Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by CultSavant, Mar 21, 2008.

  1. CultSavant

    CultSavant Member

    This is a question for people (guys in particular) who do not enjoy cuddling.

    What is it that you find unnattractive about the idea of cuddling, and why do you not enjoy it?

    And for those who do, why exactly do you enjoy it?


    Personally I adore cuddling, I value it over sex. For there is nothing more valuable to me than the experience of lying in bed with your loved one and cuddling for hours on end. And I cannot see how anyone would feel otherwise.
  2. EazyE

    EazyE Senior Member

    For affection, cuddling. For enjoyment, sex.

    I love cuddling, especially when i or she is cold, means we can warm up together.
  3. CultSavant

    CultSavant Member

    See, that's what I like to hear.

    I know that my preference of cuddling to sex is rare, but I'm glad to hear that all guys aren't like the stereotype(s).

    Which I was expecting from this community, which seems rather mature.
  4. Jay-Jay

    Jay-Jay Member

    cuddling is good.
    If i care for that person.
    I love to cuddle with a chick while her face is still covered in hot globs of man chowder.
  5. Cuddling is still my absolute favorite, but don't get me wrong I love sex too.

    Nuzzling, sleeping, holding, kissing, using her tits as a pillow... It makes me feel so warm and happy :)
  6. ahimsa

    ahimsa Senior Member

    ^^^Exactly. Often times these are viewed as mutually exclusive. A one or the other type thing. This is what leads to the negative impression of both. Asexual cuddling leaves thinking about the blue balls all the girls gave me in HS. Sex with emotion leaves me thinkng about a coouple regrettable encouters and the hassles with that.

    But, when viewed as together as the whole intimate experience, they're awesome. They are almost synergistic in the enjoyment realm.
  7. BeachBall

    BeachBall Nosey old moo

    Awwww ... I'm sorry to hear that, Faelixx.

    I love cuddling ... and where it leads.
  8. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

    I love cuddling, but cuddling a woman happens to be more expensive than having sex with her. Maybe when I win the lottery.

    Other than that, no reservations.

    lol! My first girlfriend revealed to me months into the relationship that nuzzling repulsed her. How dare she. The whole ordeal ended shortly thereafter.

    I don't think I was ever so offended in life! :biggrin:
  9. nz male

    nz male Senior Member

    When I cuddle up to my wife, I start getting precum forming & a slight wet patch appearing in my boxer shorts. Sometimes it gets wetter depending on the amount of time I'm cuddling her in bed. Probably the thought that her pubes are closer to me at time starts the wetness too thou & I'm getting a bit horny.
  10. Lady-Lover

    Lady-Lover Member

    I love to cuddle. It is the best feeling ever.
  11. Fairlight

    Fairlight Banned

    I also love cuddling.That's where the real love chemicals come through.With sex I actually feel a bit self-conscious - like I can't believe I'm actually having it.In some sense I am a bit of a Victorian prude,although they do say the quiet ones are the worst...
  12. Mothman

    Mothman Senior Member

    I have no aversion to it but I will not initiate it either. Only because I would be pissed if some chick took me for a punk just because I'm not emotionally unavailable.
  13. pipgirl

    pipgirl Member

    I love cuddling, it's the best!! Cuddling naked it's the best actually, and not because of anything sexual, but it's just awesome to be so close to your loved one, and feel their hot skin against yours! I want to cuddle!!!
  14. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

    Cuddling is awesome. I especially love the idea where you don't have to resort to sexual intercourse to express love/appreciation toward someone. :)
  15. youngnpassion

    youngnpassion Member

    suchhh a good feeling when it's with someone you really care about...truly better than sex or anything like that...
  16. I don't like to cuddle, it's overrated and a waste of time. Better be productive.
  17. youngnpassion

    youngnpassion Member

    Haha...well that's bluntly put..but I think cuddling is romantic...and take it from a guy who LOVES to fuck - I think romance is so important and makes for a good foundation to enjoy those "(re)productive" sessions
  18. monkjr

    monkjr Senior Member

    I share this view on the importance of cuddling, and how there's a certain innocence about it that carries the same tone of love and appreciation for someone without crossing the sexual boundary line.

    But here's a few questions I want to ask everyone now:

    How much of a role did the act cuddling play into your young childhood? How do you think cuddling, or lack thereof, affect your ability to form bonds emotionally in your relationships looking onward in your teens and your adult life?
  19. newbie-one

    newbie-one one with the newbiverse

    cuddling is nice :)
  20. monkjr

    monkjr Senior Member

    Since nobody has gone an answered my original question from two posts before this I guess I'll share first.

    When I was a little kid, before I learned about sex, I used to think that the peak of communicating affection to someone of the opposite sex whom you had a crush on, was when you could trust each other enough to cuddle and eventually sleep next to them.

    Then you'd wake up the next morning with them, make breakfast, and go to work come home and repeat the process.

    It was pretty innocent, did anybody else have that view of what adult life was like growing up?

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