Do I have a Right Be Upset Over This???

Alright this has to do with prom, well here goes. This has been on my mind for the last couple weeks with my girlfriend, I'm currently graduated from high school and she graduates this year from a different school then I did. Last year I had a disastorous prom experience...... I sort of got forced into asking a girl to prom who I didn't really want to go with in the first place but I was going because I didn't have anyone else and we were just friends..... Make a long story short the bitch ended up ditching me so I was by myself the whole prom night, I was with friends but no date.... I made the best of the time but still it did suck....

Well since my girlfriend has prom this year I figured she would love it if I took her to her prom.... WRONG! Apperently she made plans months and months ago to go with another guy to prom, she says the guy is gay but whatever I don't care, I don't want her to go with another guy. NOW, If I had a good prom last year I don't think I would care as much but I am dying to re-do my experience this year with her but it doesn't look like this will happen unless the guy really thinks about how much I care about this if he were in my position. He knows that she is with me, about the only thing I can do is keep trying to convince her to say no to him or hope he doesn't ask her..... I will be heartbroken if she says yes to him.

Am I wrong to be upset about this? Anything more i can do to talk to her about it and try to convince her to let me take her? I know I can't force her to do anything.

What should I do everyone?

 

Why can't you all three go together? Maybe have her gay friend bring someone else along? Nothing wrong with going as a group.

I think you should have a happy prom.

 

I know, I don't understand why this other guy could not go with another person. Since I don't go to that school she also thinks that I will not know anyone either. yea prom is about having fun and being with friends but if your in a relationship you should be there with your partner, even if he is only friends with a few of your friends.

 

I know, but why couldn't the 3 of you go as a group? You and your girlfriend could still find time to be alone.

I think she's being just a *tiny* bit selfish. Even if she still wants to go with her friend, why can't you go too?

 

Hell you guys could even bring more friends. People you know and people she knows. I just don't see the big deal, and why she doesn't want you there.

 

Well It's something I'm going to have to talk to her about tomarrow, and I don't want to go running to her friends to try to have them help persuade her, Hell her best friend is another gay guy and he is even upset with her that she is going with someone other then her boyfriend, her mom even asked her why she is not going with me.... I know she is starting to feel it more and more, and I'm hoping it really hits her when it gets down to it and follows her heart, It's my job to sit down and talk with her and I've done so many many times already. I really don't think she knows how heartbroken I will be if I don't go with, and it's desision I think she will regret making as a couple, This is an opportunity I will NEVER have again, I cannot re-live any of my high school career and now is my last time to ever have anything to do with it. I hope her heart tells her the right thing to do because her mind is telling her to keep the plans she made months and month prior to our relationship. Hopefully she will understand how I really feel tomarrow. **Tears**

 

good luck man just tell her how much it would mean to you

did she make plans to go to prom with this gay guy before you started dating? but it still shoudltn even matter i cant really believe why she doesnt want to go with you

hmm
im in high school and im getting ready to go to my first prom any tips or advice??

 

Said and Done, I'm not going with her.

Yeah I'm pissed, And always will be a little pissed, but I looked at it in the long run. I'll have about 500$ to spend on myself, instead of her since I won't be the one who has to take her........

Words of Wisdom for your prom. Make sure your comfortable with your date and know what to expect from them, You want to go with someone who you can be yourself around and not be afraid to do so. Thats the biggest thing right there, if you can't dance, who cares, just be yourself and enjoy the night.

 

Sorry your girlfriend is such a bummer!
I feel genuinely sad you're not gonna get to go to prom.

 

lawl she's going with a gay guy

 

Yeah, I supposes if you find it funny but at least she has enough respect to go with a gay guy and not a straight one. If she even thought of going with another straight guy I'd dump her ass in two seconds, but since i know it's her best friend and she just wants to have a good time. Just as long as I'm the one that gets to take that prom dress off later that night, I've really got no problem with it anymore.

 

Bummer dude,

My take on it is that you're disappointed about the way your prom turned out and were hoping to treat her prom as a second chance to have a good prom for yourself. You are less concerned about the fact she is going with another person.

IMHO, her prom wouldn't make up for your bad experience. Additionally, a HS prom is for high schoolers. I know you're only a year out, but, believe me, it is kind of awkward for adults to come back for the HS party( I got forced into taking my cousins friend when I was 19). I think she is probably feeling that it would be awkward for both of you, which is why she decided to go with someone else.

I would just step back and let her have a good time. She is likely going to be faithful to you. If she is unfaithful, then you can be mad, but not over this.

This is just my 2 cents. Sorry you're bummed

 

Just my thoughts: It seems that she didn't care enough not to hurt you. It wasn't accidental. She knew that by refusing to go with you it would hurt you. And she chose to do that. Perhaps you're ok with being involved with someone who would hurt you on purpose. If so, then it's your life. But remember, she doesn't mind hurting you, and because of that, she will likely do it over and over again.