confusing situation, advice would be great.

Long read, if your looking to help please do!

I've been hanging out with this girl for about 2 months now. I recently made a move on her about 3 weeks ago and things were going good. She told all her friends shes crazy about me, how nice i am blah blah. Recently on valetnines day she was suppose to have plans with her ex-boyfriend but blew them of for me, I made sure she didn't like her ex-boyfriend before I took her out so everything went really well that night.

Next day she leaves school to talk to her ex-boyfriend and that made me a little nervous but I figure they were just ending because I guess the ex didnt know about me. I talked to her the day after about it the next day now she says she confused about our situation. We talk the next day about everything she assures me that nothing happened with her ex and that shes over him she wants to move on blah blah blah.

Now today I found out that they actually made out when they were in his car...so we talked again she admits that they kissed didn't make out but shes over him she wants to move on and now she only wants to be "Just friends" with me because she dosen't want to "put me through this" because she obviously still has feelings for her ex. I ended up just walking away and we haven't talked since.


Ok now my current situation is we were going to this Formal dance for school saturday, I still really like this girl and want to be with her but whats your opinion?

I could not go with her, take a diffrent friend and I would probably still have alot of fun and see if she comes back to me.

I could go with her, maybe shell realizes she likes me after all.

My problem is I'm a nice guy and to be honest its true, nice guys finish last so I'm leaning towards option #1 see how it goes then maybe start talking to her a few days after and see how things are. Do I chase the girl thats confused and just wants to be friends, or see if she comes back to me? Do I just ignore her, act mad towards her, or just become friends again? lol all advice would help

*forgot to add that I talked to her ex and he says hes done with her for good.

 

Things dont sound good on your side man ! She not only lied to you but she also kind of dumped you for her ex... and her ex has an enormouse advantage over you, because they have already dated and been intimate etc.. making getting back together very easy, (I have just lost a girl to the SAME situation this monday 18/2)
Humans desire what they can not have or what does not come easy... even though I only have an outside knowledge about you relationship, my opinion is: Forget about her.. but If you still want her back, take another girl to your event and make her see your doing fine and she just might start talking to you again. In other words become atractive and wanted again... understand ??

 

I'm with Chris: this is a rough one. Being totally honest, it sounds like she's not that into you.

Bring another friend! Like Chris said, if you have any chance with her at all it'll help to look like you don't care all that much.

 

Hey thanks for all the imput.


*forgot to add that I talked to her ex and he says hes done with her for good.

 

Analise if you should permit her back in to your life after treating you the way she did... if you really like her and feel there are more benefits in forgiving her.... at least make shure she knows how much it hurt !!!

 

take her! who knows what could happen and shell probably have fun if you like dances and if she does too

 

she is still seeing her ex or whatever you want to call him, and the same thing she is telling you, she is telling him. truth is the other guy probably could careless about her, hence the reason they broke up in the first place.Now that he sees you around, he is going to stay in the picture, and im sure he is acting like he wants her only so you cant get her. you seem like a nice guy, you went out of your way to ask for advice on the situation, so you have to be. my advice would be to leave her alone, dont take her to any dance, dont even take her to burger king, she is confused.. and you hanging around even after you see what is happening right in front of you, if you continue hanging around not only will you start to appear desperate, you will also have formed a triangle..you, her and him. find another girl who is single and will respect and adore your courteous and kind demeanor.