Hello world, I don't know why I am here maybe because destiny want it. I am feeling like I am dying every moment and these thoughts are just killing me , don't want to share these thoughts . Please help me in anyway anyboy can. About 6 years ago i found a girl on one app , she was totally depressed with her life even don't want to talk with anyone , we then started our conversation and it becomes a habit , we used to talk over phone , text and video calls . One day suddenly she said that she have feelings for me, at that time I was completely shocked because I have always treated her as a friend so I just said her about it and we didn't talk for a month . After month she called me and was crying over depression issue again . We started to talk again and after some months we together fall in love , now it continues for almost 2 years and we decided to meet . Finally after all arrangements she visited me just on August 2019 and we spent 2 months together . She went back in October and now I decided to went to her in January. All things are going well but suddenly a week before she called me and said that now she feel distance with me , wants to be alone , want to explore herself and so on .... There is nothing between us over the years not even one argument . She now started to ingore my initiative and hesitate to talk with me . I am sorry for long writing but I am just feeling very low , my thoughts are getting into me daily like to jump from somewhere , my face is swelling and arms getting red day by day , don't know what is happening to my small dreams I can't live without her Please help anyone Please
I think you should take her word and leave her be for a while. If she comes back to you and talks again, or if she doesn't you will have your answer, but if you continue to press the issue, it will become annoying and aggrevating for her and your chances will be even less likely.
I'm really sorry that you are feeling this way and I hope you feel better. :'c I wouldn't talk to her and I think if she wants to talk to you she will do it when she is ready.
Thanks for help I am just confused about it , I know she will never initiate because she likes me to do so but now she even didn't want to look at my message But yes I need to kill time I guess but how that is the big question ? Thanks a lot freind
She is a bit Moody , maybe her mood changes , atleast I can hope this way (( Thanks for replying and help
I hope everything works out for you, buddy! c: Try to think positive and keep yourself occupied doing something fun or try something new. I heard working out makes you feel better. c:
Yes thanks a lot brother I really don't know what to do that's why I am here but yes I will continue with your suggestions Thanks again
I wish you the best, and while I’m sure you both receive a great deal of comfort from each other’s shared depressive state, two individuals in a relationship both suffering from the same chemical imbalance is bound to fail
Hi Rohit6738 I am so sorry for you, but there is nothing wrong to be upset or depressed. There are a lot of happy things in the world to live with them and your issue is the easiest one which could be managed to solve. Before going to our conclusion, I like to make clear some points that I am sure they could be helpful. 1- First of all, 6 years ago when you guys start communicating she was depressed and hopeless for any reason. you have treated her during the last 6 years as a human and a psychologist to get back her to normal life, so you are a great man. I am sure if anybody knows what you have done for her, will be proved of you. 2- As you said 2 years ago she told you that she loves you. Just remember she felt in love you not you, okay!! but you as a human told her the truth that she is just a friend for you and nothing else. 3- later you guys have engaged together emotionally, so, there nothing wrong. 4- Later again you guys decided to meet each other and lived together for 2 months, and managed to see each other again in January. It is fine too, nothing wrong!!! 5- So what happened? who broke the game? who feels indebted to the other? The bottom line, you have spent 6 years of your life to get back her to normal life. You have done perfectly. She fell in love first, and later you did the same. So what? who can be sure that she will break down everything again and again? I am not a pessimistic person, but logically, you should not deserve such a negative behaver which she has done. Also, I love is not a logic matter, it related to your heart not your brain, and it is hard to stand. I would like to suggest to you. Based on the above facts try to forget and forgive her, or give her more time. I am sure this type of person changes their minds rapidly, she will came you back as she did already. Also, I like to suggest you give more time to yourself to cool down and find yourself. She is not the first girle in your life, obviously, she will not be the last one. I know you are such a logical and knowledgeable man who knows how to manage his life. it is better to relax, see your friends and family frequency, even try to travel with your friends, and of course, analyze your attempt during the last 6 years for her, and what she has done for you.
Sorry that you're going through this Rohit Getting some form of treatment for depression sounds like it would be a good idea. The first post in this thread may have some treatment methods that could help Treating Depression and Anxiety I hope that things can get better soon
Stress blocks thoughts by suppressing hormones and this causes a distraction from concentration. Start by recording mental health with your emotions by forever replaying the strongest pleasure in your mind and ignoring everything else. Ignorance to everything else is a mental defense mechanism for eliminating stress by secreting hormones to reverse the process and suppress stress. Psychology has made us very, very complex organisms and reliving our happiest memories to protect our immune system from stress also protects our immune system from the pain of the worst memories. You will have a healthy concentration when you are no longer stressed but you will still remember all of the stress that you have already recorded in to your memories. Are you prepared to forgive and forget and move on for your own health? If you want the freedom to hold the odd grudge then read on... There are two types of psyche in mental health... Peace of mind and psychosis. Those with the peace of mind psyche instantly stop recording all emotional input other than direct pleasure. Those with the psychosis psyche choose to categorize, file and store away every single memory that their mind can read and replaying them over and over and over again drains them of mental health in all kinds of emotional ways. This may make them sick and even lead to a breakdown.
Sorry that you're feeling this way. Do you want to say if there's anything that you've done to try to combat your loneliness, and what results you got?
