Who, in your marraige, has come up with more kinky suggestions? I always thought that I was the kinky one, however my wife considers me a prude, compared to what she comes up with. She, like always, was right.
I totally get this, my ex had no imagination either. At first she seemed open to my exciting ideas, but that faded somewhat quickly. She eventually gave up on her amazing bjs and in the end even boring, straight sex was a no go. I'm hoping I'll find someone with an imagination some day.
The best thing to do in these circumstances is have a chat about it over dinner . Communication is key in a relationship and this includes sex . The alcohol does help as it loosens tongues and inhibitions . When I get chance , I will be doing a questionaire type survey for setting boundaries . This will help as well for those who find discussing sex difficult .
It was always me to come up with things to try. It usually never met with resistance. Though afterward and even years later I still get her to say weather or not she ever enjoyed any of those times. If I brought it up afterwards, her answer was usually...."well we tried it". If I bring it up now days about those things in the past its met with. " Do we even need to talk about it anymore"
I have tried that with my SO and he still says he has none/nothing. I did invest in some playing cards as a way of trying and get him more comfortable to express what he wants but there still brand new in a draw. It was worth a shot. Were just into different worlds when it comes to sex, at this point I don’t think we ever will be on the same
Thats a shame .At least you have tried but I suspect your going to become more frustrated . You could watch some sexy movies ( not porn) The Secretary for example together . Perhaps you could say "That looks fun fancy trying that?" and gauge reaction . 50 shades movie ,in particular the first one my also be a good choice . You need to keep trying .
A while back after my wife shut down sexually, I asked her WHY? She said she felt that during sex I was always flashing back to watching her during our MFMs. I asked if she enjoyed them.....YES. Was it pleasurable....YES. Did you do them willingly.....YES. So what's the problem? Why wouldn't I have flashbacks of some of the hottest sex we've had, even if someone else was involved? Go figure!
When we lived together before we got married. My wife had a sister 2 years older than her. Who was in a bad relationship, Every time she had a problem with her husband, she went running home to mother. After awhile mom told her not to come back, to work things out or divorce. So she ended up on our door-step. One night she came in our house, when we were playing, actually in 69. After a short break to find out what was going on. We went back to bed and picked up where we left off. At first my girl friend didn't like the idea, but went along, because she didn't want me to kick her sister out. We left the bedroom door open, but her sister set on the couch, with the view, if she didn't want to watch, all she had to do was move to the other end of the couch. Once she spun around to ride me. She told me I seemed harder than normal. She admitted she liked it too, even if it was her sister. She turned out to be quite an exhibitionist.
When my wife did it with me she was the kink. Never talked about it. It just happened. We rented a beach house in North Carolina once. First floor. Right on a shared boardwalk to the beach. Elevated a little. One night we had a few and we're rolling around in bed having fun. She opened the windows, put her naked body halfway out and took my fuck from behind. It was a long fuck and while no one walked by her I did see 4 people stop on the beach about 25 yards from us to watch. She didn't see but I did. I had to slow down to last but it still didn't take long. We walked by a lot of people on the beach the next day and I'm certain some had seen her getting laid. Loved it.
I'm definitely more kinky than the wife. In fact, I've given her a green light on anything she comes up with and wants to try (minus other people) We're monogamous. She thinks a lot of my suggestions are weird and is really resistant. She will fuck outside (especially during hikes in the mountains) and she'll let me use dildos on her, but other things like anal, rimming, bondage, sex chairs, role playing she's just not into. It's perplexing...
My wife never talks about sex unless it is to answer yes or no to any questions I might have. After 10 years our sex life was becoming routine and vanilla which I was expecting so I thought I would spice it up a little, I bought some toys which she was ok with and then I brought her some crotchless under wear and sexy clothing, this caused a lot of tension and i backed off and it went back to vanilla until our sex life was near zero but that was also because of work commitments too, night\day shifts. Anyway jog on to about 6 months ago we were having a session in bed and I was well buzzed on vodka and I decided to just dominate her, hard. I pushed her on the bed and through the vibe at her and told her to play with herself, I then stuck my dick in her mouth and told her to suck it you filthy whore, I was grabbing her head and pushing it down on my dick, all the time calling her a slut. I then grabbed her head, pulled her hair and told her I wanted to fuck her mouth and if it was't done right I would take her to a dogging site and make her blow a stranger, I really went the whole 9 yards and she was as hot has hell. The next morning I was having breakfast and she walked in and she had a big smile on her face and you could tell that her head was still spinning. I think she wanted to say something but she didn't.
