Dammit, we're done !

I made a friend a few months back. We met at a music venue listening to the blues. The next day he was emailing and texting. A few days later we got together for coffee. Another day we went for breakfast and some time in the bay on his boat (docked). On another, we hit a brewery and then to his house.

It was evident to me that he was infatuated over this period of time. There's an intensity about him too, that was a little alarming. He tends to talk over me, and talk a lot, be repetitive, and not show much interest in what I had to say. Yet, there is a lot of good stuff about him. He is 59, mostly a gentleman, PhD geologist, well traveled, divorced, father of 2 grown kids, interesting, smart, nice looking. I was giving the friendship/lovership a little time, but one thing that really bothered me also is that he is a terrible kisser. I discovered that the 2nd time we went out. Another time, when we were walking out of the brewery, he asked to go on a trip together. But as I was getting to know him, there were too many dislikes adding up. It was when we were at his house, that he made a big pass at me. It was very forceful cuddling. He just kind of grabbed me and brought me back against the couch. I wriggled away, laughed it off, but then he tried again, but instead to lay down. I immediately pulled away, and told him I had no desire to do that. He was really tired though and wanted to lay down and had hoped I would take a little nap with him. WTF ??? Seriously, I told him.....no way did I want to lay down for a nap. He got irritated, and I did too. It was then I laid it out that he and I did not have any potential for something lasting. I could feel any attraction I had to him slip away. It was touch and go for another hour as he rejected that idea, and dealt with disappointment, and annoyance at me. Eventually we worked around to the solution that it would be a friendship.

So then I see him again last night. I did so because there is stuff I like about him that is fun (like dance and smoke and beer), and he is interesting (scientist, traveler). We met at the boat, smoked, got a few beers, drove to the beach, took a walk, then found our way to a lounge to listen to music. During this evening, another part of his personality came out. He always tries to change what we planned. It's ok to be spontaneous, but I had been looking forward to it all. He tried several times to get physical. He insisted that he was going to fuck me no matter what. Until he could have me sexually he would not trust me. WTF ???? But every time he touched me, I cringed. It is just awful....nothing about his hands or where he touched suits me. He kept trying and trying until I had to come right out and tell him that I don't like his touch. Of course he was mad, especially knowing that I have a lot of recreational sex, and I was rejecting him. HIM.

The show was over, and we went back to his boat, and he was pouting. Then he went in the cabin and laid down. I didn't want to join him and he got really mad again. So he walked me to my car but stomped way ahead of me. It was then I decided I'm done with him. Except I have his damn sunglasses in my car.

 

Drive round when he ain't there and leave the sunglasses on his boat.

Sounds to me like you're well rid of him, hun.

 

Good idea. It'll have to be in the office, but that will work. Thanks.

 

Another BOY in mans clothing. As soon as you said "he doesn't listen-he talks over me",I could pretty well figure out what was coming. To talk with some people is like trying to talk to a radio that's on! IMO,what's truly important is to have the quality of actually being interested in the lives of those one meets. Can't be faked---for long.

 

No kidding ! Several times, he would interject something right in the middle of me talking. I would patiently listen, and then resume what I was saying. Also too he kept insisting he was a great lover, and "knows his beer". Really silly....like trying to build credibility. It's not attractive at all. What a pain.

 

drat! sunglasses!
yep, foiled. just when you thought it would be a clean break, there's that one little thing that complicates shit. one could see it as a opportunity to "man up", you know, like he is having a hard time doing.

 

Throw the fricken things away and move on. Sounds like he'd just resume his little pouting act if you bother to see him again. JMO.

 

yep, going to drop the sunglasses off at the yacht club office. He can get them there.

 

He sounds too much like my brother-in-law

 

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Too bad people on the hunt for--well--you know--aren't required to pin signs on their chests that one could read . Eg: Hi. I'm basically a good guy,but if you have sex with me once,you'll never see me again. ---Hi. I'm a pretentious prick that will humilate you often ,but you will love it. Hi. Even though I'm very beautiful and well dressed,I'm a gold digger and will worm my way into your---------. Sorry Calgirl--just having fun with it.

 

Been there, Calgirl.

You are well rid of him.

Bravo!

 

scratch.....his sign would say "hi, I'm more interesting than you, and you cannot deny me what I want."

 

Yeah--and maybe: and please do not try to impress me with the details of your meager existance. Now lay down and keep still.

 

or "listen to me me me me and see how I'm impressive"

 

Actually,this is kind of fun.: Hi. I'm extremely handsome ,as anyone can see,so you'll be very happy to be seen with ME, because absolutely everyone will think you must be very special to be seen with the likes of a man like ME. Of course I know that you are nothing other than an object for ME to use to empty MY seminal vesicles this evening ,precisely when I determine the time is right. Please do not attempt any conversation during our time together,for I will be holding forth.

 

The most interesting man in the world takes a crap in the most interesting way. Would you like to see? Interesting little morsels of corn are to be observed.







Where we going with this Calgirl--anywhere? This is your trip.

Hell of a motorcycle picture.

 

myself, i'm just trying to interject some humor into a shitty story.

sometimes the best i can do is shake my head and laugh it off.

 

Just piss him off, calgirl. There are plenty of good blokes out there without putting up with that sort of crap. Pity you're not a bit closer. Not being seedy here.