Coming out and confused.

Hello all! Lovely that I find place where I can talk these topics as for me I dont have much friends or people I feel like I can talk about this. I recently was outed, not by my choice and I felt it was hard to handle. But Im sure this gets better and life will get better. But just asking if it is normal to feel shamed about the fact that now people do know about my sexuality. Is so hard to phrase my message but if you all would know my story it probably would make more sense. Hope everyone is doing fine and glad to find place to talk with other women of Gay community.

 

While, I myself am not gay, I do have a child that is. If you need a friend to listen, feel free to contact me. Welcome to the forum, I hope you enjoy it here

 

Same as Moon Goddess--I have a gay child also---a fine person. I think you will find it very comfortable to post here in the forums.

 

Ok, Im not sure are you trying to be mean or if Im not understanding what you mean.

 

He is not being mean, he is just welcoming you to the forum.

 

Hi Riinatheriina,
I'm not gay but, imo, we all are who we are and, so, you have no reason to feel shame just because you are gay.

As my late Grandmother used to say; "those who matter don't mind and those who mind, don't matter".

Good luck and enjoy the forums.

 

I'm so sorry someone who doesn't sufficiently love you violated your trust like that. We live in a homophobic Calvinistic shame-based culture; shaming is one of the primary motives and expectations of 'outing' others. Don't give them the satisfaction. It's unfortunate that someone fired an arrow at you; please don't pick it up and stab yourself with it. Live your beauty fully and without apology to anyone, especially yourself. Be your highest, most authentic self, and shine!

"This is what you shall do...re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, (and) dismiss whatever insults your own soul..."
Walt Whitman; Leaves of Grass

 

Yeah for example she blackmailed me to come fo her house as I if I said no she would tell my family and friends im gay. so I grew up with very weird image of sex. but thanks for repose

 

Welcome! Hope HF is safe for you to do this! Be well. Thank you for sharing!!

 

Sorry maybe it was bit of over sharing.nice to meet you all anyway

 

You can chat with me anytime, pm me

xxx
Sandra

 

It gets a lot easier down the road. Almost everyone I've told that I'm gay were cool with it. The only ones who aren't is my parents.