different age and or maturity and discipline - talk about

Talk about how a difference in maturity between partners affects your discipline. Could be any age. One older could be less mature than one younger, etc etc.


Give us the low down on discpline through the (your) ages/ psychological maturities.

 

The man that disciplines me is 10 years older than me.

 

Yeah, but please go more in depth, psychologically.
And how old is he (or you) then? Are you a teen and he's in his twenties or are you 65 and he's 75?

Do you feel you're more mature than him and you trust him more than he trusts you... or vice versa, etc etc?

give us MORE PSYCHOLOGY, people. Try to be "writer" about it.

Of course these are very personal and you don't have to if you don't want to if you've revealed too much personal identity already, etc etc.

But it makes it more interesting.

Thanks for sharing at least that though.

Man, I picked a creepy avatar. Yeesh!

 

i prefer older guys like 10 to 20 years older. im told i have a daddy complex

 

My boyfriend is 43 and I'm 26. We've been together for almost 2 years. We mess around with discipline and BDSM. He is my master and I am his slave. I do not have a daddy complex as someone in here mentioned she had... it's different. I will NEVER call him "daddy" that would be just a lil too weird for me. I think we just like the kink aspect of it all. We don't have it as a lifestyle... it's just for fun. Every now and then he'll come up behind me and smack my ass and that gets my heart racing and makes me excited. The best is when he does that in public because I have to kinda control myself and it delays the pleasure.

He also loves it when I smack his ass when I'm sucking his cock or sliding my tongue in and out his ass.

 

My current BDSM relationship, whilst not necessarily the most physically severe in terms of punishment etc, is easily the most intense of my life. I am 21, female, submissive/masochistic; He is 27, dominant/sadist. The age difference, I believe, is greater than the maturity difference - he certainly knows more about many things than me, but in terms of understanding our own identities and society I'd say we're about equal. To us both, entering a full-on master/slave relationship would be the equivalent of marriage - we have only been together 3 months, but our relationship and compatibility is clearly exceptional, so this is a possibility which has been discussed with hope for the future. We have, I believe, an equal amount of trust in one-another, but I believe that this is because our relationship, including the BDSM aspect of it, has always been based on a founding principle of intimacy. We are close - we are friends. He supports me in my goals and shows me great affection. But I am still his bitch. I serve Him. The two narratives are not incompatible for us - they are different paths to the same place. As for discipline, I would describe myself as in training.

The whole 'daddy issues' thing I'm unsure about. Maybe I do have daddy issues. I certainly have issues with my dad. And I do only really domination from males. However, the two don't really connect up for me - BDSM is, for me, a transcendent, joyous experience. To be 'on the other side', to feel yourself trip over the line where pain turns into pleasure suddenly and explosively, to genuinely honor and serve the one you love... these things are pleasurable to me. It doesn't feel connected to any root problem (and I'm normally reasonably brutal with my own psychological shortcomings), it simply feels like the most emotionally and physically satisfying way to fuck. Simple as.

Hope this helps, if you have any questions, feel free to ask

 

Very well put lol :2thumbsup: :cheers2: :hurray:

 

My wife is 25 years younger than me at 27, we have been together over 5 years after she came out of an abusive relationship. She is close to her father, but he struggles to give support and has not always been there for her. Even though she wont admit it, it is a daddy thing for her, i am her master, her father figure, her best friend and her lover all in one. We do indulge in spanking and mild bdsm which she loves despite hating it with her previous bf, probably because she trust me totally. She has admitted she was aroused growing up being spanked which her father was aware of but never said anything. she has told him now that she is spanked and he is happy that she is. Some may find that wierd, but we have found the more open we are with each other and with others, the easier our life is. Despite the age gap we are happier together than any other couple we know, so I guess it is about finding the right person for you and not being afraid to be who you really are.