Discrimination you face for having dreadlocks.

My parents tell me they look like shit (I mean...ya they're fresh), they say I won't be able to get a job, that I'm sending out the wrong message. And if I don't get rid of them I have to leave. LOL because it's their rules and I have to conform to what they want...no i'm not being dramatic they literally said that.

So I searching for a job now, so I can save up and gtfo. LOL it's about time right i mean i'm 19 it might make school a little harder but there is only so much shit you can put up with until you crack!

 

stick by your dreads! (if you wanna lol)
i doubt they'd actually kick you out
try and educate them

and post some pics!

 

I've never been discriminated against due to my hair. I've had people say mean(ish) things, that's about it.

 

my mom doesn't like my dreads(the new ones or the previous set) but has never once threatened to kick me out because of my hair

idk something just tells me theres more to the story than your telling us wild-flowers

 

Parents can be hard-ass about hair. My dad used to march me down to the barbershop when I was 13 and 6'2'' and tell the barber"give him a mans haircut"to my embarassment. My hair would end up 1/4 inch long. I hated that crap. Parents seem to want kids to conform to some 'Leave it to Beaver' world that very rarely exists. 19's probably time to go anyway, especially if as an adult, you can't get respect from those who should know you best.

 

Do your parents pay for your stuff? Like school, food, housing? I think if you live under them financially you should respect their rules.

 

and it also depends on if your acting like an adult about things

 

Wow, I find it very hard to believe that parents would threaten to throw their child out of their house because of the hair they have.

I have done a lot of things in y life that have really upset my mum and have made her so angry at me, but she has never once said that i needed to leave. She will say that at times it would have been easier if I wasn't living at home, but that she wouldn't have wanted to me to go because I'm her daughter and she loves me.

 

I really think wild-flowers should sit down and think long and hard about whats really going on and if she is really acting like a respectable adult

 

You don't even know me man, or my living circumstances so don't assume.

 

prime example of not acting like an adult

so do you pay your own bills? did you pay for the computer your using? how hard have you been trying to get a job? what do you do during the day? how much do you help around the house? do you help your parents run errands?

 

LoL how is that not acting like an adult, asking you to not make assumptions of what's going on with my home life.

 

read what else i posted please

and if you don't tell us the whole story all we can do is make assumptions

 

Well, I couldn't very well read it if you decided to add on to it after I responded..
I go to school, I'm looking for a job. I clean the house, I look after their pooch. Either way I really doubt what I do during the day has anything to do with them disrespecting me as a person there is more to a person then just their hair. No one deserves to be treated that way, and you can't honestly say the fact that i'm not employed right now means I deserve to be shit all over. Because I'am very greatful for everything I have, and I do wish I was more independent and I'm working towards it, there's nothing I want more. I shouldn't have to explain myself to you. You should give me the benefit of the doubt but instead you make accusations because you're a drama queen.

 

I went through the whole you'll never get a job with that nest on your head like that! So i ignored it stayed positive marched my ass into a trader joes and got a job. Now things are all good and im still dreaded! Life throws obstacles at you, its how you move through them that makes you who you are. Stay positive love your life for all it is and get yourself a job then what will your parents have to say about that? things work out in the long run be paitent it'll all be fine in a matter of time.

 

well if you are going to ask our opinions on this forum maybe you should go into more detail

I have a very deep gut feeling that there is a lot more to the story than you are saying

I'm 19 almost 20 and I do everything in my power to make my moms life a lot easier. I go grocery shopping for her. I take the checks to the utility companies. I clean the entire house for her so that she can relax even tho its hard to clean up after her I still do. I cut the grass. clean the cars. I do everything she asks me to without one bit of a fight. she is a disable veteran of the US Navy. and even tho we don't always get along and do argue over how to do stuff we come to an agreement.

and honestly you don't seem as grateful as you say you are your parents do a hell of a lot for you and have your whole life you should be asking them what you can do to make their lives easier.

and I am a full believer of once you turn 18 you need to earn your keep they have paid for everything you have your whole life you owe it to them to do everything they need done and want done

 

Come stay with me, wild-flowers

 

^ That's very nice of you, but maybe wild-flowers ma & pa dont want or need that, to me it sounds like they just want whats good for their kid, or gettin a job, and they're just concerned she wont get one with dreadies but she will. then she should save her $$ and do her own damn thing, that doesnt sound like crazy talk does it?

 

Thanks for the advice

 

You do that then.