Definition of mature man

In the last thread, i asked women how come older guys had such an advantage over younger ones. The most common response was that older men were more mature. Which brings me to my next question:
What makes a man mature?? Independence?? Age?? Behaviour??

I would really like to know, maybe i can make a better impression on gals with the right info and feedback. Thanks.

 

What makes a man mature?? IMHO, when we realize we need to be responsible for ourselves....not mommy...not daddy, but we ourselves. Taking care of life without being hounded by mom,dad,girlfriend,boyfriend. So many men replace a mom with a lady friend, and then get all weird when the girlfriend HAS to say...take out the garbage,put your clothes in the hamper,pick your crap UP...on and on.

A man, does these things. A man inquires how his ladies day was....first of conversation...not a last ditch effort to get laid...but because he cares for her well being.

A man doesnt need to insult his companion to make himself feel better, a man takes notice and compliments his lady or SO (significent other).

A man shares what he has, what knows, when to listen, when to speak. He dont need to critize, but to support. To offer guidence, not rules and most especialy Man Laws, they are just so freakin stupid.

He speaks his mind with tact and thought, not just random heated spew. He's not affraid of a mistake, he learns from it and laughts at himself for it....when you can laugh at your mistakes others laughter cannot phase you.

Admitting to a mistake. Helping the young, the underdogs, the less fortunate...simply because it needs done.

Many many other ways but these just poped out first.

Excellent thread!!

 

Thanks !!! I don't mean to sound cocky or nothing, but i am all that, i'm just glad to be your kind of mature man at least . What do you mean by Men Laws, i'm 100% open minded, i would like to know what are these, so i can change for the better. Although i HATE to be wrong, when i know i'm wrong, i just shut up, sometimes i make fun of myself. I consider myself to be 100% Metrosexual, does that help?
I totally respect women, especially when they offer me joy and respect as well.

 

exactly

Maturity involves independence and being responsible for your own actions. Everyone vents, but there's a point where it turns into whining or bitching, mature people rarely whine, they usually try and evoke some sort of change, find a remedy to the problem.

Mature people are self confident as well, which is supremely sexy. Insecurity is such a turn off for most people

 

For me, maturity means being able to handle life situations with a clear perspective.

 

trye

but the truth is, i don't know many man who are like this, even much older ones

 

Illidan, this is for you, from me.


Definition of a Man.
1) He asks about his partner’s day because he is genuinely interested not just because it is reflexive. I KNOW when your mind is somewhere else or you couldn’t care less.



2) A man never insults, but he has the balls to criticize (with grace). Lack of criticism in a person alerts me to: a) he cannot think critically and is a pussy b) he doesn’t have the balls or brains to balance witticisms with constructive or useful critique and c) he is indifferent to the world. Indifference will kill any shred of attraction I initially feel for someone.



3) A man never pays false compliments.



4) A man can laugh at his mistakes BUT does not forget their lessons.



5) A man does not take a woman forgranted, assumes she doesn’t care and should NEVER try to make decisions for her by shielding her from the truth.



6) A man is worldly. He is compassionate and knowledgeable, but always critical and searching for methods of improvement, and ways of helping others.



7) A man is political (but never a politician). He is a feminist (but not quite feminine).



8) A man is FUNNY. He can laugh at drawings on or if I sketch a caricature of his penis. Whatever floats your boat. (or sinks it if you like pirates).



9) A man has stamina. (Use your imagination.)



10) A man has foresight and exercises discretion. He will do everything in his power to make sure he is NOT misunderstood, and that he is truly aware of his potential in hurting others through inconsideration of any form.



11) A man does not see himself as the saviour of the world, announcing his arrival and departure. He does goodwill quietly, often in the background but will not avoid leadership roles to escape from responsibility.



12) A man must know how to learn and how to teach. We are all interactive beings, constantly engaged with the world through discourse and action. A man MUST realize his potential for creating change, from learning and teaching individuals ranging from children to adults. He does this by example, not lecture. His mind and heart are never closed. This is easier said than done when we or others we care about are hurt in the process.



13) A man is not afraid of challenges, uncomfortable feelings, or anger. He accepts all negative feelings and acknowledges that he can transform them into something vastly critical, useful both to heal himself and to help others.



14) A man is comfortable with the responsibilities in his life. And he strives to master all things. I do not mean this in a dominating way - only that he seeks to understand and do the best he can.



15) A man must know how to take initiative, and inspire others to take initiative. Laziness, complacency and whining with no doing are unacceptable.



16) A man must honour integrity. Broken promises and half truths linger far longer than you think.



17) A man makes an effort to know people for people, not simply for ulterior motives and his own personal agenda. However,



18) A man must have conviction! AND his own goals, aspirations and be self-motivated. We all slip up every now and then and need a friend, but he MUST be self-sufficient and grounded.



19) A man must be street smart, calculating, exact and willing to plan, and execute his plans. There must be alternatives; it’s a willingness to be realistic. If he wants something, he has to do his research. Sloppy decisions are shit. Spontaneity is great! Half-assed plans are not.



20) A man knows he’s got my back, and I’ve got his. We don’t question it. If he fucks up, that’s fine. His next fuck up will be with someone else.

 

No offense, but think it is when you don't care that much about the answer to that question.

 

Indifference? Gross. No offence.

 

Hannah, great definition of mature man, you pretty much made closure to this thread!!
Does a man like that even exists?? Lol, but really, great definition, what encyclopedia did you use?
I should post the "Definition of mature woman" thread, that should be entertaining...

 

I didn't use an encyclopedia... Yes, a man like this exists. I'm with him right now.

Though I understand time changes all things. Just sort of roll with it. But he exists. I'm not sure if that means closure to this thread. Other women may have a different idea of their "man", and other men are mature in different ways. So ..it'd be cool if others posted too.

Oh and you should make that thread!