Do and Don’ts of sharing your wife

I’ve shared my wife with a good friend of mine a few times, we had so much fun and we all enjoyed it a lot, it was amazing and can’t wait to do it again. That said I started thinking I can’t see my self sharing my wife with a stranger and off the top of my head I got a small list of who I would be ok with, so I would like to know what are the Do and Don’t s of sharing a wife or husband I’m pretty sure it would be different per Person.

 

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I'm sure your wife has a handful of people in mind that would only make the cut. Strangers are a bit of a risk, me and my bf stick to his or my close friends usually unless we know it's totally safe.

 

Back in our 30's when we did it, there was a list of unwritten rules. It could not be one of our friends. She had to know and trust the person. It could only be a one-time event. Condoms were required. she would tell me about it.

 

At first we ruled out friends and co-workers, but later we expanded to ones we knew was discrete. We knew many of our friends cheated, but a few were into open sex.

 

I wouldn't share my Wife with friends. She would have to be happy with the guy or guys she sleeps with.
It would have to be her choice who to sleep with and whether I'm there or not.
If she says NO then we stop.
Wife's happiness and safety must is the most important thing.

 

Only people that we both know, get to know well and trust.

 

Agreed. Our only threesome ever (MFM) was with a close personal friend that we'd known for years and trusted implicitly.

 

The wife and I have a rule. For the mfm I find the guy. For the fmf she finds the woman. Has been working for us for years.

 

I like that strategy. Do you both pick, and run the potential person by your spouse to make sure they find them attractive?

 

We know each other very well . We don't pick the other party with out a lot of research . Neither one of us has ever been disappointed.

 

My wife and I are free to fuck whoever we want, whenever we want, man or woman. We are deeply in love after 20 years and only want each other to enjoy themselves. We don't own each other.

 

Whatever works to make the relationship stay strong and happy. I have fantasized about it and have played with other couples plenty but never all the way. It almost happened more than once though.

 

I think the Do's and Dont's of sharing your wife go a little out if the window and very hard to keep private once it finally happens. But my limited experienced thoughts are: -
Do's
100% first be sure that it is both totally what you want and discuss jealousy issues (what each of you are happy to do or happy fir the other to do).
If you both decide on a friend, it's better if he has a gf or wife to lose, so that he'd be more prone to keeping it quiet. Something we didn't do as my best mate that it happened to with us is single.
Each to their own but for me, part of the whole thrill of it is seeing your wife be fully pleasured and climax with the new guy. This can sometimes be tricky as she will be too nervous to let go or the guy equally as nervous and not get fully hard. But in my eyes you want to find a guy with a big cock for her to not regret doing it after by not cumming.
I didn't do this but I think a good idea to play with your wifes pussy and whisper you're thoughts in her ear as he fucks her the first time. Help her to cum before him.
Dont's: -
Do not get too hung up in your thoughts during or after the first time. You will think that it's 100% what you want at the time but there will be something to be jealous of. For me it was my wifes reaction when my best friend got his cock out. By that point it was too late to go back on all that we'd planned so it became even more embarrassing when she started complaining in a jokingly sarcastic manor and said something like "Oh my fucking god Cer, (giggle loud), fair play I didn’t think of you like that. But wow, I can't stop looking at it. Are you hard now?". My heart sunk a little as I knew he wasn't. He laughed and said no. It went silent for what seemed like ages so I suddenly blurted out "I'm still here mind babe". He tucked it straight back in and she sighed saying "Jake baby, it's harmless fun. You were the one that kept asking me to show him my tits and I have. Then she piped up and said look boys, this is obviously a mistake. So a big Don't, don't get jealous of the guys size.
Another Don't is never just stand back for too long watching, get into the action somehow even if it is just kissing or touching.
Have a pre agreement that the word love isn't used during or after it.
If he cums quick, make sure your wife only gives compliments, he'll be ready to go again soon as you've finished.
Don't record any of it unless its to have something on him to keep hush. We have a video of him that he'd not want us to share.
Don't let him cum inside her unless you know for sure either have taken precautions. We've been lucky as didn't think this through properly at the time as we were convinced he shoots blank but we both always pull out. But it's not nice for her having to go for morning after pill every so often. He's not really wanting kids so we've discussed both having the snip.
Don't let yourself ask her too many questions about him or is he better or bigger etc. It will only cause arguments. Use your experiences as catalysts for better couple sex.
Don't let him make your wife feel used or worthless. We're lucky as my friend Ceri has been in love with my wife as long as me. He worships her. The last thing you'd want is to see some guy proper take advantage of your wife and you feeling helpless.
Lastly, don't regret it.

 

Absolutely. In our threesome, my wife and our (male) friend kept referring to what they did together as "making love", while I really wanted both of them to refer to it as simply "fucking". It really irritated the shit out of me. If I called them on it, I was "diminishing the depth of the experience". They'd do it for me... for a while. Then they'd slowly slip back into the other terminology. I finally just gave up.

 

Yes, it's very tricky to control emotions. It was basically the main rule for me as I knew tgat my friend was in love with her. And she loosely uses the love word when being fucked. But you're wife and you're friend like reference to making love, I can understand how you'd feel uncomfortable with it. Is their sex sensual or pure fucking?

 

Don't get too uptight with your wife over it. They'll end up "making love" without you. Take as much advantage as you can of tge situation.

 

It's not a problem anymore. The threesome we were in was 35 years ago. We're still together and going strong!

 

Wow, long time ago. Think you both deserve a little fun again