Cutting out porn, and cutting down on masturbation

I know it's usually considered a good idea for to stop watching porn, as it gives unrealistic expectations, and since it might make us tend to have a far higher standard as to what is 'sexy' than we can afford. I never abused porn anyway, and have cut down a lot, but assuming I'm not going to 'get any' for the foreseeable future, you'd hardly expect me to stop masturbating entirely!!

So the question is... what should I masturbate to? That leaves me with either mental thoughts or images, which by the way I consider to be just as good as porn anyway, it's just the initial temptation isn't as strong as with porn! So can masturbating to images of ladies(with their bits coverd) be bad in any way? And what is a healthy number of times to masturbate per week?

Usually I know that masturbating is just a waste of time and a distraction, and therefore it's just the temptation I have to resist. But other times, when at home alone, I feel like I need to masturbate in order to feel motivated to get certain tasks done. It's like I have a sexual charge that I just have to get rid of. Which interests me, because before I started masturbating at all, I didn't have this problem!!

Oh, and the worst of all is when is when I DO masturbate, waste time in doing so, an then get an ejaculation that isn't anyway near as satisfying as to what would have motivated me to do so in the first place. That leaves me so unsatisfied. I guess it's kind of an art to getting it right... sad and all as it may sound!!!

 

bump

 

i don't get the mentality of wanting to resist your natural urges and impulses and denying yourself.

 

His last paragraph says it all, its not about resisting anything, just that it doesnt get him off as well anymore, hes 25 not 15 anymore, its starting to dwindle, lets not face ageing, lets try pretend porn is so evil now

 

First off, only you can decide what is sexy or not. Not porn or anything else. So whether it is porn or a woman you're with, sexy won't ever change to you. IMO

 

because ultimately, I don't achieve anything out of it, and more importantly it's wastes time

 

Very funny. I actually didn't make masturbating a habit until I was 22!

 

So errrr, you werent constantly whacking it as a teenage boy?

That sounds likely

 

okay. i didn't read it that thoroughly.

and that point about age would pass as an argument if he was 40 or 50. come on! he's starting to dull to the touch in his 20s? you expect me to believe that?

 

Porn is a joy and a gift

 

i'm not buying it.

 

It's possible in hs I knew a guy who never wanked it he didn't believe in it I've known quite a few catholic guys who were like that not for long tho u can't know dark suger for a time and not come out kinda slutty

 

are you jerking off to just heterosexual porn?

i mean, if you're not that excited, maybe it's the subject matter that isn't exciting? and what about sex? is that still exciting to you? or do you find the sex as not ''achieving anything out of it'' as well?

 

That sticky stuff u get at the end is what u achieve out of it.

Maybe next time u should taste it so u know how valuable it is.

:2thumbsup:

 

I never said I wasn't excited by it! How do you think I get it up? And of course I consider bedding a girl to be a big achievement that doesn't happen all that often.

 

not constantly!

 

But I did masturbate today, and it was one of the best jerk-offs I've had in a very long time. I had the whole house to myself with no interruptions. My mind feels so much lighter

 

Y don't u tell us all about it stud