I need some opinions on a situation. I have been dating a great girl fora few months. We were close friends for several months before westarted dating. She is everything I want and need in a woman. We both loveeach other.Here is the issue - she has a male friend that is very close to her. Hecalls her quiteoften and helps her with errands and other things. I don't really know ifI'm "jealous" or just uneasy about the whole situation. Well, I've beentelling her for months that he likes her as more than a friend (it was ahunch). I am now 100% sure he likes her as more than a friend (I won't gointo details, just assume that this is true).She is a very nice person ... and you know us guys (we can take things thewrong way sometimes). She treats him like a good friend. They chat on thephone and on the computer very often. She goes out for coffee with him.We have talked about it a few times and she says that she would never likehim as more than a friend. She is a very moral and ethical person but shemay be slightly naiive. She says that she really likes his friendship but isnot attracted to him. My thoughts are that attraction could develop overtime with a person you like a lot. I have asked her to confront him aboutit. She is very non-confrontational and would have a very difficult timediscussing this with him.I dont want to be the jealous type. I trust her. I want to let her decidefor herself how to relate to other people. Is this a mistake? Should I beless passive? I have been cheated on before (in another relationship). Sheassures me she would never cheat on me, but if feelings develop for thisother person and she ends the relationship with me , it would be just asbad.Can anyone give constructive advice on this issue?Tipuwww.spinthat.com
I know how you feel bro' been there before and been cheated on like you.I know how hard it can be to trust after you get hurt,but thats what a relationship is based on though.I wouldnt say your are jealous just concerned about the situation as i would be too. Heres what i would do about this... i would try to spend more time and go out with her more and then this other guy wouldnt have much time to talk with her this might work. but on the other hand have you confronted him about this to see what his actions are?? i mean not in a violent way just by having a friendly conversation with him...Or better yet try to be his friend and find out what he talks to her about and vice versa this might work to...but thats just a though..wish you luck man...peace
