Did She Really..

There's this girl that I'm friends(not a close friend) with which I asked out. It wasn't the best situation and her other friend was present at the time. She made some excuses which were goodish but I got the message as being a no. I guess she acts to kind to simply say no. I said "bare it in mind though" and she said "I will" as if she meant it. I then took her number.

I texted her twice with no reply so I said I'd leave it be. But it didn't take too long before I realised that she might have switched the last two digits or something, because she giggled a bit and then immediately stopped herself & apologized when giving the number. I think this might have been like her 'tell' sign as she quickly realised she could fool me. But how could someone do this without knowing they'd annoy the hell out of someone, especially if we're going to be seeing each other again(not until January)

I'd like to confront her about it, but I think the time for that was then. I was killing myself because its unlike me not to call her on the spot to check and make sure it wasn't too good to be true.. I would have moreorless caught her and made her (the one with the upper hand) feel guilty. The number has not replied in the last 20 hours. I guess it wouldn't be as bad if,
A)it was her number and she didn't reply rather than
B) it being a fake number.
At least that way I'd know that she trusts me to some extent and doesn't think I'll be like a child texting her non stop

Do you think she even feels in the slightest bit bad about this. I am certainly hurt, especially the way I remember her giggle while she watched me think I was getting her number

 

If you even thought for a second that she was giving you a fake number, then why not just throw it away, forget it and move on. Girls can be bitches, especially when they are showing off around their friends. Let it go and move on

 

nope.

 

Yeah man just leave it alone. Any attempt to make her feel bad or anything is gonna give her an opportunity to ram it up your ass again. She owes you nothing and your "upperhand" mentality is problematic when dealing with females. Develope your own policies of what you will and won't put up with from women and then stick to it. This stops the game completely but requires a certain amount of maturity to pull it off.

 

Either way, whether it's a fake number or she's not responding, you have your answer.

It sucks she is handling it this way. She should be clear up front, and nice about it too, that she lacks interest in a date. I don't know why some people think it preserves feelings by being evasive. Not only is the recipient tortured in the limbo guessing, but the perpetrator lose integrity themselves.

It might be best you move on. When you see her next, try to be as objective about it as possible. Say "sorry our date didn't work out" "if you ever change your mind, let me know". It shows dignity.

 

I already played the change of mind card. Her politeness only asking for more false hope. I certainly won't be apologizing after how she may have treated me

 

I've certainly been getting the impression you think that!

 

Personally, I think that all genders are bitches. But, since women are the topic here...

 

Let this be a lesson to never ask someone out with someone else present...it is a personal thing, make it personal, not public. If she was nice about it, she probably does not feel good and great and like she has the upper hand, if it was the case that she wanted to have the upper hand she would have rejected you right there with a laugh. You're reading too much into her response and that's not gonna help you.

 

I never thought she felt great about having the upper hand

That's funny because I had planned on asking her in person because I was aware of that I shouldn't make it public.. but for various reasons I didn't. If I got her alone I would have given it my best.. and then I wouldn't mind getting rejected. When I panic its as if there's a voice in side my head that makes sure I do everything wrong. I can't figure it out because I can't remember exactly how I feel when it happens

Reading into it will hopefully make sure I'll be able spot these things in future

 

bitches (this one in particular). don't be nice to her next time you see her, are you serious.

 

The "sorry" is not an apology. It is an expression of an unfortunately incident; meaning the date never took place.

I'm on your side here. Again, 'politeness' sucks. If it's not cordial with clarity, then I'd rather they be rude.

 

Always be genuine, even if it means you are telling her she sucks for giving a silent rejection.

My best advice to you now is don't dwell on this and don't psychoanalyze yourself too much, some of the most successful guys in business and with women don't do this.

Just focus on your life like keeping yourself healthy, organized, happy, moral and driven. When you have an opportunity to flirt take it with the intention of just having fun socializing, and if it leads to something more then good for you.

 

Pee on her leg the next time you see her

 

Yep... clearly the girl ain't interested.

AMEN!! I don't understand why some girls feel like they are "preserving your feelings" by giving you their number when they know damn well they're not interested. It's like they're afraid to reject a guy. To any ladies reading this thread, if a guy approaches you and you're not interested... JUST SAY SO. Trust me, you'll actually be doing the guy a favor.

But instead, you have girls that do what this girl did to Raincheck. And by trying to be nice and not "hurt his feelings", she ends up toying with the poor guys emotions and causing more dammage than if she would've just said no in the first place.

 

i don't think they're really trying to preserve the guy's feelings, they're preserving their own fear of confrontation.

 

Or maybe it's the only way to get a guy like say Raincheck to leave them alone

 

So girls who do not like being put on the spot and give a brush off are bitches? They don't owe you shit. Or maybe you should hunt her down, slice her up and eat her liver to teach her who really has the upper hand.

If she wants to see you, she'll contact you.

 

Yes, this too. But in preserving feelings they avoid confrontation. The thing is: it doesn't have to be either extreme. Clarity said nicely is the most humane way.

 

Found her on the fb and she's liked the following..

No I havent met Mr.Right yet but i have met Mr. Fake Mr. Rude & Mr.Player

Have to wonder which one of the three Mrs would she consider me to be?