so what do all of you folks think about dating/sleeping with coworkers? i'm still pretty new at my job, and most of my coworkers are female. several of them are quite attractive, and from what i understand single, as well. now i suppose your work environment has to be accounted for, as well. i work in a coffeeshop, not a big office building with different departments and so on. as much as i'd like to ask one of these people out sometime, i can't shake the feeling that i just shouldnt. im really in need of some female companionship and other varied things.....but more important to me at this point is having a job that i enjoy. if i were to go out with one of these girls and it didn't work out, i'd still have to work side by side with her in close quarters. it could make things insanely uncomfortable, under very poor conditions. so pretty much i know i'm not going to go for it. but i'd like to know what other people think about this. do you go for coworkers? avoid them?
no, just say no... I know it is VERY tempting, but it will probably and more likely end up badly.. My friend slept with a co-worker and he regrets it every day of his life.. They slept togehter and they BOTH had an agreement that it was no relationship and everytime he talked to a girl at work or basically anything she would flip out, told everyone at work that he was a monster and was a jerk and it was just bad.. He had to end up quiting... But it is different for every person, but I just wouldnt risk it cause thats your job and to me i keep my job and romantic/sexual life seperate..But again, this is me and people are different and so are work situations and places... This is just my opinion on it from the horror stories I heard from my friend...
In my experience, for every 1 successful partnership that I've seen develop from meeting someone at work, I've seen 20 failures. Those failures not only make things uncomfortable for the people who were dating, but also for other employees around them. They feel the tension in the air as well. I've made the mistake myself before and in an even bigger way - dated someone who worked for me. I was fine when things didn't work out with us because I was able to separate my personal life from my professional life, but she was unable to do so and their were problems for certain. I've had a couple opportunities to do so again and I'm sure I will in the future, but I won't go there. My suggestion is that these attractive girls you work with more than likely have attractive friends as well who don't work where you do. Perhaps you might meet someone by going out with your co-workers.
if you're working that close with them, I'd avoid it My mom is dating someone she met at work, but they don't work beside each other, they're in diffirent departments and only see each other at work during their breaks. I think that kind of distance is required at work to kepe it from getting too uncomfortable after ya'll break up, because most people do break up.
Depends. If it's a superior I will because if things do not work out and the company finds out about the affair it's the higher up who's usually held in the wrong. I would never date anyone who worked under me because I would never risk my job. As far as things not working out and being uncomftrable I can't see that as I usually stay friends with ex boyfriends because there was a reason I dated them in the first place. So depending on the circumstances I'd do it...or not do it as no one I work with is particulary good looking or charming d:
I dated and messed around with a coworker. Luckily, I coyly denied all allegations while we were together, and damage control was minimal. We still work together and all that. Lately I've been thinking about messing around with him again (hey -- we still get along well and I don't want a relationship / he hasn't been laid in too long....good combo right?) but I feel too lucky that I didn't get publicly humiliated the first time. So no sexin' till one of us quits.
yeah, i'm definitely not going for it, i was just curious what all of you think about such things. its not something i've really ever thought much about.
Honestly, best thing I ever did. I met my soulmate at work Neither of us work there anymore, so it really doesn't matter now anyway. But we worked on different floors, people knew but didn't talk about it - and ok, yeah, we were only there for the summer anyway. But there's my two cents anyway. It's also a good idea to find out if your job has an actual "policy" about these things where you could actually lose your job.
NO..the 3 rules of dating are: 1. Don't date your bartenders, no matter how hot they are because if you fuck it up you can't go back there. 2. Don't date your co-workers, cuz if things don't work out...one of you is going to have to leave. 3. Don't date your roommates, cuz again if things don't work out one of you is going to have to leave. All else is fair game. Hope I made things clear for you.
Indeed, I'm wise in my old age. Oh, I think my back just went out! Now where did I put those false teeth?
