Coming out in high school good idea or bad?

So i need a little help. I have thought about coming out this coming up summer before my junior year in highschool. I have already came out to my best friend (girl) and lately like the last 3-4 weeks i have thought about coming out. I went to florida like the first week of january and it really inspired me to come out for some reason. I have no clue what caused me to think this. Maybe its the fact that i love going to theme parks and that it would be great to go with a guy and not just family in the future? I have also became depressed ever since i have accepted the fact that im gay. So is it a good idea or should i just wait till college. (since i heard that people are accepting it in college)

 

it depends how accepting the schools going to be, mine was really narrow minded, it could be the best years of your life or the most bullied and miserable
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It also depends on what sort of a network of friends you have at school....I had a great group of friends that I could go to if someone was giving me a hard time at school....they would even walk with me where I needed to go if there were threats.

 

In my opinion is probably isn't the best idea, however, i don't really know the situation at your school.

I came out the summer after my senior year and that worked well. I would wait for another year. Maybe you could tell another close friend?

 

hmm...we have a GSA club thing at our school and were the only school in the area that has it. I just hate lying you know? i hate being fake and have to act like im in a play or sumthin. I just want to be true to myself. Also a lot of people this year and last year have asked if was gay and i would lie and say why would you think that and most of them have said its the way you talk and some have said the its the way i act. So, its not like no one thinks it. Then i have good days or i have depressing days and my friends would be like whats wrong and i would lie and be like oh nuthing but in reality i want them to know. I just dont wanna come out later like in college or even senior year in high school and everyone is accepting it and i would have been like if it was that easy i should have just done it last year. you know? And i would be mad for not coming out earlier? but i guess you never know what happens.

And friends, Most of them are girls and theres like 3-4 guys that i do consider friends. I personally think the girls would be more accepting of it and one of my other good friends shes a year older than me and she says shes best friends with a gay guy, so i can see her accepting it. And probaly 1 out of my guy friends would accept it since he has a bisexual brother, but i have no clue on my other friends.

 

In that case, I'd come out. Seems like they already know you're gay, especially if it's by the way you talk/act.

 

that would depend how tolerant the other kids are, rumours are one thing, but once faced with the truth they could get even more cruel, I guess I wonder if theres anyone important that needs to know, if so and if he trusts them, maybe just come out to them
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Well, i dont really act like a girl its more of talkin. Like i have a lisp so it has moments where my voice kind of goes high and i guess it sounds kind of gay. and then theres sometimes i would be like Oh my god! and not realize i just said it like a girl, but it happens once in a while.

 

I have been debating this myself. I've told all of my close friends that I am gay except for one, because he's the most religious; although I really want to tell him because I have known him the longest.

The first step is definitely to tell all of your closest friends, presuming that you have a vague idea about how they'll react to the news. Believe me, just having a few people know - those who are closest to you - lifts a huge burden from your chest. After that, it's kind of up in the air. Sometimes I think that it would be great to be out, but then I think that it would probably be easier overall to keep people in the dark. There's pros and cons either way. I wish that I could be of more assistance in that regard.

 

It really all depends on the situation. I did it, and I'm doing fine, but your school is probably much different from mine. See if you can get a general idea of how people at your high school treat and feel about other GLBTQ students.

 

Thanks you guys i really appreciate it. i have decided not to come out yet, but hopefully come out to my other close friends. The reason is today i had a bad day with the "friends" at my lunch table and they were talkin stuff and sayin that if you wear sweatshirts or sumthin it means your gay and it really pissed me off how people act like that. i guess i have realized who my true friends really are. And its the ones you dont expect to be your friend in the beginning.

 

Were they using "gay" in the pejorative, like saying that "sweatshirts are gay"? Who has anything against sweatshirts? I mean, honestly. I've never heard people rag on sweatshirts.

 

I told a few friends in HS about my preference, and it didn't go well. If I could do it over again, I wouldn't have cared so much. -Adam Buben

 

Like they were makin fun of a kid in another table wearing like a sweater that they assumed was ugly (i thot it was ugly too but i wasnt makin fun of him) well instead of saying ugly they put gay. And one of the guys said oh that sweatshirt is gay and if anyone would wear that sweatshirt at our table i would not be your friend.

 

Ugh that's pretty bad. I don't think I'd want to be friends with someone who wouldn't be friends with someone because they wore an ugly sweater. (That sentence is confusing - sorry!)

 

my god thankyou that my high school days are well behind me
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lol, i still have another two years of it. But im hoping it will get better.

 

I personally have no problem with gay in the pejorative. I use it all the time. I wouldn't say it in front of my boss or an elder, but I do use it with my friends. Of course, I'm older now and a lot more confident in myself. I don't have to deal with high school anymore.

But saying you wouldn't be friends with someone because of the sweater he wore? Now that's gay.

 

^i agree with what your'e saying, but sometimes it gets kind of annoying, when people just keep sayin "oh thats gay" I mean there's a point to where u just need to shut your mouth and keep it to yourself some time. But i havent talked to those people in like a few days. Theres more people out there then just them

 

Sometomes I feel like I grew up in a different world , I was so fortunate in High school....things werent all that bad.