Cock addiction or totally bi?

Question for the bi guys (and other genders). . .

I've recently been contemplating if I am wholly bisexual or just have a cock/sex fetish with men. My encounters have not been romantic in nature, no kissing/cuddling/intimacy, pretty much regular dudes having sex then going about our way. I love sex with men and want more. And I also get that I can identify however I want to, and I do consider myself bisexual.

However, right now it's just about the enjoyment of sex and my love of cock. I don't see men out and about as cute/hot, and want to kiss them, etc. Has anyone else started this way and ultimately embraced the latter in their bisexual journey? Curious to hear others experiences.

 

I call myself bisexual or pansexual and while I can and do have random uncomplicated sex hook ups w guys I do also love and react to more sensual sex meets.

The guys i think of as cute are younger slim fit ones, but to go with any guy I have to find a degree of attraction in some way otherwise any meet would be a non-starter.

Simon

 

I fully understand how you are feeling. I've had a cock fetish for almost thirty years hooking up with other married men to provide each other a great blow job. Never once did any of us have a desire to get intimately romantic (kissing, hugging, making-out, or even fucking) with each other like we do with women. Our encounters were always about pleasing each others cocks. Fast forward 20 years or so I remarried an accepting woman to my desires for cock and helped me to over come my fears of receiving anal sex. I have found myself a few times while riding a mans cock kissing him passionately and I must admit...it was really hot, beyond what I ever thought it to be. Yes, my wife and I consider me to be bisexual but I really have no desire to be passionate with a man but occasionally do so at my wife's request to please her.

 

I feel no attraction for men either....but I love their cocks! My wife suggested kissing once, and I did. It felt odd for about half a second, then it was just erotic and added to the sensations. Now, we all 3 kiss, and caress each other. This didnt really take place until we had been with the same guy several times. At this point I do feel something. I suppose its inevitable, when the same guy is fucking us several times a week. A passionate kiss from just any guy....nope....a passionate kiss with the guy that's fucked me and my wife 20 time, sure why not?

I still dont see men as attractive despite the kissing during sex. I still see myself as bisexual. I dont like all the nameplates people have made for this stuff. Just enjoy what you want, and dont try to complicate things.

 

Yes, a passionate kiss provided to the man fucking you does enhance the moment for sure. I mean...We men do the same thing with women while fucking them so why not when fucking or being fucked by a man.

 

Only cock for me, thank you. I see nothing appealing about a man's ass and I have kissed only one man, and only once, and it was not passionately. I do not enjoy the feel of stubble against my face.

 

Yes, I started out being mostly genital-focused with other men, but all along, I only wanted to sexually interact with men who seemed considerate and non-threatening. Then, gradually, I learned that our orgasms were much more powerful when we dropped the phobia about men being affectionate with each other during sex and really let go of all inhibitions about same-sex intimacy. Great sex for me really involves paying attention to what turns each other on, letting go of conditioned phobias that serve no rational purpose, and merging with another person, even if it is just for a relatively brief period of time. Great sex for me is like rebooting my internal computer and seeing the whole world with a fresh perspective.

As for whether I see men as "cute/hot and want to kiss them, etc", I tend not to be that way with men nor women until I get to know them. For me, it is not mostly visual any more, like perhaps it was when I was younger. I am much more interested in the chemistry between people, not the initial appearance. I've met too many people who looked attractive at first and later turned out to be not very attractive at all with regard to their personality.

As for your first sentence, I do not believe the definition of bisexual is that complicated. It simply refers to someone who has sexual activity with both men and women. Being bi-amorous or bi-romantic or bi-affectionate are different issues than whether you simply engage in sex acts with both men and women.

 

I do find physically fit and clean shaven men attractive but have no interest at all in kissing or any romantic relationship with other men. I did kiss another guy once but it was part of an mmf threesome where his wife wanted to see that. It's all about the cock and balls for me.

 

Yes, it's evolved for me. I started out just wanting to jerk a guy off - never wanted it in my mouth. That didn't last long - taking him in my mouth seemed so natural. Then I became comfortable giving blowjobs. Then feeling his ass . . . and him playing with mine. My first kiss was the same guy as my first swallow. We became close - I got turned on just thinking of getting together with him. Then I started 'checking out' other men. I have accepted that I'm bisexual

 

Yes, taking him into your mouth does really feel natural as most men who finally take the plunge find out. It's a great way to make a friend.

 

Love the feeling - wish I could do it more

 

Or sex addiction

 

I'm not looking to fall in love and get married to a guy any time soon. I just want to have fun satisfying our sexual needs. It's gotten hot and heavy with some kissing at times. But, when we're done we say goodbye til next time.

 

It's just about the sex for me, the sucking and fucking. I am just looking to drain our balls. I save the passion for the wife.

 

Only interested in sex.

 

My bisexuality has been evolving for almost 30 years now. For the first 21 years, I considered myself bi-confused, because even though I initially enjoyed oral and anal porn and fantasies, and then later kissing porn and fantasies, and later even romantic fantasies, whenever I got naked with a real guy in a sex venue like a bathhouse, feeling super gay and horny upon entering the facility, I lost all sexual desire when I was actually in front of a guy. But I still had oral sex with him, feigning desire and passion; but I had no desire for nor did any real life anal. But at home everything gay came rushing back with my enjoyment of porn and fantasies, oral and anal, until it drove me out again looking for the real thing, only to be disappointed in my desires again. But there were half a dozen exceptions, out of over 200 guys, that were really hot, with me having great desire for the guy's cock. But even in those situations, no real life anal desires arose for me. So this discrepancy between porn enjoyment and fantasies and real life gay encounters left me bi-confused.

But when I finally had super great desire for a guy's ass in a bathhouse once, madly tonguefucking his hole for more than an hour before finally giving in to his screaming pleas to fuck him, and finally losing my gay virginity, as a top, everything changed for me. That experience allowed me to get more in touch with the gay side of myself, accepting it, and even loving it. Yes, I was and am bisexual! I stopped all anonymous encounters and have only been getting together for the last 8 years with other guys in each other's homes for oral and anal, and always loving it. I've even French kissed with some guys, and enjoyed it. I've even a couple of times in the last few years checked out a guy's crotch or ass, with his clothes on and in every day life, imagining what it would be like to be naked with him and sucking and fucking him, and having desire to devour his cock and/or ass. Though I still fantasize about it a lot, I still haven't had romantic feelings for a guy in real life. But I'm definitely open to that as well if it happens, especially now that I'm broken up with my girlfriend and a very rocky relationship. If it hadn't been for the pandemic, I think I would have been even further down in my bisexual/gay evolution.

 

To me, it's enough to find relationships with mutual respect and great sex. The whole romance thing is typically an idealized myth that is almost impossible to maintain, and usually involves traditional gender roles. My gf has no interest in being wined and dined and treated like the "weaker sex". She likes good wine and good food, but that is something we both like. She holds her own at construction jobs and with relationships, and is sexually attractive because of her intelligence and strength.

I don't worry about romance. With the right partner, male or female, you naturally do nice things for each other because you respect each other.

 

For me, it was a viable alternative to cheating. Strictly sexual needs. Getting a great bj, was worth giving one back that was just as good or better. My wife was the person who even put the idea in my head. While she couldn't have sex herself, she enjoyed the voyeuristic aspects of watching and words of encouragement. My needs grew to a point where I needed some sexual satisfaction, other than my own hand. With my wifes encouragement and our gay friends endorsement, I ventured into the idea of trying it. When I finally broke down and caved to my horny urges, I discovered that it was so enjoyable, I really didn't care who was sucking my cock. My wife guilted me into returning the favor to our dear friend, who was just as needy as I was. My wife watched on the edge of her seat, the entire time.I also discovered that it wasn't such a terrible thing, in fact I seemed pretty cool to be able to do to someone, just what you like to have done to you. With everyone on board with the program, we continued our little get togethers whenever possible for a couple of years. After him, I discovered another friend, who had the same secret desires for satisfaction. His wife was also in agreement of our solution. He and I picked up the pace and took to it like champs and have been enjoying for while, both alone and with our wives watching. Even after doing it with 2 close men, I have no desires for anything other than making a fair exchange for a good blowjob now and then. I also feel a lot safer in my bi adventures. Having hot emotional sex with a woman would be a dream, but it would probably kill me. I it didn't , my wife would. I can live with my choice.

 

For me being bi-sexual, I will admit looking at my cock & someone elses is a turn on. I love ladies too. So what I'm saying is I really like the veins pop & just gets me all excited & start to drool too lol...

 

For me it started as a way for me to get off. Had guys suck me but never returned the favor. Once I sucked a cock I was hooked. I'm like you though the only think is sexual. Wouldn't kiss a guy but would blow him. It's almost as the guy is detached from his cock taht I love satisfying .