me at a random time. Instantly turned on. But, I've sent him literally 100 pictures over this time, and he's never sent me one back. He talks about hypotheticals, but has never fully gone "live to air" so to speak with "I'm licking your pussy or teasing your clit". I'm older than he is, so maybe he's just not comfortable? Or just not into sexting?

I've been with some guys that are superstars in erotic writing, so maybe I've been spoiled. Are some guys not interested in it? Don't know what to say, perhaps? Or just don't care to write down a play by play?

I left the ball in his court with the whole thing, told him what I wanted. I don't feel like I should bring it up again because I don't want to make him uncomfortable. But I am a little disappointed.

Spending a long distance month sexting would make it so angsty and hot before we actually met up. I also have a short attention span, and unless my interest is kept, I may just find someone more geographically appropriate.

Basically I wrote all that to get a general idea if many guys like sexting in a long distance situation, Or if they're shy about it.

Thanks for any advice.

 

I can't speak for all I guys out there, but I love sexting. There has been times I've maturbated during sexting with my wife. I think it makes for hotter sex when we finally get together. Describing every detail of what we will do to the other is great! We have even went as far as to send dirty texts to the other if we are running errands or picking or dropping off kids our kids lol.

My job takes me out of town every third day, so we use that to kinda fill in the gaps if you will lol. Maybe this guy doesn't feel comfortable with it?

I know from my stand point and in my opinion, I think it's awesome!

 

Well, we aren't dating each other and won't be in the future. But I figured that autonomy was the perfect storm for sexy texts?

Tried to "like" your response but apparently I'm cut off for the day.

Thank you for the response. I know it's not an Everyman likes or doesn't like. I just haven't encountered many men that don't.

Or maybe I’ve maintained relationships with those that do, because I enjoy it?

The plot thickens...

 

Personally I think its fun but I suppose like everything else there are those who enjoy it and those who don't.

 

if it's someone i give a fuck about and i know i will see again soon, heck ya. otherwise sexting with random strangers is super boring.

 

I certainly have to be in the mood for it, and also give a shit about the guy.

But my experience with long distance boyfriends, is they're usually (or always) in the mood for it.

As a female, having sex isn't a difficult feat. Possibly one of the easiest things to accomplish. Which is why when I don't have a boyfriend, I'm very choosy about who I have sex with. Ive never been interested in the stranger-at-the-bar scenerio, too scared of getting murderered or accidently getting with a douchebag (shudder)

Thanks for the responses!

 

I can only speak from my point of view. I would think any guy would love to share sexy texts back and forth. I love to talk about sex!

But then again, that's just my opinion lol

 

I love sexting. So hot. But I'm a writer and have been told I'm good at getting my sexting partner off. It's only good if the other person responds openly. At least for me.

 

I find both sexting and porno boring...if it's not in person then it's not worth the time; just my preference though.

 

Well I love sexting and talking sex with the wonderful people on here but sexting my wife (including explicit emails) takes sexting to a whole new level. We've had many a great, frantic sex session that was started by a well worded sext.

Note to self; sext wife tomorrow asap!!!

 

I'm sure some do. But setting is not my cup of tea.

 

I think sexting your partner and sending explicit emails to each other is a wonderful pastime. It's amazing how, when it's done right, you 'feed off one another.' One explicit message should lead to another equally or more explicit message and so on.
But I accept that if it's a one way thing, then the enthusiasm for sexting your partner quickly wanes, especially if you're telling him or her what you'd like to do in bed, for example, and the answer comes back along the lines of 'sounds nice. What would you like for tea tonight?'
So YES, sexting your partner works wonderfully when it's a two way thing; I simply love exchanging sexy, filthy messages with Little Wifey!

 

yep, sexting is too vulnerable for me if its not reciprocated. My wifes only cell phone for the last....10? years has been a work phone, so not exactly prime sexting material.

 

It's not quite sexting or online but my wife and I had the most amazing masturbation session over the phone this week! Listening to our pleasured moans as we told each other what we'd like to be doing to one another was incredibly erotic and....we even came together; not something that we often manage when we are actually together.
Considering we were 50 miles apart, it was one of the most amazing handjobs my wife has ever 'given' me.
Did I mention that she came three times during our session?
Simply incredible and very erotic!

 

As an Indian man I can say that I really enjoy having some entertaining sex talks with Indian girls both through usual chats or Skype and through phone conversations (phone sex, you know). About your problem I can say that maybe your guy is not up to such a type of conversations and maybe he feels uncomfortable because he's not really interested in sex chats. Or maybe that's because of the lack of fantasy. Different reasons can be.

 

As another poster said it has to be reciprocated. Sometimes it can be fun with someone you know or with random strangers (I did enjoy role playing scenarios at one point). Some people are really good at it and are into it, or they are just not. Just the way it goes I guess.

 

I think a lot of that has to do with how well someone can communicate in writing. It's hard to get into a good role play or sexting conversation because many people don't have much of a range in vocabulary.