What makes you want to be faithful to a girlfriend? I have a lot of male friends and i was discussing it with them recently. I have noticed that with some girlfriends they will readily cheat on them, while a select few they want to stay faithful to. When i ask them what the difference was between these girls they cant seem to explain well. And it isnt sex, one of my friends said his girlfriend who he didnt cheat on wasn't so good in bed. So i was wondering if you could enlighten me? =) xxx
I'm a girl, but I thought I'd answer based on what my guy friends have told me. Some of my guy friends wont cheat because they know it's the wrong thing to do and they don't want to be labelled as a cheater cause if you live in a small town that news gets around quick. I've heard them also say that their girlfriends are so good at something, or that they have such a redeaming quality that they wouldn't want to lose them. I've figured that usually men only cheat when they know that the current relationship isn't going to work in the long run or if there is a large amount of intoxication.
That's an interesting question. The proclivity for a male is to spread his genetic material as widely as possible. It can be controled, however, if the male fears losing someone he cares for. The girl should make the guy aware that unfaithful conduct is unacceptable. It is necessary for any man to avoid areas where temptation is available. Any man will stray if the opportunity presents itself to blatantly or frequently. It's a matter of genetics.
thanks sara, i think it must take something pretty special from my experience, my guy friends have had really nice girlfriends who they cheat on! id love to know. and what do u mean by intoxication by the way? x
thats true in sense, doright, but do you really believe ALL men stray if its given on a plate? also to all readers, do marriage and children come in to this equation?
I would assume she means being wasted - particularly by alcohol. Whatever inhibitions that are there are subject to be ignored.
Personally speaking, I wouldn't cheat because one night of wild passion isn't worth losing someone I care about. Not to mention, finding a girl who will put up with me and actually be with me is a rare catch in and of itself, so I just count my blessings.
I appreciate what EXAchilles says - it is true. I fall into that category. I have never cheated - but that is because I avoid the temptation. If you will look at the list of "good" men who have cheated - I think any man would if he was stoned or drunk enough - or just week at that moment.
If you really love them then why would you want to go elsewhere some people might if they just want sex controlled by their lower self
ok well i ask you this question, if you knew your girlfriend would never find out, or there was a very slim chance, would you cheat then?
Ta - Daaah! Controled by your lower self. Exactly. As anyone knows, no one can control their lower self at all time. Christianity recognizes that truth - stressing to always be alert. But the lower self does come out - and the only defense is constant observation (not a good word). I am not sure a woman can completely understand without a larger volume of testosterone in their veins.
No, guilt is a bitch and it'll come out sooner or later. Unless it was Lela Star... then I'd consider it...
Yikes!! I don't think I like that question at all. I would hope not - but how can one be sure until the opportunity arises? The male sex drive is very simple - yet very complex. I just don't know for sure.
I'm bowing out of this discussion - I'm not an expert and I don't want to direct it. Good luck with this one.
I never cheated on any of my girl friends. but that depends on how you define cheating? i never cheated on a girl friend. if there is a nother girl im intrested in haveing sex with, i ask my girl friend if she would be willing to get down with me and the other girl. if she says yes, SCORE, but if no, then i listen. Im actualy curently a free agent, she cheated on me, that bitch. haha
