Well, not exactly disappointed, just... My flatmate and my partners mother both invited themselves along, when I really would have preferred it to be just me and my partner. I really wasn't keen for my soon-to-be mother-in-law seeing me naked and such, but when my partner texted her to say I was in labour she just came down to the hospital. My flatmate wasn't as bad I guess. She helped quite a lot with giving me back rubs at the beginning, but after that it just felt like both of them were spectators. Also, they both took lots of photos immediately after the birth, so now they have lots of naked photos of me! I'm really not comfortable with this. They can show them to anyone! I don't even want them looking at them! I feel they're something personal. I already know that my flatmate's showed her mum and one of her friends, and hopefully my partners mother is tactful enough to keep them to herself, but maybe not... I'm not like terribly upset or anything. I just sometimes look back and wish they hadn't been there, and that they didn't have those photos.
that sucks, I would've hated that. Especially the picture thing, it's an invasion of privacy. Why don't you ask for them back or something, tell them how you feel about it. congrats on the baby though!
congrats on the baby!! it is a very personal experience and I would feel violated by these people and their picture taking too....I felt violated by the nurses shift change in the middle of my labour, haha, but seriously you're already so uncomfortable then someone comes along and alienates you even further?! just kindly ask for the pictures back, i'm sure they'll understand
That's awful. When I was in labor with my first I didn't let my husband call his parents right away because I knew they would come to the hospital. Seriously, they would go to the opening of an envelope... His father did actually come down and the nurse tells me this as the doctor is stitching me up...I was like "He can't come in here!!!!!!" holy shit.
hunny i'm sure you aren't the only girl whose had naked photos taken while in labor, as a matter of fact i know you're not because i've seen plenty of other moms in delivery photos, SO WHAT, it's a beautiful thing, and be thankful they didn't get a video. as for wishing u didn't have spectators, birthing is totally a spectator sport hun. everyone wants to be there, and everyone usually wants the mom and the baby to be ok. and they're there to be supportive. don't worry about the pics hun. just think about the kife you're gonna have with beautiful new born. oh yeah congrats on the lil rug rat!
oh so when u gave birth no one was there for support? you didn't have a network of family and friends surrounding you in the process of bring someone new into your life and this world?
whenever my wife goes in for delivery, I wait untill the baby is out and we are all cozy before I make the call. She doesn't like having a crowd around, and I don't either.
I had complications, and had to be sent to the operating room alone.. and woke up with a larger cut than a usual c-section. but if i was giving birth normally, i wouldnt be happy with pics. especially naked ones. if they care about you, then it would be sharing the experience to loved ones. if your THAT uncomfortable with the pics, ask for them. tell them that your not happy with that. if they really care about you, they will respect your feelings. and congrats... on the new member of the fam
If my mother in law had come onto the room with a camera I would have thrown a hissy fit of epic proportions.
The day my mother EVER enters the L & D room thats when i take the shot gun out. Through all the years she hasn't been there for me than wanting to be there for the grandchild she won't pay any attention to . omgod that will be one priceless day Now i'm being quite sarcastic!!
