Dealing with this

Uggghhh I dont know how to react to this. I had sex with basically a good friend of mine 2 nights back. It just happened. He never forced it on me. It was a late night and I was extremely tired and wanted to nap before I drove home, and I was kinda drunk. He was just buzzed/high but thats besides the point.

We started hanging out more eversince I got my ass dumped on the curb by a guy I liked. We enjoy anothers company very much and basically get along like 2 peas in a pond. He gives me compliments all the time, saying how cool I am and how well I get along with his little cousins and how his cousins talk about me all the time

Basically his whole family adores me, including him. 2 nights back, I decided to make moves on him as he was massaging my feet. Just to let him know Im interested. We made out..kinda passionately for about 10 minutes and afterwards, he kept smiling the rest of the night saying 'wow that was sexy' but in a surprised way. While im just sitting there dumbfounded like "what the hell just happened"

We talked for 2 hours more, it was getting late and i Was tired, I wanted to nap and we laid down. I dont know why, but I cuddled next to him and started kissing him again, we did little stuff after that and thats kinda all i wanted to do. after he gave me oral but I kept going and 20 minutes later, we did the dirty deed

I sit up to leave right after and he immediatly says "you're just gonna bail on me like that?" I was very confused and frustrated saying I had an appointment tomorrow and he says just stay with me please? I said i cant and he says will you PROMISE me you'll talk to me tomorrow? with a bunch of kisses and I promised him and he says what are you doing tomorrow night? we can go see a movie and I said I dont know, ill let you know

Basically he got clingy. Walking out he kept kissing me and hugging on me and I didnt really like it because his litttle cousins were there sleeping

I dont want to say this but during the sex, he mumbled something in my ear and i heard "love you" I didnt say anything to him about it but we're still talking like we use to and thats good. Hes happy that it happened because he wasnt expecting it, it just happened

Im not bringing drama on the table but Im just confused how to react on this. Having sex with a friend, and him doing all this. What are your thoughts?

 

Gimme his name and address.

 

lol now why would you want that?

 

tell him straight up.

let him deal with how it affects him.

 

thats what he doesnt want me to do lol last night I blew off the movie but I talked to him all night on the phone.

I just i dunno. i hate my ways. i tell myself i wanna date someone before having sex and it never works out that way. not because im a horn dog but thats how i express love and emotion you know? so i guess its a good thing we did it overall. but yes i need to get past this confusion

 

I did and he thought it was a great night, a very great night and glad it happened. but i dunno if thats a normal guy speaking lol

 

so why not just chill with him and see where it goes.

 

That was both of our intention. Im just wondering if hes too hm scared to ask me out? He gives me all these compliments and signs that he likes me but might be a little scared to do the whole sha-bang. I thought about asking him.... lol

 

then fuck it. Don't let that stop you. That'd be lame. Just ask him and move on with your lives. Good luck

 

ok then lol thank you

 

you're very welcome.

 

Well we talked last night. and boy did he read me wrong.

I was telling him how an old friend of mine came back to apologize to me last night and he knew this friend was a friend with benefits and he immediately said "like the way you view me.." in a sad pathetic voice

and i stopped and said when did i say that? he said a couple nights back..

and we got into an argument but not really arguing just debating and I said well if I said that which i dont think I did or else I would let you know, then Im sorry but I do NOT think of you that way, im done with booty calls or friends with benefits because you just get hurt and he agreed

well we went on and he says well what do you want, because I really like you and I told him I wanted dating to be an option

and he jumped and said you wanna be my girlfriend? then be my girlfriend. Im just weary on it because last time I got fucked over

and I said well do you have confidence with me? If not then lets continue to get to know another
he said I do, Im leaving it up to you though, what ever you wanna do, take your time, i'll still be around

I think im gonna wait a bit then start dating. I just wanna be single for the remaining last days lol then go for it

 

It sounds like you've got the right idea, Stacy. Just remember to give both of you some time, give him daily blowjobs, and weigh your options carefully. No one wants a broken heart.

And everyone loves blowjobs.

 

lol oh yes cause blowjobs make the world go round.

 

Blowjobs are the secret underpinning of everything that happens in all levels of government, global corporations of all kinds and all major universities.

 

This gives a whole new outlook to why all the secret meetings are all men and no chicks entering ..... :leaving:

 

^^:rofl: I ought to remind you guys to stay on topic but damn your posts are just too funny! :cheers2:

 

well update:

of course there has to be drama. He doesnt want a girlfriend for a while. Frankly I think he still has his balls with his ex. Who hates his freakin guts BTW

last night he kept going inside to text someone and i KNEW it was her and her friend talking about him and I said to his uncle, hes talking to his ex. I just know it and hes like ah she hates his guts and he thinks they'll be back together.

I just got all I needed to get from the uncle. I had a feeling he wanted that but I needed to double check

When he passed out drunk (my friend) his stupid phone kept going off and I went to shut it off and i saw "you're such an asshole" and all these bullshit texts from her, I mean she was making him feel like shit. I did feel bad getting angry at him.

I guess the broad did something bitchy to him and left his ass. I do not know that story nor do i really want to. But we are friends still, we still chill every night, he treats me like a lady, takes me out. Its just getting me mad that he cant move on from his past over one stupid broad. I told him that I dated a BUNCH of assholes and I turned out okay. I was even really IN love with one and thought for 2 years we were gonna get back together until I realized what a douche bag he is.

And thats what hes going through now...he thinks they'll be back together so hes avoiding dating no matter how awesome a person can be to him

Im laughing right now. I been through this. not a happy outcome but its relief like you wouldnt believe. I am giving up on dating. Too much drama for me and Im not even dating. Im just getting to know someone

Im deciding to avoid him for awhile until he gets it in his head that hes a fucking dumb ass

 

You are like the ultimate magnet to Men who have been dumped and keep stringing along with thier Ex's :boxing_smiley:

Would have to say take a break from it all lol. None of it makes any logical sense, and no need to keep haveing a headache over it. Relaxing for a bit might do wonders .

 

sounds like he likes you a little bit more than a friend, and has all along; he was just waiting in the wings HOPING for something to happen. you've now opened the can of worms he's probably been hiding from you for a long time. if you don't feel the same way, i would definitely discuss it with him...