Could use help from any psychic! Please

Very long story short, my husband up and left me. I was left with no car. He took all the money out of the bank, and I was a stay at home mom so had no job. I practically have no work history, not finished with college etc.

I have 4 kids. I'm exhausted and have no idea how to comfortably care for these children. I had to move in with the person I was dating after the divorce just so I could use a car and he helped hire a lawyer for a divorce.

 

I have no clue how to move on from here

 

there are a lot of jobs that hire people who have no work experience. You can use your experiences being a homemaker and mother on a resume - cleaning, cooking, childcare, etc. Go through a temp agency to help you find something you can do to start off. Or - you're never too old to go to college and learn new skills, even a community college. Financial aide does exist. You could even advertise for housecleaning locally and charge $10 - $15 an hour.

 

good advice, except you forgot about a few things. like, who's going to take care of the kids while she is working her ten dollar and hour job? and, how much is she going to have to pay the sitter for the 4 kids? how much of her paycheck is going to be eaten up on babysitting services? then, at the end of the week, she might have 2 hundred dollars left over, if that. how is she going to pay rent and feed 4 kids? just wondering. same if she goes to college, who's going to watch the kids? i love pragmatism.

 

some city colleges have in house day care and people whose job it is to help you access $s

 

There is life after divorce. This is a time in your life that you must try to hold things together. The kids will act out and test their limits. You need to live one day at a time just to keep your sanity. You can get helpful information from woman shelters or advocates that can help you keep your feet on the ground. There is help out there but it is up to you to seek it. You have to pull your strength together and focus, breath, and have faith in your future. Just remember the wheel will spin back up after it goes down. Spend time with the kids and try not to get defensive. This is hard for them too. Try to validate their feelings and try not to let them rope you into arguments. I take it, they are pretty young at this point? If they are young enough the acting out will be minimal and not beyond the normal scope. Still even normal acting out will feel overwhelming to you because change is very scary. I know you feel lost. Do not be afraid to seek help and do not let parasitic fears get the best of you. There is child care out there available and I am sure social workers or even some churches (whether or not you are religious) will be willing to help. There are food shelves as well. In some places there are temp jobs available if you can't find a job right away. If you private message me about your location I could help you find information that is helpful.

 

like she's really going to have the energy to do that, after taking care of 4 children all the time. college is a big responsibility and emotionally draining as well, i know. i've been there. i would never have been able to finish classes in A&P nor microbiology AND take care of 4 kids. never.

 

She would be best off going to college when the kids are near college age themselves. At this point she needs to focus on stability for her and the children. #1 Childcare, #2 Income, and # 3 a roof over their heads. It s not easy when you uproot like that. When I left my husband 7 years ago, I had no where to go and had to stay in a woman's shelter for 6 months. It isn't easy. I got my feet on the ground, I have a roof and income. I went back to school a few years ago and now both my kids are college age. So I have experience in this area.

 

I hope your life is getting better.. change comes, things WILL get better.. for now I agree that concentrating on caring for your children is your best move.. after they've flown the nest you'll be glad to have those years of warm love together.. it is painful & depressing when it's all so new.. "this too will pass"..