Did you have to pressure your partner into trying anal?

Before we got together, she was rather "prude" and thought anything near her butt was gross. After exploring, she demands that I rub her asshole when we're having sex, she enjoys when I lick her asshole, and enjoys a little finger penetration but refuses to try anal. How could I encourage her to at least try it?

 

me i would never force or pressure my partner into any thing that they think is wrong or gross your partner or wife is some one that you respect and love and should never hurt

 

Just carry on what you're doing and let it be known what you'd like - but don't ever pressure! It won't work. Either they'll get pissed off or give in and then have a bad experience because they are not relaxed. Either way, not a good result. Be patient and you'll get your hearts desire. It's worth it.

 

It's easy, dude. Simply withhold spending until she finally lets you in her asshole. Only after you fucked her ass should you resume spending, assuming that she will subsequently want more anal from you.

 

Not at all, When we first got together she had made a few comments which led me to believe that she didn't want to try it so I never really brought it up. Then one night after sex we were laid in bed spooning and as my penis started to get hard again the tip was pushed up against her ass hole. This happened completely by accident but was a perfect opportunity to "test the waters", every time I tensed my penis or pushed my hips forward slightly she let out a slight moan of pleasure, at that point I knew she wanted it, I asked her and she confirmed she very much liked the idea. Soon after we got some lube and got busy, it took us a little while to work it all out, plus we had to keep stopping at the start because it was starting to hurt her, but once we got going it sure was worth it for both of us. Now we absolutely love anal sex and practise it fairly regularly as a special treat.

 

Alcohol is your friend. Ask her again when she has lower inhibitions.

 

Maybe she doesn't drink alcohol - what would temp her to recieve anal then ?

 

there is a little bit of pressure pushing it in, but after that, its Ok..

 

I never had to pressure a partner into anal. The last girl I was with initiated anal sex herself about two or three weeks into the relationship. I met this girl online. We were together for six years after that. We made anal sex a regular part of our sex routine as a substitute while she was on her period or had a cold sore on her mouth. It was very satisfying. Sometimes she was in the mood and sometimes she wasn't. She even let me use inflatable rubber butt plugs on her and a large glass plug we had where I could see right in her butt. Numbing anal lube and a lot of jelly lube was important. She told me I was her first anal sex partner, but I wasn't too sure about this, because she had a lot of sexual experience/partners before me. She told me very nonchalantly that when she felt like having sex she just would have sex. She was in the Navy so I'm sure there was no shortage of willing partners. Not that it should matter anyway. She told me past boyfriends asked her for anal, but she wouldn't do it. I digress... Our first anal sex experience happened when I mixed her a couple of blended margaritas and talked about who she was going for in the World Cup that was approaching that summer. We were sitting in my bed, still drinking when, with her flushed face from the tequilla, she stood up with her butt facing me and turned back to look at me and asked me,"Do you want to have anal sex?" I said okay and she undid her tight jeans and pulled them around her exaggerated hips and big butt. With her short five foot frame her curves were accentuated and decorated with a big tattoo. She got completely naked and then asked, "How do you want me.". Without using any words I pulled her on to the bed and set her down flat on her stomach with her long hair draped down her back. I then pulled off my pants and grabbed the lube we had been using earlier. Staring back at me while on her stomach she told me to go slow. I leaned over, spread her legs far apart and began to rub and pour lube over her anus and I inserted a finger to get more lube inside. I then put a ton of lube on my penis and then got on top of her back. I was really hard. Her head was turned to the side as she gazed at me with her peripheral vision. I began to enter her. Once I started to enter her I saw her gentle gaze begin to agonize over the sensations. Her expression changed and she put her chin down first to her shoulder and then to the mattress. Soon she was completely looking down with her face burried in the mattress while rythmically letting out a high pitched grunt with each thrust in. She occasionally let out a few muddled words in Spanish and English. She had handed me complete control and possession of her body. Everything about that was a turn on. As her anus began to relax I could make love to her at a normal rythm, depth, and pace. I could feel everything inside of her. I felt her tightness, her warmth, and her texture inside. I felt tight little contractions of her anus that seemed to answer the pulsing of my engorged penis throbbing inside of her rectum. It was like being connected to her pulse. The expression made me feel very close to her. Her noises and her encouragement kept coming until I couldn't hold off much longer. She told me to come. Right after she said that I increased the intensity of my motion and then ejaculated inside of her as she grabbed the edge of the mattress for dear life and let out more unique sounds. I then slowly pulled away and felt my penis being pushed out of her rectum. I was a little afraid to look down because of the smell and the little bit of mess, but I really wasn't bothered by it. I then grabbed a towel, cleaned myself off and gave it to her so she wouldn't drip all over when she got up. It was amazing. I then gave her a long, deep, passionate kiss while standing as she held the towel over her bottom. As she and I grew closer we did a lot more things and graduated to using our mouths and tongues on each other's anuses. ...videos, pictures, different positions, greater intensity, etc. My point is that you should not have to pressure a partner into doing those things. If a woman really likes you and trusts you she will volunteer.

 

I've never had to be pressured. And I don't know how I always knew I'd enjoy it, but the first guy I ever suggested to that he stick his cock in my ass, he was VERY surprised. And I never really had the pain most experience. Its just a hole that's tighter than my vagina.

 

Yes, I had to pressure my husband into our first time. We were in Jamaica on vacation and we were really drunk and aroused. I just wanted to be completely possessed and dominated by him. Once I got the idea into his head that I really wanted it, well, it was really great. I left so completely under his control it made the experience very intense. But it hurt like hell (I like a little pain with my pleasure but this was one step beyond) we didn't use lube. And it was very messy. The next day....well, my ass hurt but I felt so sexy. It was like I could feel him with me every second of the day and the reminder was another complete turn on - to know where he'd been and what he'd done. The fact that I'd been so consumed.....oh where is that man now????

 

just make sure it's the last thing in the session.
I never saw the big attraction, it's only tight at the entry, then loose.
Much better for other play during other activities since the sensation is all at the entry for both partners.

 

No my wife had done it once years ago and i was an anal 'virgin'. I asked her if she had ever done it and she said yes. That answer was all i needed to give it a try. I love it now.
These days all i need to say is im going to fuck your arse and its that easy.

 

Hitman, do you wear a condom when giving anal or use a douche first ?
Or do you wear your strap on for her to enjoy as well occassionaly?

 

I never pressured a girl into anal i would ask her if she was into anal or wanted to try anal. This was the late 80s and 90s it's alot more main stream now for hetro couples thanks to porn. My lady loves anal and talks to and brags about our anal sex life. She talked to her best girlfriend about it so much the her girlfriend finally decided to try it with her husband and they love anal too. They had been married along time never even thought about it till now. He is a big germ a fobe guy I didn't think he would do it but they did and love it now.
He needs to thank me! LoL

I told my lady now you got to take her shopping for butt plugs and anal toys and she said yea your right.

Her Playing with her butt plug makes anal sex much easier.

I talked to my lady about anal in the beginning she was 39 and had never had anal her ex husband tried it jam his dick in there once didn't work. She had never had any boyfriends even ask or play with her asshole. On our second date she was in cowgirl and put me in her ass. For her being an anal virgin we had alot of anal that night. Next time I saw her I got her a butt plug and asked her to use it when Masterbating. She used to be a stripper so she's very sexual LOL.

 

Anal whores are the best because there is no pressure in the first place. In fact, these girls love it in the ass, want it in the ass, need it in the ass, and are not ashamed to admit it. Absolutely no pressure involved in these girls because they will go straight to the point.

 

It's hard to believe anyone who's experienced anal could not be totally converted. The softness and heat; the way a woman can make the muscles flex and ripple; even the shape with the curve of the rectum is nicer. It's anything but loose.

 

Oh hell yea that's what I'm talking about great description! When she relaxes you really aren't feeling her spincters and there is so much going on with her rectom it's wild. I like to have her sit on me and open and close her spincters feels so great she has so much muscle control.

 

My first time i had to force HIM into it... B/c he was afraid of hurting me...

If she drinks alcohol would probably make her more relaxed to try it but i would discuss it sober. I only suggest alcohol to relax her for it. I'm into rough sex so for me its always been forced in quick but talking to others and the first time i can say it hurts a LOT the first about two inches, once you get past that its not so bad and can feel good. I did about once a month with an ex, we were always drunk, but he used to fuck me in the pussy first on my back and then lube it up quick and just push my legs further up and fuck my ass while he fingered me. He made me cum every time doing this.