so i've been in this relationship with this girl for about a year and a half now, and she's about 18 years older than me. For the most part her age has not been an issue, but what has been an issue for me is how late she came out. She's 38 and she didn't come out as bi till about 2-3 years ago. I just wanted to know what you guys thought of that. And if anyone knows someone who came out later in their lifetime, I would like to know how they approached their new lifestyle, whether it was serious or just a phase.
I wouldn't hold it against a person that it took a long time to come out (with the possible exception of a gay politician who's known for anti-gay legislation and then comes out (when he gets busted)). This culture doesn't always make it that easy for people to even accept that they aren't straight....let alone make it public. As long as she doesn't think like a homophobe---believe it or not, there are gays and bi's who think like homophobes ...go praying to Jesus to cure them of it, and Jesus, he's probably going just like this:.
well, i thought that being 15 and hiding my bi-sexuality for 3 yrs was long! lol. i think that it's a lifestyle, if you feel like you are bi, then more than likely you are. be nice to her, obviously it was hard for her to come out with it, im mean, come on! she's perfectly normal, and she is who she is, and that should make you love her all the more!
heh I am nice to her! I guess it's more of an insecurity than anything else, an insecurity that was more prominent when I first met her. I felt like she'd been hetereosexual for so long--married to a man for several years, had two kids with him-- that she would eventually go back to being so. I do believe she loves me, and her kids have accepted me completely, yet I do think about her coming out so late from time to time. :whistling
