Has anyone here ever broken up with someone who very well may be the one but it just wasnt the right time in your lives for it to be happening? and if so, has that relationship ever come back around and ended up actually being the one?
I'm not sure if this is anything like you had in mind but I feel I have. He was/is perfect, to me anyway, and I've never met someone like him. I guess I've also been around for long enough to know that the likelihood of someone like him coming around is very slim. Even then, I have to laugh. It still won't be him! It hasn't been the same as when we first started out (blindly and passionately). But we're still there for each other. Right now I have no idea what we are - just very good friends, I suppose, even though how we act towards each other give people other ideas. It didn't work in the sense of The One because we'll never marry or have children or settle down in a white picket fence. I know this. He knows this. Our lives are filled with too many separate commitments. But I've dated more than my fair share and I know that this man is the one for me. Sharing a full lifetime won't happen but I have whatever I have and that's more than enough. It's been very difficult trying to entertain the idea of being with other men. There's no comparison and I think I've been horribly spoiled in that aspect. I'm happy though, it's a strange contentedness - having found something I was very sure did not exist. He exists.
Thanks, Hannah ... that was a sweet story ... I'm glad I'm not the only one who's felt this way. I'm pretty convinced that my poet and I are soul-bonded, and he feels the same. We hurt each other constantly, in an endless round ... but yet we truly love each other underneath the pain and confusion and semi-codependence that has only blossomed since we broke up. We will most likely continue to circle in and out of each other's lives ... we may have romance again in the future but of course we will never marry or have a commitment or anything like that. Yet I don't feel for anyone else the way I do for him; other men have qualities that I want and he lacks, but I don't feel the same connection to them. I may someday find someone else who touches me that way (spiritually, emotionally). I'm not in a hurry. I just know that he will always remain the first one -- he taught me new depths of sorrow and loss and frustration, but he also taught me that I am capable of deeply loving at least one other human being on the face of this earth.
Yes-My first girl friend. We both broke up as teen agers then both married other people. Then re met and got married and had a 5 year marriage that was bliss. Then one day I came home and she was gone. Just like when we were teen agers. She never left a note. She was in therapy and finally was dealing with the issues from when we were kids and then left and I have never saw her again. Yes-I had thought of her over the years many times and wondered if she was OK? Two years ago I found out she passed away 5 years ago of Aids and had ended up a hooker in NYC and was strung out on Dope for a long time. Happy ending? No-Keep recycling to soda cans and plastic where it belongs. It's impossible putting the petals back on a rose.
That is a powerful story. Thanks for sharing this, and it definitely opened my eyes up to something else. I'm sorry to hear about this loss, however old it was or however long ago. Thank you, Suncatcher.
