A while back, two of my best friends started experimenting with coke. I don't really agree with it, in fact I hate it, but it's what they want to do and it's not really a concern of mine. They're smart girls, and I figured they'd be smart enough to keep it in control. One of them has kept it in pretty good control. She moved to a new town and she hasn't made a connection there. She tells me she doesn't want to, that way it'll be a treat. The other friend, though, has really gotten into it. I haven't said anything to her about it, partly because I don't believe in preaching people or pushing your values on others, and partly because I don't want to piss her off or seem too "momish." It used to be that her coke habit was a secret between the 3 of us and the guy she got it from. But the other day I went out to lunch with a friend of mine that is by no means friends with either of the girls I'm talking about. Turns out he'd heard from another friend some pretty scary things about this friend related to her snorting coke. I was really suprised and alarmed by this, because if he knows about it, that means that lots of people do. And the only way lots of people would know is if she has gotten way outta control. Then today I ran into a mutal friend of ours. She told me that my friend and her were going to move in together in a few months, but that now they aren't. Turns out this girl says that my friend is way too out of control for them to live together. I can't tell you how much this upsets me. I've always been okay with people experimenting with drugs. What I'm not okay with is people letting them take over their lives, letting them get way outta control. I don't think my friend is an addict just yet. But she definatly has a highly addictive personality. And she hasn't called or stopped by for quite a few weeks. This is also really strange. I know she's stopped playing the guitar again, which is something she really loves to do. So... I'm just worried. She's the smartest, most bright, outgoing girl I've ever met. She may not have her school situation at it's best, but she could really go places. I don't want to see her throw it all away for something like this. So I guess why I'm posting this is to get someone else's opinion before I think about talking to her. I know that because I have such a strong personal moral objection to coke and heroin, that my opinion on how bad this is might be a little distorted. Then again, I really don't want to let it go and three or four months down the road really wish I'd said something while it still wasn't too late. This girl isn't just my best friend. She's one of the closest things to a sister I've ever had. I don't want to loose her. I don't want her to mess up the chances she has at some really great stuff in her life. But mostly I just don't want her to ever be under the control of anything other than herself. So please guys... weigh in on this one. I'd really appreciate it a lot!
talk to her man she might just need some tough loving. if she realises how much it bothers you and she is real close to u she shud try to cut it down. personally i dont find anything rong with recreational coke using but if its developing into a habit then its a time to sort her out....good luck .x
Talk to her. Tell her you're not trying to preach but just how you feel... Drugs are great but once they get a hold of you it's hard to help them lose their grip from ya... Just tell her to chill, smoke a blizz! Good luck...keep us updated on how things go...
thanks guys. i went over to her place last night and we talked about it. she didn't think it was the outta hand, but when i started telling her some of the things I'd heard she really came around. She's not going to stop but she's going to take it a lot slower. She said she just needed to wake up, and now she has. I dunno if she'll actually do any of the things she said she would, but at least I know that someone's finally said something to her to make her not only listen but think about it. that's enough for me i guess.
Thats not good enough dude. Trust me. She knows she has a problem And she knows that by telling you she'll slow it down you'll get off her case for a bit. eep checking in on her. if you stop who knows how badly it will progress before you intervene again. edit: don't even ask me why i revived this. i was just reading haha.
