do girls have this problem?

Discussion in 'Masturbation' started by wiggleworm, Jun 27, 2013.

  1. wiggleworm

    wiggleworm Member

    just wondering if there are girls out there whos bf, hubby or who ever just dosent want to have sex? its like no matter what I do, its always "are you complaining again". good lord I hope not.
     
  2. I had that situation once. I kinda was annoyed by how he acted like he controlled when so I kinda stopped then he stared asking and I rejected him for three months to give him a taste of his own medicine.
     
  3. silk896

    silk896 Member

    Be like me.

    Stay single and cruise bars.

    One night stands tend not to say they're not interested.

    (Just joking)
     
  4. kp2640

    kp2640 Member

    You are asking girls this question. I'm a guy but I'm going to add anyway. I have experienced this same situation with girlfrieds at various times for various reasons. sometimes it is a short term distraction caused by some sort of stress that distracts a partner's attention away from sex. Sometimes two people have different levels of sexual appetite. That can become very frustrating. Sometimes is can be a medical/physical condition that is either reducing drive or influencing performance. In any case I suggest that you talk about this. If it is stress, maybe your partner needs someone to help work through stuff. If it is sex drive see if something will work to increase that. If it is a physical condition (endocrine imbalance, erectile dysfunction, pain/injury etc.) he definitely needs your support both in seeking proper treatment and in assuring him that just because something needs adjustment does not mean he is less of a man.
     
  5. MissPassion

    MissPassion Member

    Oh my goodness you hit the nail on the head with this one! I am married and my husband will have sex with me maybe once a month - and it's not even good! I think its more of an obligation for him but if I talk about it and ask him why he gives some lame excuse and tries to blame it on me. He'd rather just go in the bathroom and watch porn with his cock in his hand. Sorry, I am just extremely sexually frustrated!!!

    So, what if he masturbates almost every day and never have sex with me, his wife? What might that mean? Obviously there is nothing wrong "down there" right? All I can come up with is he has a porn addiction or he is trying to be controlling with sex. I just don't get it and don't know what to do anymore and I am sexually frustrated!!!
     
  6. Mrs.H

    Mrs.H Something Witty

    To me that screams selfish. He may enjoy something he watches in porn that he is afraid to admit to you that he likes. Or maybe he feels that you wouldn't accept? Have you ever tried to be part of his porn/masturbation sessions? Would he allow that or freak out? If he freaked out it is very possible that he is into something that he doesn't think you'll agree with or handle well. Just a thought, as I don't know him personally. If I were in the same position I would try to get in on a masturbation session with him. Show him you can handle it, and then even if you didn't get any play the first time, I think it would do wonders for your sex life later. If you show him you can be into the same stuff, you can really let loose together. And if there is something he is into that you can't agree with or work with, tell him he can enjoy that alone but that you need him to be present for you sometimes too. To me it all sounds like there is shame and he's trying to hide something from you because he would be embarrassed if you knew.
     
  7. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    My fiance used to expect to have perfect conditions in order to have sex. I mean he'd have to not be tired, not be hungry, not having just ate, and no one better be home. I thought that was annoying because at his house his grandmother seldom came out of her room.

    Finally, maybe from not being used, my disappointment, and the lack of spontaneity, he started having problems getting it up. When he finally was able to again he stopped being an asshole and appreciated when I actually gave him pussy.
     
  8. RainyDayHype

    RainyDayHype flower power Lifetime Supporter

    I've only encountered this once in my last relationship and never again, I hope. If I did run into this problem again, I think I'd leave the relationship immediately. I tried working it out with this guy and it just became a disaster.

    That is how the last guy I was with was. I could not stand that. It was so frustrating. I felt like the roles were reversed- I was the man and he was the woman. I'm up for sex anytime, no matter what's going on.
     
  9. nz male

    nz male Senior Member

    I had sex with my wife today & she showed no interest in doing anything to me.
    Yes, she was well awake at the time. She possibly just wanted to be seduced & let me do what she allows me to do to her. She does do things sexually to me other times thou in bed if I either ask her to or she does it without being asked.
     
  10. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    Same here. I like the idea of my guy wanting me and just taking me whenever he feels like it.
     
  11. sojourner777

    sojourner777 Member

    Could you sprinkle some of that fairy dust on my wife, and supersize it please!
     
  12. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    Of course! :D
     
  13. sojourner777

    sojourner777 Member

    Thx!!!
     
  14. MissPassion

    MissPassion Member

    Ok I'll try not to write a book here but we'll see...
    So one time when we were dating he was laying in bed and I said I had a surprise for him. He said in disgust, "it's nothing sexual is it?" Luckily it wasn't but ever since then I just figured he wasn't into that sort of thing??? So I have never asked not brought it up at all. I've thought a lot about bringing the porn in the bedroom if that's what it takes but I'm scared of his reaction and a little afraid that if that is why it takes, what's wrong with me that I don't do it for him anymore?
    As for him maybe being embarrassed or something, I've seen the Internet history and he doesn't watch anything crazy, usually just older women with a young guy (doesn't help my situation, I am younger than him and look real young). Although i do think he is insecure in a way because he doesn't like the lights on and he always has me in a position where I can't see or he'll cover my face so I can't see. Strange I know.
     
  15. MissPassion

    MissPassion Member

    Ah, the good 'ole days! That's the way I like it too! You hit the nail on the head with that one!
     
  16. BtrFly

    BtrFly Member

    I get that. I feel like my husband never wants to have sex and when we do, it's all about him.
     
  17. MissPassion

    MissPassion Member

    Yep! We barely ever have sex and on the rare occasion we do, I'm going to use a guy terminology here, he lays there "like a sack of potatoes". I do all the work and when he's done he's up and out.
     
  18. BtrFly

    BtrFly Member

    Yup. I want a man to take his time with me.
     
  19. PineMan

    PineMan Senior Member

    Was it in the movie, "A Million Years B.C.", where the lead female (Raquel Welch?) was in the cave with all the other Neanderthals? One of the men comes up to her, grunts & makes a hand signal, hooking the fingers of opposing hands together, then proceeds to take her doggy fashion.

    The story then proceeds that because she went out hunting, which was exclusively a male oriented task, she was cast out of the group, when she went out into the wilderness, later to become the single mother to the son of the one who had taken her previously.
     

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