Common Misconceptions About Women's Desires and Pleasure During Sex

Sexuality is a complex and diverse aspect of human life, yet it remains shrouded in myths and misconceptions, especially when it comes to women's desires and pleasure. Society's understanding of female sexuality has often been influenced by outdated stereotypes and limited perspectives. In this blog post, we aim to debunk some common misconceptions and shed light on the truth about women's desires and pleasure during sex.

1. Women Only Desire Emotional Connection:

One prevalent misconception is that women primarily seek emotional connection and intimacy during sex, while physical pleasure takes a backseat. While emotional connection can enhance the sexual experience for many women, it is important to acknowledge that desire and pleasure are multi-faceted and can vary greatly among individuals. Women can also have strong physical desires and enjoy the purely physical aspects of sex.

2. Women Don't Desire Casual Sex:

Another myth is that women do not desire or enjoy casual sexual encounters as much as men do. However, research shows that women can engage in casual sex for various reasons, including sexual exploration, self-expression, and personal fulfillment. Just like men, women can have diverse sexual preferences and engage in consensual, casual encounters without it diminishing their desire or pleasure.

3. Orgasm is the Sole Measure of Pleasure:

Many people mistakenly believe that a woman's sexual satisfaction is solely dependent on achieving orgasm. While orgasm can be a pleasurable and fulfilling experience, it is not the only indicator of sexual satisfaction for women. Pleasure can be derived from various sensations, intimacy, emotional connection, and overall enjoyment of the experience. Expanding our definition of pleasure beyond orgasm allows for a more inclusive understanding of women's sexual experiences.

4. Women's Desires Are Static:

A common misconception is that women's desires and preferences remain constant throughout their lives. However, just like men, women's desires can evolve and change over time due to various factors such as age, life circumstances, and personal growth. It is essential to foster open communication and create space for ongoing dialogue about desires and preferences to ensure a fulfilling sexual relationship.

5. Pain is Normal and Inevitable:

Another misconception is that pain during sex is normal for women. While some discomfort or pain can occasionally occur, persistent pain should not be dismissed as a normal part of a woman's sexual experience. Pain during sex can be an indication of an underlying issue that requires attention and medical support. Encouraging open communication and seeking professional advice can help address and resolve such concerns.

Conclusion:

Dispelling misconceptions about women's desires and pleasure during sex is crucial for fostering healthier and more inclusive attitudes toward female sexuality. Recognizing that desire, pleasure, and preferences can vary among women is essential for creating a safe and fulfilling sexual environment. By challenging these misconceptions, we can promote open dialogue, empower women to embrace their sexual selves, and encourage a more informed and respectful approach to female sexuality.

 

Excellent info! Thanks for your contribution.

 

Excellent!! THANK YOU!!

 

I very much agree with everything said in this post.
Well done Kingsamy and look out girls we are in for a good time if everybody takes note.

 

Whilst I appreciate the effort in your blog, it's much too generalized.
Women 'this' and women 'that' - they are all different, like men are different (perhaps even more variety amongst the females ), which means it's all but impossible to take what you've written and apply it to any one female.
It's equally futile imv, to try to apply all of them to any one female because this week they may be sexually frustrated and next week, not so much.

The only way to get to understand women is to speak to them, to listen to them and to discuss things with them - even when we have no immediate desire to become intimate with them, just to talk to them like the friends they may become.

Using the singular for explanation:
I know a woman for whom orgasm was the measure of pleasure - for a while. Still pleasurable some 35 yrs later, it's not the be-all-and-end-all. She now enjoys intimacy with less urgency to get off.
I'm sure there have been other variations, in that regard, during her life.
Points 1 and 2 have also been relevant to her.

Indeed, of all the women I have held intimate conversations with, 1 2 3 have all applied at some stage in their life but, not throughout it.

I would also suggest women (generally) tend to be more discreet than men.
I know one who has lots of sex with a private limited number of men (individually) and anyone outside that number is oblivious to her activities. She occasionally displays an urgent need with little to no emotion and other times she likes lots of cuddles.To anyone outside her close circle, the belief is that she's innocent and naiive an not very sexually active. lol

Pain is also not normal but I expect there's a lot of occasions when there is pain but it is the guy who caused it. I don't mean he has done it intentionally but through ignorance (lack of knowledge) and sometimes selfishness to his needs.

So let's not try to pigeon-hole the ladies. They are a varied and disparate array of loveliness and we would be nowhere without them, in so many respects.

 

Bazz888 Yours is a good addition to the original and I agree with you , especially the bit about talking to us girlies.
I've never been "pigeon holed " but it does sound like something I might enjoy !!!!! Discreetly of course ,lol
Nicky x

 

Lol, nickynicky. Maybe some day you'll get that experience
I get the euphamism but, for clarity, I didn't mean it that way

 

That's so true. Thanks for reading.

 

Thanks

Thanks for the advice.

 

Someone has to be in charge of sex--good thing it isn't men!!

 

Very good and well presented thread. It's factual, not too scientific yet not too sleazy,, I hope a lot of people read it and get some useful information from it to enhance their skills and experience.

 

We never get the deciding vote either...

 

this is pretty accurate and obvously everyone is diffrent but for me orgasm is the main goal

 

I know the first 4 are spot on correct. I've seen it happen before and I got an education on the sexual aspects of a woman who does what the hell she wants with whoever she wants.

 

The only way to get to understand women is to speak to them, to listen to them and to discuss things with them - even when we have no immediate desire to become intimate with them, just to talk to them like the friends they may become.
Listen up guys…

 

Thank you! I’m listening!!

 

Biologically, women only really desire sex during the 3 days every month when it will get them pregnant.
Unlike dogs, who snap and growl at males who get too carried away at other times, women will often agree in order to keep their partner happy.

This always reminds me of the famous condom advert.

The two pack for the student during his first year at college. One for Friday and one for Saturday night.

For the more mature student we have the three pack, with an extra one for Sunday.

Then for the family guy, we have the 12 pack. One for January, one for February,------- I never heard the advert beyond that point, for all the laughter.

 

I don't know about the 3 day thing. Sure maybe more horny then, but some women want it more often.

 

Their are 2 separate explanations.

For women in a loving relationship, it is all about their feeling of being close, along with their joy in feeling their partner happy.

For women who take their pants off as a living, they enjoy looking at their bank statements on the pillow.

 

What about a third explanation? How about a woman who simply loves sex, out to push her limits for the thrill?