I could not. I have absolutely nothing against bi women or straight women. But I could never feel comfortable with a woman who is or could be intimate with a man.
I dated two such women. One of them happily married a man. It was clear from the start that this would happen) The other one was married to a man for a long time, had two children, and then left him. She said that she never loved him (or men in general, she always liked women), but in our country, especially at the time when we were dating (10-12 years ago) being an open lesbian was difficult and even dangerous, so I had to go this way) In principle, I do not deny this option, especially with an older woman
In my opinion, what matters is how she treats you and your re relationship. Not who she was with in the past. I find more and more people are not “ locked in” on a specific gender or gender identity. It’s the individual connection that matters. I really like that approach.
This question quite puzzles my, since as far as I know, all if my lesbian friends, including our daughter, started off in their teens with hetrosexual relationships and they did not work. In the real world, how many women knew that they were lesbian from day one.?
That is so unfortunate! Sexual orientation is not a decision we make, it is innate. As lesbian, I have no problem with bi's or straights whatsoever.