Confusion about the 8th Time!

The guy I'm kind of seeing I've known since 4th grade and are ment to be together... now we are both going into the 11th! However, after 8th grade he left South Carolina and started going to a private school in St. Louis. I only got to see him 4 or 5 times a year but we dated off and on. We constantly broke up because of the distance and rumors and just all over complications. Now, he's coming back to South Carolina and is going to be home. Only, we're going to be going to different schools. We're thinking about getting back together but aren't sure because of all the times we've broken up. We're scared if we start to date again we're going to jinx things again or the shit will get stirred up. I'm not sure what to do! Could it be possible to just be friends . We've talked about marraige and children, we've even picked out my engagment ring.... many months ago! We've broken up a total of 6 or 7 times in 3 years! But we've dated totaly longer than we've been sepearated! Things are so confusing! I'm going to see him this weekend for the first time in 6 months! This is the longest time we've been seperated before and I don't know what to expect. God I'm scared. I'm scared of what could happen if we got back together, but i'm scared of what would happen if we don't! Since he's going to be here, we might have a chance to have a normal relationship, unlike those when he was 500 miles away! What do you all think? What would you do if you were in my position?

 

If I were in your position I would just go with the flow so to speak. Not put any pressure on anything...not analyze and try to figure out my standing. Just let whatever happens happen....because its gonna happen anyway, ya know?
So all the questions and anxiety over things in your head will just cloud things for you. Just let things progress naturally. Good luck.

 

you guys are so young, i'm not so sure it's healthy to be planning your wedding right now. the fact that you've had to break up several times proves that you probably aren't ready for a relationship. but it sounds like you guys have a beautiful bond that has a great potential to grow and blossom as you guys get older and mature. i would just go with the flow, stay friends, do what feels good when you are both in town. i would make a point to hang out together often and just try to have fun together. take some of the pressure of the whole relationship thing off and just have a good time together, go out, have fun, do things you enjoy together as friends. you'll start to notice that once you don't put a label on your relationship anymore and just focus on the beautiful friendship and bond you have, the love will grow. nurture that love now, but don't put pressure on each other to be "boyfriend and girlfriend". develop your friendship. a good friendship is a strong, solid foundation for a beautiful, lasting love. and this way you'll have nothing to lose, because even if you can't make a love relationship work out, you at least have a best friend for life i hope everything works out!!!